I was holding off telling one of my roommates that I'm stripping, because a) she's a *very* judgmental person and b) she knows a lot of people in town, and I work with kids, so I don't want it getting around and fucking that up for me.
Still, I felt weird keeping this big secret from her. It's awkward for some other roommates to know but for her to be in the dark. (To avoid confusion, I'll call her T. and the roommate who knows, a gay guy, B.)
So B told me tonight that T had started asking why I was coming home late and how I had cash after I was bitching for so long about not having a job. So I figured, eff it, I'll just tell her rather than make up a web of lies. She and I had been getting along pretty good lately, so it seemed safe. Though in the past, we had clashed a bit.
Well, I told her tonight, and I think it was a mistake. Her demeanor changed right away. She said something like, "That doesn't sound like a fun job." I replied that I am actually enjoying it and that it's not for everybody, and I can't see her doing it. Well, she's overweight, and she took that the wrong way. (I meant I couldn't see her doing it because she's a hardcore Christian and very judgmental and shit, not because of her appearance.) She goes, "Stop talking before I get offended." So I just changed the subject and that was it.
But I can see it's fucked up our dynamic. She's insecure already, and threatened by me. I'm not worried that she's going to tell people -- she's a good person who wouldn't do that since I asked her not to -- but she is going to resent me and it's going to suck to live here.
Any advice on how I can make her feel better / smooth our relationship?



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