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    I usually use the line "Do you mind if I sit with you for a minute?" but I'm thinking of using the line "Would you like some company?" instead.

    I like using the "do you mind if I sit with you for a minute?" line because the guy can't say no without looking like an asshole but I wonder if many the "Would you like some company?" line would help me weed out guys who won't spend faster.

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    Default Re: which line works better?

    The second line could be misinterpreted: 'company' going beyond just within the club. Perhaps an extension of the firsat to 'and keep you company'.

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    Thanks, I like that!

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    Default Re: which line works better?

    Normally when I approach a table, I will introduce myself, and then say something to the effect of, "I noticed you sitting here, and was wondering if you're just hanging out, or if you'd like some company?" This gives him a chance to decline without seeming rude, tell me if he is waiting on someone, or to accept if he is truly interested. The last thing I want to do is become a "camper," thereby forcing my company upon someone who has no interest in spending money with me, when I could be finding someone who will."
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    Default Re: which line works better?

    I've used both lines before and don't remember one working out better than the other. When a dancer sits down next to them, guys usually know what time it is. Unless they are totally oblivious cheapasses, of course.

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    Default Re: which line works better?

    Ive always used "Would you like some company?" but I find that "May I join you?" was better for me.

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    Okay this sounds like I'm really rude, but I SWEAR it doesn't come across like that - I stopped asking at all. I think I even read that tip on here somewhere, but I just go up to guys with a really nice smile on my face and as I'm pulling a chair out and sitting I start introducing myself, "hey, are you having a good time? I'm glad you're here, I was getting bored...blah blah blah...what's your name? I'm ____"

    What's funny is when I used to ask to sit, every once in a while the guy would say, "no I'm okay" and now I never hear it and they genuinely like my company. I think it's because when guys hear "would you like some company" or any variation, they start thinking, oh, she wants something, she's going to ask for a dance.
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    ^ you're totally right. try not to ask questions that could give the opportunity to say no. sure, you'll run across those rude guys who will make it clear they dont want you there. i had a guy practically push me off his lap before. oh well.

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    Default Re: which line works better?

    I use both, but in different situations.

    When approaching an older gentleman, I usually say "Would you like some company?" because they are generally on the up and up and know exactly what to expect. It usually works.

    With younger guys I say something like, "can I hang out with y'all?" because if I ask if they want company they invariable say no thanks because it sounds disingenuous to them.

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    I'm with holiday.

    I stopped asking a long time ago and just go straight into my opening line: Having a good time tonight, are you? whether it be one patron or many... naturally I do so with POSITIVE body language and have not had a problem yet.


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    "Mind if I join you?" or "Would you like some company?" sounds much more confiddent than the minute line. People dont usually say "Yes I do mind"! I tend to ask as Im going to sit down, you can heck the guys body languge as you do this also.

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    i introduce myself and feel it out before sitting. if they are uninterested, you'll be able to tell. usually anyone who immediately starts telling you how they "popped in for a drink" or "are just hanging out/chilling" is a waste of your time. i stay standing for the first 30 seconds to a minute of the convo, if things are going well, 9 Xs out of 10 he'll ask you to sit by then. If they seem to be going well, but he hasn't asked me to sit, THEN i will ask if he "minds if i join" him.

    i greatly dislike sitting right away, because it looks akward and it makes the other customers think you were rejected when you get up a minute later. if you stay standing, it looks like you were just chatting/saying hi. it keeps the "flow" going much better.

    if the guy seems uninterested or like a time waster, i say how i'm going to "let him get settled in" or "i'm going to go mingle a bit". that way, if he's just sending the wrong signals, it gives him a chance to ask for me to come back or to ask me to stay. if he really is uninterested, all he has to say is "ok". heh

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    I used to use the ole foot thing at times.

    I would walk up stick my hand out and say "hi i'm Pamela, (shake his hand) i have been on these feet for a few hours and don't want to be rude and go back to the dressing room and rest them, (hold my fot up to show him) and would love to rest them for a few and get to spend time getting to know you.
    It works. I did not have to use it alot. But when you are going after a customer it'd kinda out there, with no open ends.

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    Default Re: which line works better?

    I used to make my living in sales and have taught salesmanship. One important point is to NEVER ask the customer a question that can be answered with a no. So I'd recommend not asking either question, but rather something that gives him a chance to make a choice:

    "Would you rather I joined you now, or should I come back a little later?"
    "Would you like me to sit on this chair or on your lap?"

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    Default Re: which line works better?

    Quote Originally Posted by UtahMike View Post
    I used to make my living in sales and have taught salesmanship. One important point is to NEVER ask the customer a question that can be answered with a no. So I'd recommend not asking either question, but rather something that gives him a chance to make a choice:

    "Would you rather I joined you now, or should I come back a little later?"
    "Would you like me to sit on this chair or on your lap?"

