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    im watching the view and whoopie goldberg says theres a study out that you can tell what a child is going to be like throughout their life by preschool. basically by then all the personality traits will be in place and show up throughout their life.

    i find this hard to believe. what age is preschool? i was never in it.

    im about to call my mom and ask her what i was like when i was that age.

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    Preschool is about three or four. I think maturity and life experience does have a lot to do with it, but personality and upbringing are pretty distinct at that age. I used to teach preschool and you could already tell who was going to be a take-charge leader type, who'd be a snivelly whiner, who'd be a self-absorbed ass, who'd be a sweetheart, etc. When I think about myself at that age, yeah, I was pretty much who I am now.

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    I can believe it. I dont remember myself at 3/4 years old but the children I do know already have distinct personality types like Yek said.

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    that's bullshit, ask any parent with multiple kids.

    maybe even single kid parents can say differently too but there's just a lesser frame of reference for them.

    i agree with yek that they're dsistinct by that age but hardly "complete". latter-life upbringing (e.g. adolescence), life experiences, society (<--that's a very broad definition btw), etc. all contribute to our "personality".

    are you the same person you were 5-years ago? 10-years? 15-years? etc.

    personalities change as we grow and experience life, good or bad. unfortunately, bad experiences seem to be better motivators ime.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    Preschool is about three or four. I think maturity and life experience does have a lot to do with it, but personality and upbringing are pretty distinct at that age. I used to teach preschool and you could already tell who was going to be a take-charge leader type, who'd be a snivelly whiner, who'd be a self-absorbed ass, who'd be a sweetheart, etc. When I think about myself at that age, yeah, I was pretty much who I am now.
    My mom and I were having a similar discussion about me as a child, and the person I am today just last night. I agree. I am exactly the same (personality wise) as I was as a child.







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    ^^^ What were you like? I was bossy, inquisitive, artistic, opinionated, and I loved to read. Ain't a damn thing changed, LOL!

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    Helpful, mannerable, teacher's pet (no, not a brown-nose but just helpful *smiles*), loved reading, quiet but also a leader. I'm gonna ask my mom some more when she gets home.

    This is a fun thread...

    P.S. I was just looking at some new pics my mom pulled out for me last night. I was about 3-5 and all of my poses and expressions have me looking like I was the "camera ready" type. I also seem pretty flirty, but cute in these pics too. I wish she had a scanner..







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    Hmmm. I have raised two of my own, a boy and a girl. I'm definitely a believer that in part, their personalities are pre-determined by their genes. I think the notion that they are who they are by pre-school though is misleading, although it is by that age that you begin too see some of how they will behave in social settings. That said...

    I really do think people's personalities are a product of their genes and their environment. The problem is, you can't easily tell by looking at the end result what is what. Here is a way to look at it -

    The product of 3 x 4 is 12. Imagine the first number is genetic influence, and the second is environmental influence, and the resulting personality is the product of the two. It is a simplification to make a point. So for example, a child who has a genetic tendency to be aggressive could have that behavior shaped by social training. Likewise a child with a genetic tendency to be meek could be trained to be very aggressive.

    The problem is 4 x 3 is also 12, and 6 x 2, and 1 x 12, and 12 x 1. So looking at a very aggressive child (as an example) it is really hard to know if they are that way due to training, or due to their genetic tendencies. The end result doesn't tell us how much of a factor genes are vs environment.

    To the degree that a person's personality is shaped by environment, their personality could change quite a lot after pre-school. To the degree it is shaped by their genes, I also think you get some sense of what they are likely to be like fairly early in life.

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    Yeah, I was the same.

    I remember one incident from preschool well. A boy teased me and said I still wore diapers. I kept telling him I was a big girl and never wore diapers and he kept teasing me, so I pulled down my pants and showed him my panties!

    I remember sitting in the hallway as punishment and the pastor walked pasted and asked why such a sweet girl was in trouble.

    Another thing at that age.
    We were at my grama's house, and I wanted ice cream. My mom said no for whatever reason, and I kept asking She kept saying no. The women in my family speak in gibberish to eah other as a way to talk privately around the men or the kids. I had picked up the language. So I came out and asked in gibberish if I could have some damn ice cream.
    My mothr was pissed that I had figured out thei secret language. My grama said give me the damn ice cream if I wanted it that bad!

    I'm still the same. Defiant. Outspoken, bold, not shy. Yet people think I'm such a sweet girl who would never do wrong...I was always good at getting my way, and being spoiled. I was the first girl born in the family in my generation, so I was the center of everyone's attention for a long time.

