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    It finally happened! I got a real job! I'm excited because this job is actually the one that is gonna take me straight down the path to my career!
    I start Monday...but I'm scaaaared! I haven't had a real job in a long time, and I'm scared my social anxiety is gonna get the best of me.
    Oh and for the record, I'm not gonna quit dancing until I am 100% secure in my career. which will be like another year or two.

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    Oh lucki that's so exciting!!! congratulations!!! I'm sure it'll work out for ya- don't be skirred!!!

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    congrats!!!!!

    (ps- I got your letter, and sent one back!)

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    Send a little of that good luck my way! I'm eagerly hunting a straight job and there are two in particular that sound wonderful. I'll still dance part-time but it'll be awesome not to NEED to anymore!

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    Congrats! Good luck you'll do great!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lola Rose View Post
    congrats!!!!!

    (ps- I got your letter, and sent one back!)
    Oh ok good, I was wondering if you had got it or not!

    Yek- good luck!!!!! Oh and I sent you a letter too

    Thanks for the good vibes...Imma need them Monday!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckiCharm View Post
    I start Monday...but I'm scaaaared! I haven't had a real job in a long time, and I'm scared my social anxiety is gonna get the best of me.
    Some thoughts......

    1) Everyone is nervous on their first day. So it's not truly social anxiety that your feeling, it's the same thing that 99% of us starting a new job feel.

    2) First impressions count - so smile and be friendly, and people will smile back and be friendly towards you. If you don't smile and let your nervousness get the better of you, you'll be labelled (wrongly) as stand-offish and someone who won't fit in.

    3) Try and learn names quickly. Saying "hey, Bill" or "hey, Judith" will make you fit in a lot quicker than saying "hey, you". If you can't remember their names, apologise and say "I'm sorry, I've forgotten your name - could you remind me". Shows you're trying to learn their name.

    4) Don't be afraid to ask for help. Most people like helping/training new starters, so asking for help, learning, and thanking people with a big smile both gets you up to speed quickly and helps break the ice.

    5) The kettle is your friend. Many offices have a kettle and some cups where someone periodically makes tea and coffee. Volunteer to help early. This provides a good reason for you to show yourself as being helpful, and also lets you meert people in a 'social' as opposed to 'work' atmosphere.

    Also means that when it's someone elses turn to make the tea, someone will come round to you with a cup - further breaking the ice.

    6) Everyone make mistakes in their first few days - it's all new and unfamiliar to us. Own up to your mistakes quickly and ask for help. It's a big mistake to hide things and try and put them right by yourself - because by the you ahve to won up to them, the problem is generally far worse than when you first found it.

    7) I'd have my cover story worked out carefully - saying you're a dancer is pretty guarenteed to gret you gossiped about. What people don't know, they can't talk about.

    And finally, all you've got to fear is fear itself. When you go into work people will want to like you. The only reason they won't is if you let your fears get the better of you. So go in, smile and be friendly.

    A few weeks from now, you'll be wondering why you were so worried.

    Good luck....

    Phil.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil-W View Post
    Some thoughts......

    1) Everyone is nervous on their first day. So it's not truly social anxiety that your feeling, it's the same thing that 99% of us starting a new job feel.

    2) First impressions count - so smile and be friendly, and people will smile back and be friendly towards you. If you don't smile and let your nervousness get the better of you, you'll be labelled (wrongly) as stand-offish and someone who won't fit in.

    3) Try and learn names quickly. Saying "hey, Bill" or "hey, Judith" will make you fit in a lot quicker than saying "hey, you". If you can't remember their names, apologise and say "I'm sorry, I've forgotten your name - could you remind me". Shows you're trying to learn their name.

    4) Don't be afraid to ask for help. Most people like helping/training new starters, so asking for help, learning, and thanking people with a big smile both gets you up to speed quickly and helps break the ice.

    5) The kettle is your friend. Many offices have a kettle and some cups where someone periodically makes tea and coffee. Volunteer to help early. This provides a good reason for you to show yourself as being helpful, and also lets you meert people in a 'social' as opposed to 'work' atmosphere.

    Also means that when it's someone elses turn to make the tea, someone will come round to you with a cup - further breaking the ice.

    6) Everyone make mistakes in their first few days - it's all new and unfamiliar to us. Own up to your mistakes quickly and ask for help. It's a big mistake to hide things and try and put them right by yourself - because by the you ahve to won up to them, the problem is generally far worse than when you first found it.

    7) I'd have my cover story worked out carefully - saying you're a dancer is pretty guarenteed to gret you gossiped about. What people don't know, they can't talk about.

    And finally, all you've got to fear is fear itself. When you go into work people will want to like you. The only reason they won't is if you let your fears get the better of you. So go in, smile and be friendly.

    A few weeks from now, you'll be wondering why you were so worried.

    Good luck....

    Phil.
    Great advice Phil...Thank you!

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    Default Re: I got a real job :)

    ^^^^

    My pleasure - I'm now on my 10th job in 32 years - so I've had a bit of practice starting new ones. (And still get a little nervous myself - it's normal).

    One other bit of advice. Make sure you start out for your job a little early on their first day - means you're sure to get there on time if you get stuck in traffic, etc. And if you do arrive early, you can go round the corner and get a coffee to kill the time.

    You'll be fine.

    Phil.

    PS It's meant to be point 8 in my earlier post but it got translated into an icon. Duh...

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    Show up early!

    Good luck. A tip from my HR manager auntie- superiors love it when they know you WANT to be there, rather than just punching the timecard for the paycheck. Show that you are enthused about the job and it will pay off.

    (PS & Watch out for co-workers- the same kinds of backstabbing that happens in the SC happen in regular jobs, you just don't see it coming as quickly.)

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