what do you tell random people when they ask you where you work?



what do you tell random people when they ask you where you work?
Anything you want to tell them. It would depend if you wanted people to know what you do ( some people can be very prejudiced) you could always say you are in sales.![]()
There's a thread on this topic in the section Stripping (General)
I always had other things going on in my life (other jobs or I was taking classes), so I would just mention those other things.
but what about a huge gap in your CV from doing it. Is there apositive and fairly truthful spin on this?!!
Okay I already wrote my response to this question in the Stripping(General) thread, but I will add here what I would say to a RANDOM person:
* Back when I was dancing, I probably woulda told a random person(i.e., someone in a store, a friend of an acquaintence, someone I just met, etc) something like waitressing or bartending...or I woulda beat around the bush. I probably would have told them the same lie I told my parents, which was that I was waitressing at a bar and another restaurant downtown.
I hid dancing from most people except either my close friends or people who I wanted to show off to. For example, guys who had snubbed me before because I didn't make a "respectable income" at my min wage retail job despite having attended college and working jobs since middle school...I felt some satisfaction in showing off how much better I was doing financially, and dancing did that for me. Also, I liked telling guys who'd previously rejected me that I was a dancer, because if I was able to make a good income off dancing, then obviously a lot of guys "wanted" me or thought I was "hot"...this just served to further rub in the fact that I'd changed my appearance and went from slightly-geeky-girl-next-door to "really hot."
* Now that I don't dance but I cocktail waitress, I will (when asked) mention that I am a cocktail waitress but I do not normally tell them that it is at a go-go bar. I only tell them if I get good vibes from them or if they know my club well. If they specifically ask, I will usually tell them, since the ONLY people that I really hide my go-go bar waitressing from is my family/relatives.
Hmmm I wouldn't mention dancing on a CV. I agree with Vivacious, about keeping other things going on in your life so that you don't have a big gaping hole in your resume if you omit dancing from it. Volunteer for the local political campaign, volunteer for the red cross, work part-time at Starbucks just for the health benefits and work reference, go back to school while stripping, etc.
The only jobs that I would ever mention stripping to, *might* be some of the bartending or cocktail waitressing jobs, if you have no bartending experience but want to show that you've worked in a bar environment before. But even then, I wouldn't tell a mom-n-pop run bar that I was a stripper...nah. I would only reserve my stripping story for a bar that is a go-go bar, or a bar that is run by the type of pervy male manager that might like hearing about that. I remember I got a bartending job one time, in part because I impressed the pervy manager by wearing a cleavage-bearing halter top and admitting that I had a lot of bar experience from the time I'd spent dancing.
But then again, sometimes this also works to your DISADVANTAGE. For example, I found that the same manager who was so quick to hire me, didn't seem to take me very seriously...probably because he saw me as a "former stripper bimbo." Another time when I went to a dive strip club to apply for a bartending job, the somewhat sleazy manager tried to con me into thinking that if I danced, I would be more likely to "someday" get a bartending job...um hello, didn't you hear me when I said that I was "done with dancing? And did you really think I'd believe that crap about dancing helping me become a bartender?...I bet you just want to see me get naked. And when I took on a cocktailing job at one upscale strip club, all the snobby waitresses turned their nose up when I admitted that I used to dance. Same thing happened AGAIN, where the manager started asking -- before I even started my training on my first day of work -- if I would be interested in dancing instead.I was thinking, "Hello, didn't you hear me before when I said that I was completely done with dancing PERMANENTLY and I MEAN that?" But of course I was too polite to actually tell her what I thought of dancing...after all, this was a club where some strippers would KILL to be able to dance at. So even in strip club settings, it can be a bad idea to admit that you were a dancer, because then people will ALWAYS see you as a dancer, no matter how good of a server you are or how much you're trying to put dancing behind you.





I tell them I'm a bartender downtown or I work at Victoria's Secret... Hell, I used to work there anyway. It just depends on who asks.
Anything online is fair game (web designer/ebay seller), waitress/barback/hostess/cocktail waitress/door girl, house/pet/baby sitter, makeup artist, etc. etc.
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