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    I have been dancing on and off for quite awhile now, but there is still one situation that I haven't quite figured out how to handle graciously...so I was hoping you girls could help.

    We all know the scenario, dancer flops herself down at some guys table, guy is loathe to be rude, so he offers drink, girl misinterprets this to mean he is interested (or maybe doesn't care, just wants to drink). Although he hasn't spent any money on her, she ends up "camping" at his table for.e.ver. Thereby removing herself from the opportunity to make money, and taking him out of the running for a girl he may truly want to spend his time/money on.

    So now say this girl gets up to go onstage/restroom. You are working the room, and the guy approaches you and requests a dance. He wants to know about "stripper ettiquette," as he's came to the realization that he will not be approached by any more dancers as long as this one girl is at his table. Yet he hasn't quite been able to figure out how to get rid of her without being rude/offending her.

    You take him to the PD area and proceed to give him a few LDs. When you are done, he wants you to come back to his table with him...You do, because you know that by now the girl is somewhere else. But a few minutes later, here she comes, ready to take back what she perceives to have been "her" custie.

    Given this situation, I will usually excuse myself, continue working the room, and wait until either he figures out how to make her see the light, or she finally "gets" it and finds herself another guy, at which point, I'll return to his table.. sometimes he proceeds to spend alot, sometimes only a little...either way the girl will most of the time (irrationally) believe that her money has been cut unfairly.

    This happens ALOT. At our club,we have alot of girls who will sit, and sit, and sit. We also have alot of customers who will complain about it to us. When it does occur, I'll wait, and at the end of the night, in the DR, I will (attempt to) explain that he sought me out, and i did not intentionally "steal" him from her.

    How do you all handle this situation?
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    I don't know if you can, but I will say that if HE calls YOU over, it doesn't matter who else may be at his table. I've had that happen before, when I would be just walking by a table that had a guy sitting with another dancer, and he would flag me down. When HE calls YOU over, feel free to hustle him as hard and obviously as you want. If she doesn't get the hint, then she's sitting there wasting her time, and it should be no skin off your nose. BUT maybe she just honestly doesn't know how to hustle. Maybe she can learn from you.

    And don't ever feel like you have to soothe her hurt feelings in the DR. If she ASKS you, then by all means explain calmly and politely that you meant no disrespect to her, but that he sought you out to ask you for a dance. But by YOU starting the conversation, it makes it sound/look like you feel guilty over it, and there's no need to feel guilty over catering to the customer. That's what you're there for: to make the customers happy.

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    as far as im concerned, when she gets up, if he comes to you, too bad for her. he didnt want her, and you didnt go over. that's not your problem and you arent doing anything wrong at ALL. if she comes back to take him, oh well. he wasnt interested in her.

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    I'm with the other girls... you don't need to explain. Either she'll learn or she won't. This isn't on you.
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    yeah "he called me over" is the only reason we (at my club) are allowed to go sit with someone who has already bought another dancer a drink.

    if that happens, it's not your fault and you have no reason to think you should move on.

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    I call those stupid bitches anchors! You really have to dig into the sand to get their hooks out of your customer!

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    Katrine I call those stupid bitches anchors! You really have to dig into the sand to get their hooks out of your customer
    !***Here's the thing: for the most part, the majority of these girls should know better. This is a club in Myrtle Beach, SC, so during peak season we have TONS of tourists. EXTREMELY high-hustle. Cut-throat. BUT Our club is experiencing its off-season right now, so I think these girls are doing this in a weak attempt to make money...("if I sit here long enough, he may spend," they may think) What they don't realize is that by doing that, they are then limiting themselves, the customer, and other girls...Drives me crazy!
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    I generally don't care about offending someone to make money. It's a strip club, not a tea party with the Queen. I don't go out of my way to intentionally hurt people or cut throat, but I'm at work to make money, not friends - I have plenty of friends.

    Do what you have to do. She needs some schooling in stripper behavior.

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    This happens frequently at my club and it drives me nuts! I'm accused by lazy girls of "stealing customers" in this way. There are even customers that come in and beg me to sit with them so one girl in particular won't. He doesn't give me much money, just a dance with a nice tip, and a "parking fee" for my time not hustling the floor.

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    if he came up to you and wants you then let those two fight it out (the customer and other dancer)
    you didn't do anything wrong
    i usually stay away from guys that girls sit with all night because i think they get used to the attention and want to hang out and not spend as quickly as i like them to

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    I've always handled it the way you just described. I had some crazy drunk bitch all pissed off because some guy that she was camping asked me for a couple dances... which I gave him. It's usually not worth explaining to them if they're going to get all crazy about it. "He didn't want you, he just didn't know how to get rid of you" doesn't exactly go over well.

