I think it's good that someone who's been here a while and has the credibility and articulation skills to go with that has re-opened the topic.
Why should getting turned on be some taboo that nobody's alowed to talk about without calling each other names? That sounds like when people thought I was getting laid in middle school before everyone else (I wasn't) and called me a slut, right?
I'm personally a little more relaxed about my personal boundaries than the rules are for quite a few clubs I work in. I figured it out through trial and error, just like others have (and I wouldn't have admitted that if someone else hadn't said it first

). If someone's not yucky, or even *sometimes* if they're yucky and spending enough, it doesn't make me feel dirty or bad to be touched in some places. I'm physically pretty sensitive, to the point where in clubs where grinding is allowed at all, I had to figure out a weird angle that looks and feels to the guy like I'm grinding but actually isn't. So sometimes it physically feels good. (And nobody
ever gets to touch the kitty.)
All that said, I stay within the boundaries of what's normal for the club, even if the club's boundaries are stricter than mine. Like what Grace said, I don't need to be fired, or beat up, or feel like shit about myself. I figured out what I am ok with by stumbling into some clubs with... ahhh... much looser boundaries than I think I could ever learn to deal with, and decided to be a sport and figure out what I could handle, since I was there for the shift anyway.
We can't help our nerve endings. But we damn sure can learn to control our reactions.
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