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    what do you tell random people when they ask you where you work?

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    Default Re: lying about your job

    Replied on the newbie board. You only really need to post the thread in one forum you might get more response.

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    awesome

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    No worries. If you have loadsa questions, at the top of each forum are 'stickies' they are full of good advice and will probably answer loads of the more general stuff. They should give you plenty to read to get you started.

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    I think I'm just going to stay non-specific and say "oh, y'know.....just a bar..." . I'm going to be working in the next town over so I don't think there's much chance my friends will be wanting to visit at work lol

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    Nowadays, I don't dance but I *do* cocktail waitress at a strip club alongside my full-time "real" job. Of course I don't tell my family or relatives LOL. I just tell them that I waitress and bartend at a bar down in the city. If they ask specifically, I will throw in the name of a little-known neighborhood corner bar (non go-go) that I used to bartend at. Or I will throw in the name of a bar that my buddies and I frequent not too far from my club.

    If my friends ask where I work, I tell them...but I tend to emphasize that I don't dance, since most of these people are the same people who I hid dancing from in the past. If they don't ask which specific bar I work at, I will outright tell some where I work; but for others, I will be vague and not mention the name of my club. I guess it just depends on how well I know the person and the vibes that I get from them.

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    Now back when I was a full-time dancer seeking a "real" job, I told my close friends and a few others about it but to be honest I kinda regret telling even some of those people. Some of these people used it against me later on, or they later made really rude, snotty comments about it later in time when I was mad at them for something(e.g., "Well excuuuuse me for not wanting to work at some skanky divey strip joint"). I hid dancing from my overly strict family like it was the plague. I told them that I waitressed or bartended downtown, and I threw in names of some real places that I would frequent if they asked. I lived a good hour or so away from them, so they weren't able to keep check on me, and they didn't know of the bars in my city.

    At first when I started dancing, I was proud to tell people my age what I did, because even dancing(with all its stigmas) looked a LOT better than being a min wage retail worker with a college education making <$200/week(sadly, that's what I did before stripping). Telling people that I was a dancer was an indirect way for me to gloat about how much better I was doing from my previous poverty days(I LOVE the whole "success is the best revenge" thing!). It was also a great way to rub it in to all the guys who'd previously rejected me, about how "hot" everyone else apparently found me now(again, going back to the "success is the best revenge"), since I was able to make a good living off my looks and body.

    After a while though, telling people that I was a dancer got really really old. Guys started to assume that because I stripped, that I never went to college or that I didn't have any other career or life goals...not true. (However, even MORE guys assumed that I was uneducated when I was working dead-end retail jobs than when I was dancing. So being a dancer was an improvement, but still not great) That got on my nerves, so I started telling guys that I either bartended at a club, and/or worked a full time job in finance, the field that I actually WANTED to be working in. Surprisingly, most guys believed it...probably because I knew so much about credit and loan products. Thankfully they didn't probe too many questions about my job though...I felt REALLY bad lying to people...BUT my lies helped me to realize how unhappy I was in my job, so I got that extra "push" to fight even harder to find that "real" job I was seeking...so in the end I turned my lies into the truth somewhat.

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    Default Re: lying about your job

    but as i mentioned int he newbie thread of this same name, its hard to fill in the gaps on your cv when in search of that so called real job.

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    ^ Try volunteering for either a good cause or something that interests you. I had that problem of "arrested development" when I was dancing full-time but seeking a better job. Luckily, I had a friend who was very involved in political campaigns in my city(he's a fellow SWer, with the screenname Revolution...but he's rarely on SW these days). He encouraged me to help out with canvassing, phone banking, and data entry for a candidate's campaign. The basic office skills that I employed during my volunteer work helped me to land a basic office job, where I learned a lot more invaluable office skills, obtained office experience, and was able to move up to the current job that I have now.

    Here's some more suggestions:
    - tutoring, if you're in college or if you were good at a particular school subject (I tutored math all through college and a little bit afterwards)
    - take some courses at community college or a technical school -- these places usually have internship placement services to help you find another job
    - get a part-time job at a place like Starbucks, just to get healthcare benefits and to have something to say you do
    - try getting an entry-level position(data entry clerk, receptionist, etc) at a temp agency -- some agencies such as Kelly will hire you if you don't have prior office experience
    - try asking your club's manager if they have any open positions for cocktail waitress or bartender, work that job, then use that experience on a resume to get a cocktailing or bartending job somewhere else. A lot of strip club bartenders started out as dancers. HOWEVER, I've also seen the reverse happen too: sometimes when people know you as a dancer, they will always see you as a dancer and they'll be less likely to consider you for bartender or waitress.

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    NOTE: Yeah it sucks that sometimes you gotta start at the bottom(volunteering, Starbucks, etc). Sometimes it's all about "putting in the time." That's why it sucks to be a "full time stripper" if you have other career goals for the future. If you have any prior work experience in a field(e.g., you want to waitress and you used to do it before), then by all means put that on your job app and explain the gap by saying that you took courses or travelled(it's a lie I know).

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    no one really asks but i'm not ashamed of it, i live in vegas though so it's very normal for 5 out of 7 girls to be strippers

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