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    Has anyone else read "Peace Through Pole Dancing" in the Feb 2008 Playboy?

    Would you be upset at your bf if he read this article to you (assuming you are currenly dancing) because he thought you would find it funny? Why would he think this is funny when I am a dancer and am dating him? Am I treating him like the dancer in the article so he can appreciate "real" women that he will marry in the future? Does this mean he doesn't respect me or see me as a good girlfriend? Am I being way too sensitive?
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    I read it and thought it was fucked up. I will be writing a letter to the editor sometime soon. Ignore it. Do you know who the author was? That looser who played Doug's friend on King of Queens who couldn't get laid.
    Sexy Jasmine after getting fucked over at work:

    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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    Okay now I will go get this magazine

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    I'm curious now. What is the article about?

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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    I read it and thought it was fucked up. I will be writing a letter to the editor sometime soon. Ignore it. Do you know who the author was? That looser who played Doug's friend on King of Queens who couldn't get laid.

    Spence? He was my favorite!!

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    Yeah, if anyone can find a link to the article it would be great. I'd like to read it

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    The article is in the print edition. I doubt it is online yet, although it might be in their pay section. Trust me, its not worth signing up for.

    To make things short, the author of the article humorously suggests to men that if they feel that their relationship with their "civilian" wife isn't going so well, they should try dating a stripper, and once they deal with all of the negative stereotypes associated with strippers (bitchy attitude, drama queen, inability to pay rent, getting in trouble with the law, estranged family, etc.), they can see how much better off they are with the civilian SO, no matter how awful she is.

    The article is meant in jest, but in all honestly, if some of you read it, I think your first instinct would be to light the magazine on fire. I mean FFS, the stripper in the article is named Chivas.

    I would take the content in that spirit, or avoid reading the article if you can't.
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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    I will be writing a letter to the editor sometime soon.
    A general point about Letters to the Editor. Please keep them short; you'll have a better chance of having them published. Do reference the story by date, page number and byline in the first sentence. Do not say anything self-serving or promotional. That's the kiss of death.

    Incidentally, I LOVE getting letters (positive or otherwise), and nearly always publish them. I wish we got more of them, but whatcha gonna do?

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    Yeah wasn't the author also the voice actor from Ratatouille? Or am I thinking someone else?

    But it was totally stereotypical (doc described it very well) and I didn't laugh once. Honestly, I think I AM getting really sensitive to strippers in the media--between the Chris Rock skit that someone just brought up and this article, I'm about ready to flip off the world. Unlike me.


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    I read it. There is a level of writing where the writer has a clever ability with humor but can't go much deeper, and so he uses his ability at the expense of others. Other writers who work with humor (like Vonnegut or Kundera) are able to illuminate something about all of us by making fun of all of us, including themselves--which makes their writing universal. This article was of the first level, I think--a clever writer without much ambition. The writer is a comedian, and maybe stuff like this works on stage--but in writing it just promotes a tired stereotype and does not go much farther.

    Usually Playboy has better humor. I was surprised at this.

    There IS a beautiful pictorial of Irish McCalla, though--a fifties TV star--a beautiful, dynamic looking woman...it looks like her photos were taken yesterday.

    Jenna, I didn't really answer your question. It sounds to me almost as if your boyfriend didn't understand the article. I guess if a girlfriend read an article to me about crazy writers it would depend on her spirit when she did it--if what she read accented some aspect of my personality and we had both joked about it before, I might find it funny; if she meant it as a joke about my profession I would probably be sensitive about it, also. It depends on the spirit in which it was done. Sorry about my long answer!
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    I would be a little agitated if my bf thought it was funny, from what others have said the article is about. Was he just teasing you, or did he genuinely think it was funny?

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    I have a feeling I'm going to be amused by this article...

    *shuffles off to search for Boyfriend's Playboy*

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    I just got my issue in the mail today..hmm..will have to read that first...

    Ok..skimmmed it...are they FUCKING KIDDING? I'll be writing a letter too. Because we are all psycho losers who were molested?? Lovely.

    Considering one of Hefs girlfriends was a stripper...youd think he'd know better

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    Quote Originally Posted by jhuka View Post
    I guess if a girlfriend read an article to me about crazy writers it would depend on her spirit when she did it--if what she read accented some aspect of my personality and we had both joked about it before, I might find it funny; if she meant it as a joke about my profession I would probably be sensitive about it, also. It depends on the spirit in which it was done. Sorry about my long answer!
    It appears that he meant it as a joke on the profession. When I told him I didn't know any strippers like that he said "really?" very seriously. He's a very smart man, and this makes me question whether he knows me at all. We have known each other 3 years and I have danced the entire time, why does he still believe this about dancers?

    Well, at least I'm not the only one offended by the article. For a minute I thought maybe I had lost my sense of humor.
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    oh i haven't read it and i really want to now! can somenody put it up when it's possible?
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    Quote Originally Posted by sexysunny View Post
    oh i haven't read it and i really want to now! can somenody put it up when it's possible?
    ^ not a good idea unless you want Pryce to get sued by Playboy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenna78 View Post
    It appears that he meant it as a joke on the profession. When I told him I didn't know any strippers like that he said "really?" very seriously. He's a very smart man, and this makes me question whether he knows me at all. We have known each other 3 years and I have danced the entire time, why does he still believe this about dancers?

    Well, at least I'm not the only one offended by the article. For a minute I thought maybe I had lost my sense of humor.
    I understand your sensitivity, Jenna. These things get to your identity, so of course you are concerned about them--you want someone who is with you to really know you, and to be on the same page. His reaction makes me think that something else might be going on--that maybe is is bothered now or worried about your profession, and he's trying to find a way to express it. This is a long-distance guess on my part, so it is probably not worth much. I think there is something to be said in a relationship for letting things go, but if you're worried that something more is afoot here a direct but easy conversation will probably solve it.

    But I really understand where you're coming from. Years ago, I was ready to marry a woman--bought the ring and the whole thing--until I realized that she and her family were hoping I would get my writing "out of my system" so that I could live a "normal" life. It was a big lesson for me: most people don't understand that art is a way of life, not something you burn through and get overwith. I was fortunate to find out, but for a long time I was not listening to the more subtle signals: I wanted to believe everything was okay, and so kept putting myself further in that box. I think this is maybe what you're worried about and why this bothers you, so I would bring it forth. You'll find something there, I think, but I'll bet it will be something you can solve together. Good luck with it.
    JK Jim

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