    Just let the guy know that he needs to tell her (in a nice way) that he'd like some dances from so-and-so instead. When you let them know that it's okay to tell their unwanted stripper to POLITELY move on, they usually do. Or, if she left, it helps to have him sit at a different table with you. I think it helps show that he came to you, not the other way around.
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    Actually my club used to be full of those girls. I called them "barflies". Like they are just at a regular bar scamming drinks, and if they happen to make $20, super. I hated them at the time, but I really miss them now that they've been replaced by hustlers. Oh my beloved barflies - please come home. I have missed you and your slacking ways that left all the money in the room for me. I hate having to actually compete with girls who actually work. I have kept your barstools warm for you, and the "drinking" custies are available and waiting for you. They miss you too. Please come back to us.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Daisa View Post
    ***!***Here's the thing: for the most part, the majority of these girls should know better. This is a club in Myrtle Beach, SC, so during peak season we have TONS of tourists. EXTREMELY high-hustle. Cut-throat. BUT Our club is experiencing its off-season right now, so I think these girls are doing this in a weak attempt to make money...("if I sit here long enough, he may spend," they may think) What they don't realize is that by doing that, they are then limiting themselves, the customer, and other girls...Drives me crazy!
    How about getting the staff involved? If you are a decent tipper, maybe you can get a floor person or manager involved? Mention the situation if a 'camper' is spotted and see if they can get her distracted by attending to something else in the club, or get her on stage sooner? This way the club is responsible and not you or the customer. It is my belief that customers shouldn't have to feel uncomfortable. Would you be inclined to return to a store where you had to tell the sales person to bug off? I wouldn't, I would head to the next nearest store that had what I was looking for and remember to never return to the first one again. The impression I had from the first store made me feel uneasy and I wouldn't return just to avoid that feeling.
    I think the management/staff will appreciate your perceptiveness (is that a word?..lol) and look at you in a different light!? You may become a bigger commodity to the club if you can prevent things like this.

    This is a great topic BTW!

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    ug, I hate this too! At my club it is not just dancers but waitresses as well. They just sit and sit. I hate when the customers call me over to their already camped out table. I sit for a couple minutes then try to hustle a dance, oh but wait- The custy wants me to sit for free. He says that other girl is just sitting with my friend for free, she is so nice. No, she is not nice, she is stupid. And at the end of the night she will be crying in the DR because she didn't make any money.

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    ^Oh yea, I hate when the customers try to "collect" girls like that. I can't remember a single time that I've gotten a dance out of being called over to a table with more than one camped girl already there. Sometimes the girl is just dumb enough to be tricked into camping by Mr. Wanna-be Popularity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Actually my club used to be full of those girls. I called them "barflies". Like they are just at a regular bar scamming drinks, and if they happen to make $20, super. I hated them at the time, but I really miss them now that they've been replaced by hustlers. Oh my beloved barflies - please come home. I have missed you and your slacking ways that left all the money in the room for me. I hate having to actually compete with girls who actually work. I have kept your barstools warm for you, and the "drinking" custies are available and waiting for you. They miss you too. Please come back to us.
    now that you put it that way, bring on the campers/barflies/anchors at least that way you can still get your hustle on when they go on stage
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    In that situation you are making a mistake by leaving the table. The customer ASKED YOU to dance for him, and ASKED YOU to sit with him, so when lil miss camper comes bopping back to the table you shouldn't budge. Except maybe to move closer to him, take his hand, etc, as you see her approach. Better yet, take his hand, give him a nudge and a sly smile and invite him back to the PD or VIP room for some more "alone time". Be sure and motion toward the approaching Camper so he realizes it's time to make his getaway with you before she gets back

    The Camper is just being an idiot and needs to learn when it's time to move on. Not your problem, unless you let her ruin your groove with YOUR paying customer

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    In that situation you are making a mistake by leaving the table. The customer ASKED YOU to dance for him, and ASKED YOU to sit with him, so when lil miss camper comes bopping back to the table you shouldn't budge. Except maybe to move closer to him, take his hand, etc, as you see her approach. Better yet, take his hand, give him a nudge and a sly smile and invite him back to the PD or VIP room for some more "alone time". Be sure and motion toward the approaching Camper so he realizes it's time to make his getaway with you before she gets back
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    Where I work, it's possible that the girl would sit down anyway, regardless of whether I was there or not.

    I usually use other girls sitting down as my opportunity to get away and find new guys after I've gotten a drink or 2 (we have to sell at least 5 drinks), but don't feel as though the dude wants a dance. However, it's dif in your case cuz the guy specifically asked for you to sit down. I usually say something (after maybe 2 songs) along the lines of, "Well, it's been great talking to you. Thank you for the drink. I'll let you enjoy each others company for awhile!!"

    Hrm...that sounded bad...when I do actually say it, I forget what exactly I say, but it comes across as nice...not mean or vindictive.

    In your situation, though, I think you have every right to stay with the custie. Who's to even say that you KNEW she was sitting with him? Therefore, it's fair game.

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