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    ^^^ That reminds me of kindergarten... I used to show the boys my panties in exchange for money or sweets. This one time a boy wanted to see my privates and he offered to show me his in return, and I told him I didn't want to see his ugly privates, I wanted money! I got it too and we had a very educational comparison.

    Future stripper, I guess!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah View Post
    ^^^ What were you like? I was bossy, inquisitive, artistic, opinionated, and I loved to read. Ain't a damn thing changed, LOL!
    LOL Me too! When my mom saw the first Harry Potter, she caled me and said I was just like Hermione. Probably the nicest thing she's ever said. I know that the rest of life has changed me, a lot, but the basic me was there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    Yeah, I was the same.

    I remember one incident from preschool well. A boy teased me and said I still wore diapers. I kept telling him I was a big girl and never wore diapers and he kept teasing me, so I pulled down my pants and showed him my panties!

    This reminds me of when I was in pre-school too. I had a girlfriend (yup lol) and I remember I was playing with blocks not to far from her. She was playing with a toy truck. This boy came over and snatched the truck from her, and she started to cry. So, I jumped up and told him to give it back because she had it first. Well, we start to wrestling and for some reason (I can't remember fully) I must've hurt him pretty bad because I was put in the "hot seat" for the rest of the afternoon

    ie. The hot seat was the time-out.

    P.S. My grandma was not happy with me when she picked me up that day and I was sitting in that hot seat..







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    ^^You go, CK! Boys are mean!

    In kindergarten, we had to get to the toys we wanted first at recess and claim them (really fair, huh?). I could never reach the hippity hop (bouncy ball thing with handles) and had to play with the dumb kitchen set. Eventually I'd just run like hell over to the hippty hop closet and block others from it and make the teacher get it down for me. Tall people are my minions.

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    In preschool, there was this cute Japanese girl who I was in love with! She looked just like a doll... So what did I do? I bit her on the arm! She started crying, so I bit MY OWN ARM and told the teacher that she bit me first! We both got time-outs. Hopefully, I'm not as sneaky now as I was then. But I still love asian women. Oh, and I'm still a biter!

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    i was not in preschool but in kindergarden i would chase the boys on the playground trying to kiss them and they would push me down and i would cry. i also loved to read and hated being told what to do. i was also worried about what others thought of me. so i guess somewhat the same.

    at least the boys dont push me down anymore.

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    Have you seen the 7 Up series, its based on the saying "Give me a child of 7 and Ill show you the man." I LOVE the series. Every 7 years they interview the same people. The British one started in the 1960s and although some of the original people dropped out as adults its great to see how the rest have turned out. They have made them in other countries now too including the USA which I think is up to 21 Up currently.
    I would leave the link to 7 Ups wiki page but I cant copy and paste on this computer.

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    ^^^^


    oh oh! i totally know that study!! ive been meaning to find it again and watch it all. i remember seeing it years ago when i was a kid pretty much, super interesting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    i was not in preschool but in kindergarden i would chase the boys on the playground trying to kiss them and they would push me down and i would cry. i also loved to read and hated being told what to do. i was also worried about what others thought of me. so i guess somewhat the same.

    at least the boys dont push me down anymore.
    I got in some serious trouble in kindergarten for organizing an army of girls that would tackle the sixth grade boys and kiss them. I was basically a little general. I actually worked on strategy and everything.

    Calls were made to my parents. They just thought it was hilarious.

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    When I was in Preschool I made friends with all the foreign or different children because I liked them best. I was always considered the sweetheart because I'd show them around and be generally nice to all foreigners or new kids. I also loved to read then.

    But I was SUCH a pushover. Not so much now.


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    I don't really remember anything from preschool or kindergarten. I just know my parents told me how outgoing and fearless I was, how I'd start conversations with anybody, etc. I don't remember at what point I got so introverted. But the rest of what they tell me and what I remember from the rest of my childhood--making up stories and imagination games, playing school with my brother--is pretty much the same. The original brain, just in a more delicate candy coating.


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    This is really interesting. It brings back the question of whether personality is determined by genetics or life experiences.

    ^ Also MsQwerty, I saw the same series, except I saw the American version where the kids were interviewed at 7, 14 and 21, with the 21 being in 2006. (The final was shown on SBS late last year) So interesting.
    I do remember seeing one particular boy however who was so sweet when they showed him at a younger age but was in prison when he was 21.
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