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    My dad passed away on Tuesday while he was at home with me.

    He collapsed while trying to get out of bed (he was a decently large man) and I couldn't help him up. When my mom got home, we still couldn't get him up. At one point he said he needed to catch his breath, lay back down, and stopped responding to us. We called 911 and they worked on him for about 10 minutes before they took him to the hospital, where they worked on him another 10-20 minutes, but they couldn't get his pulse back.

    The coroner said he is very sure it was an acute heart incident, as in a heart attack or he exerted himself too much and blew an artery. They won't be doing an autopsy because there was no sign of foul play, but they're cause of death seems reasonable to me so thats okay.

    My dad was really the backbone of the family. I'm still in shock that he's gone.

    Therefore, I'm 98% sure I will not be dancing anymore for a while. The next week/couple of weeks are going to be the toughest I've ever faced while I come to accept what's happened. If anyone interested in reading an article about my dad and his life, please check it out http://www.timescall.com/news_story.asp?ID=5875.

    so I will probably be absent for a while, but i will try to keep checking in.
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    oh my god. that is HORRIBLE. I'm so so sorry. Good luck sweetie, taking time off work is the natural choice so good for you with that. You'll be in my thoughts, and please do check in once in awhile to let us know yr okay.

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    So sorry for your loss. If he was the "backbone" of the family, then he taught you by his example. You'll carry on, thereby honoring his memory. Take care.

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    I'm sorry for your loss. Your dad sounds like a good guy.

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    I'm so sorry for you loss. My mom died last August, and I took a bunch of time off work after it happened. Take as much time off as you think you need. One of the worst things for me was going back to work and having everyone ask if I was okay. I just wasn't ready to talk about it. Grieving takes time.

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    I'm so sorry honey. If you need anything..remember that we are here for you.

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    I feel very sad for you. Take some time for yourself in the wake of this tragedy, and come back to us when you can. You are always welcome here.
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    That's terrible, I'm so sorry! I know what it's like to lose a parent, it's like the end of the world for a little while. Please check in whenever you feel like and take as much time off from work as you need to take care of yourself.

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    I'm sorry for your loss, hon. Sounds like he was a great man. We're here.

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    Stay strong, sweetie. I am so sorry this happened. We'll be eagerly awaiting your return--when you are ready, of course.

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    I'm so sorry for your loss, hon. Best wishes for peace to you and your family. You have our love.


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    Remember we're here for you. Your dad was a great guy.

    (((HUGS)))

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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

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    I am so very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is everyone's nightmare. I read the article. It sounds like your dad was a really great guy. I hope you two had a good relationship that left you with great memories.

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    I'm very sorry for your loss.

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    It was a real honor to read about your father, PrincessShea--to think of the many, many people he helped, what a successful life he lived and what a legacy he has left for you. I am grateful to hear about him.

    I am so sorry for your loss. I also lost my father, and I know what a great blow it is. I hope that you and your mother and family will be all right, and my thoughts are with you all. Come back to us and let us know how you are when you have a chance.
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm so sorry it happened like that. I hope things turn out alright for you. Stay strong!

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    I am so sorry hon. He sounded like a wonderful man and father. Its never easy losing anyone let alone a cherished parent.

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    I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts, PrincessShea.

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    that is my biggest fear.

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    Please accept my sympathy as you grieve the loss of your beloved father. It sounds like he was one of the people who make the world a better place, and that his was a life well lived. Your community is richer because he was part of it. It sounds like he died quickly and painlessly, surrounded by his loved ones, and that is a good way to end your life. I know you will never stop missing him, but after awhile it will not hurt so much. I held my mother's hand as she died, and it is still hard to think of even after seventeen years, but it is not the BIG hurt that you have now.

    God bless you in your sorrow.

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    Thanks everyone so much for all the kind thoughts and words. Today was spent planning the memorial service for my father and was extremely draining, physically and emotionally. I also spoke with my manager at Oasis and told him that I needed to leave work for a while, and he was very understanding, telling me that if and when I was ready to come back, I was more than welcome.

    My dad really was an amazing person, and I can honestly say that there are so very few people that truly disliked him.

    I asked to speak at his service, because while his commitment to the community and his volunteer service was a big part of who he was, I also want people to hear of the simple man who sat at home making fun of infomercials with me at four in the morning. I think it will help me feel the closure I need right now to bring this all into reality.
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    Stay strong sweetie, the pain of losing a loved one SUCKS to say the least, and will never fully go away. But you WILL get better! Eventually.
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    I'm so sorry for your loss, your in my thoughts sweety, x



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    I will light candles and say prayers. My condolences.

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