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    Default uncomfortable with touching people...need to make better connections w/ custys

    This is a problem that i always had. My family were never touchy feely people, so i often flinch, tighten or jump when people touch me. With this being said,

    What are some ways I can touch a customer to make him comfortable with me?

    Its so funny that ive been dancing for almost 5 years and this is the last thing that i need to overcome before i exit this biz forever. My sales were the best last year than they have ever been, but I still feel like I could appear to be a bit warmer. I'm not big on physical contact, so i never really mastered it.

    It really is weird because once im in the LD, I turn it all on and stroke thier neck and so forth. but i suck at foreplay, lol.
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    Are you talking about when you're trying to sell a lap dance?

    I just get excited about what I'm talking about and tend to touch a person to be like, "oh my gosh...are you with me?" which comes out as though I'm not thinking about it. You can do that and touch them on their thigh, hand, arm. A lot of people have mentioned the book Superflirt. Have you read it? I just ordered a copy. Can't wait to read it.

    What about touching yourself then? Same thing -- talk to them and touch yourself without really thinking about it, the same way some girls twirl their hair.

    Start out by sitting close to them to begin with so that touching them feels more natural.

    I hope this helps. I'm not sure if you mean you want to touch them before a dance starts or as part of your sales tactic. I'd just say try to turn your mind off, so to speak, and talk more with body language. I think warmth comes from a sense of openness, so just make sure your own body is not closed off. Try making some contact with them after the dance is over and they pay you. A little hug or whatever.

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    I put my hand on their hand, or give them a little squeeze on the shoulder, arm, or thigh. It's hard to say whether it really helps or not because it's such a part of my personality that I forget about it and do it without thinking.

    As for private dances, I've found that for all the guys who want something sexual there are more who just want a hug. We live in coldhearted times. If these guys are single, they might not get any affection at all unless they come to the club. Just giving them a little bit of that kind of attention really does wonders.

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    I don't really touch a customer before selling a dance. I do start off with a handshake for every single customer I meet. But as for intimate physical contact before a dance.... i might touch their knee or leg. I grew up in a similarly cold family and find it hard to give away my affection physically during normal social interaction. (lapdances don't count as normal social interaction in my book.)

    I do try to use open body language. Handshakes. Lots of smiling. Sitting forward in my chair. Making sure I don't cross my legs (this closes people out of your space.) I also try not to cross my arms across my body. There are lots of ways you can convey openness in order to sell.

    As for contact during a dance... people crave touch, but they really crave connection. Eye contact is a must. I touch, fondle, and sometimes lightly tug the hair on the back of the head a lot and run my fingertips from the back of the neck to the cheek and towards the lips or down the neck to the chest. I breathe softly in the guy's ear. If a guy's hand is resting on the table when I give a table dance, I sometimes rest my hand on his or lace my fingers into his. There are a lot of ways to touch that are symbolically intimate without being overtly sexually intimate or invading.
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