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    Default Re: which line works better?

    Pretty_Penny i introduce myself and feel it out before sitting. if they are uninterested, you'll be able to tell. usually anyone who immediately starts telling you how they "popped in for a drink" or "are just hanging out/chilling" is a waste of your time. i stay standing for the first 30 seconds to a minute of the convo, if things are going well, 9 Xs out of 10 he'll ask you to sit by then. If they seem to be going well, but he hasn't asked me to sit, THEN i will ask if he "minds if i join" him.

    i greatly dislike sitting right away, because it looks akward and it makes the other customers think you were rejected when you get up a minute later. if you stay standing, it looks like you were just chatting/saying hi. it keeps the "flow" going much better.

    if the guy seems uninterested or like a time waster, i say how i'm going to "let him get settled in" or "i'm going to go mingle a bit". that way, if he's just sending the wrong signals, it gives him a chance to ask for me to come back or to ask me to stay. if he really is uninterested, all he has to say is "ok". heh
    Totally Agree.

    UtahMike I used to make my living in sales and have taught salesmanship. One important point is to NEVER ask the customer a question that can be answered with a no. So I'd recommend not asking either question, but rather something that gives him a chance to make a choice:

    ALSO agree...WHEN it's time to make the sell...If he isn't interested...he isn't interested. For me, asking first gives an opportunity to eliminate those who for whatever reason, aren't..and locate someone who is. Maybe he just doesn't want to be bothered right then. He could always change his mind...that's what stage-tipping, and room- working is for. In the meantime, why waste my time, and his?
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    If there's chairs, I don't say anything, I just go right up and sit on the arm of their chair. (I mean...if they wanted to not have that, they should hide out at the bar right?)

    I look at other girls who ask "wanna dance" while standing up (and above them), and girls that sit down in chair next to them. It seems like they get turned down a lot more.


    It's boobies in yr face + conveys urgency, also sitting down in a chair gives them the idea you might like to stay and chat awhile, and also by not looking each other directly square in the eye for the ENTIRE conversation, it's better I think.

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    Either just sit down, or ask in a way that will elicit a yes -- "You're saving this seat for me, right?" or "It's all right if I join you?" If he's really not interested he'll say he's waiting for someone, or just having a drink, or something. But usually after a few sentences it's fine to assume you can sit.

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    I NEVER ask if they want company, etc. I just sit down and assume they'd like company. If a customer comes into the club, he should expect to be approached. I don't want to walk around the club trying not to step on feet and be all polite and demure and whatnot when I was just on stage with the gine-gine and ass on display 15 minutes ago. I mean seriously....

    I'm all for politeness and good manners, etc, but on this one.... I really think it's okay to just sit down and introduce yourself. That's what I do. I'm really friendly and hand-shakey and the friendliness seems to make it okay. If they don't want you there, you should be able to tell in a few sentences or not. Ask if they want a dance anyway, and either do the dance or be on your way.

    Sitting on laps, however.... I'll always ask if it's okay, as that seat for your ass actually belongs to the customer and not the club!
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    Default Re: which line works better?

    paintgoddess beat me to it they are in the strip club, it's part and parcel of being in the strip club. DO NOT GIVE THEM THE OPPORTUNITY TO SAY NO!

    At the same time, unless there is no alternative, I prefer to not sit on anyone's lap as I feel that is a privilege that is reserved for paying customers only.

    I also prefer to not sit on anyone's lap as it can be seen as being rather aggressive and invading personal space.... unless I specifically have inviting someone to do so, I know that is how I feel about it.


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    I never ask either. I'll just pull up a bar stool and say "Hi there! What's your name? I'm so and so... etc." If I sense that he/she does not want my company, I just excuse myself and move on.

    I've never sat on a customers lap. Then again, it's not allowed at my club. (Topless & strict)

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    I introduce myself ask how they are and whether or not they are there for some entertainment before I say "mind if I sit on your lap until the next song?".

    They always say yes, except for once this guy said some bony assed girl was sitting in his lap forever and his leg was numb. I like sitting in their laps because it gives a sense of urgency and it gets them to put down their cig. I don't know if people have leg problems or whatnot so I always ask before I plop down on them.

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    ^^ this works well for clubs here, where lap-sitting is the norm and expected, nut some clubs elsewhere actually forbid it!

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    I just sit down and start talking.

    I always thought it was funny though that DancerWealth, who was always advocating asking yes-only questions, recommended "You don't mind if I sit down, do you?" as the first question out of your mouth when it's a no question.



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    HMMM. I'm going to stop asking tonight. I started out never asking, but my money has been a bit lame recently and I HAVE been asking soooo...


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