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    Default Ladies, what do I say?

    to such a direct question?

    Dancer X walks up to me, "I see you in here a lot and see all these other girls go in the back with you...when is it gonna be my turn?"

    Answer I gave, something like "yeah, you know I don't have a regular, your time will come." A little while after that, she didn't work there any more, and the issue went away.

    But the honest answer, I would never give was: "because I don't consider you attractive enough for a private...marginally attractive enough to go to your stage and tip (which I do)."

    So, can I do any better than I did, given the honest answer?

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    Default Re: Ladies, what do I say?

    Sheesh man, I'd tell you to "do a search" but there's no "searching" when it's right on the front page.



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    Default Re: Ladies, what do I say?

    Thank you for the links. However, they are not quite on point, which is why I posted something new. I learned how to handle the general "wanna dance?" approach long ago, probably my 2nd time in a club.

    My question is, when you're a club regular who has seen this girl a lot just "around the club" and expect to see her a lot more, and the gist of her question (it may even have been the exact words, it was a few months back), is, "I see you dance with all these other girls but never me -- why not?", is there any good answer to that?

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    Default Re: Ladies, what do I say?

    I'm sorry sweetie. Your really pretty, but just not my type.
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    Not sure. Whenever the mood strikes. I'll make sure to find you if I decide to.

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    WTF is the difference? The answers suggested in the other thread are the same answers you can use. Turning a dancer down is turning a dancer down. I think it's just early in the morning and no sc's are open, so you need some attention from us on here. It's cool, just say so. jk.

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    Do you just enjoy showing off your mean thoughts about dancers here? I always wonder that about guys who are all "but my reason for saying no is different" or "I have extremely unique circumstances in turning down a dance that cannot possibly be addressed in the myriad of posts on the subjects or by my own sense of courtesy." Like you obviously just wanted to log on here and inform us that there is a dancer you have passed a negative judgment on. I shall consult with Jay and FBR. This topic might require its own thread that you guys can use. In the meantime, for your "I need to rag on a dancer" pleasure, may I suggest the blue side?
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    ^ Yeah, seriously.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman View Post
    Thank you for the links. However, they are not quite on point
    As in, penned by you, right?

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    I like it when a guy tells me that I'm not his "type" for a specific reason - like he doesn't like blondes, or he likes thicker girls, stuff like that, and even if he's lying, I never get my feelings hurt. Anyway, the OP's previous threads have indicated that he is pretty douchbaggy, but those are my thoughts.
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    Quote Originally Posted by holiday View Post
    he is pretty douchbaggy
    Oh great. I spend most of my life as the "nice guy", and now move right to "douchebag" without spending any time at "edgy".

    Not fair.

    *pouts*

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Do you just enjoy showing off your mean thoughts about dancers here? I always wonder that about guys who are all "but my reason for saying no is different" or "I have extremely unique circumstances in turning down a dance that cannot possibly be addressed in the myriad of posts on the subjects or by my own sense of courtesy." Like you obviously just wanted to log on here and inform us that there is a dancer you have passed a negative judgment on. I shall consult with Jay and FBR. This topic might require its own thread that you guys can use. In the meantime, for your "I need to rag on a dancer" pleasure, may I suggest the blue side?
    yeah. it kind of irritates me when the majority of the guys posts are "what do i do if i don't find her attractive" or "so theres this one dancer who keeps talking to me".

    who comes to an internet message board just to do that?

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    Default Re: Ladies, what do I say?

    Just say "I choose who I get dances with thanks".

    I dont get girls who ask questions like that, I would never embarrass myself like that. But some girls just don't get it that they are not everyone's type.
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    Default Re: Ladies, what do I say?

    Wait, aren't you the same guy who has posted at least two threads about how you have strippers all figured out? You are. If you figured us all out, then I would expect you to be able to figure it out on your own.

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...d.php?t=106359

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...d.php?t=106288

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    And didn't you say in another thread that most of us will "fuck the bouncer, bartender, manager, whatever [non-customer] is the club?"

    Yeah... You're a real nice guy. A regular prince charming. I think an actual nice guy would know how offensive that is and refrain from saying it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elvia View Post
    And didn't you say in another thread that most of us will "fuck the bouncer, bartender, manager, whatever [non-customer] is the club?"

    Yeah... You're a real nice guy. A regular prince charming. I think an actual nice guy would know how offensive that is and refrain from saying it.
    Is there anyway everyman's 3 threads can be combined into one sort of super thread..."what everyman has learned about strippers" ???
    Mods? Just for ease of reference, one stop entertainment kind of thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Everyman View Post
    to such a direct question?

    Dancer X walks up to me, "I see you in here a lot and see all these other girls go in the back with you...when is it gonna be my turn?"

    Answer I gave, something like "yeah, you know I don't have a regular, your time will come." A little while after that, she didn't work there any more, and the issue went away.

    But the honest answer, I would never give was: "because I don't consider you attractive enough for a private...marginally attractive enough to go to your stage and tip (which I do)."

    So, can I do any better than I did, given the honest answer?
    How about "you are not my type, but thanks for asking" or something polite, truthful and direct to that effect.

    One thing you can't do if you are a regular in a club is go along visit after visit without occasionally (or frequently!) having to reject a dancer. It's OK, it's her job to ask no matter how she phrases it. If you don't want a dance just tell her you don't want a dance. If it hurts her, bugs her or just plain pisses her off it will pass, unless you were rude to her, it's really not your problem how she reacts to the rejection.

    I would avoid your brutally honest answer as it is just plain hurtful and unnecessary.
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    Default Re: Ladies, what do I say?

    Would it be fair to suggest that despite how the OP's previous postings may have rubbed some the wrong way, that the stated topic here is a valid one, and that for information purposes, it might just be better to give a valid answer, than deride the OP for his previous postings. You know that way, when we give the next problem poster the obligatory "use the search function asshole!" line, they can come here and actually read something worth searching for?


    In any case, it does make me chuckle a bit when this topic comes up and so many of us tell the customer to be "honest and polite" in turning a dancer down, while on the board immediately above this one, dancers are more or less asking how to phrase their hustle to provoke the very deer in headlights reaction as the OP is describing. I just love this place sometimes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    Would it be fair to suggest that despite how the OP's previous postings may have rubbed some the wrong way, that the stated topic here is a valid one, and that for information purposes, it might just be better to give a valid answer, than deride the OP for his previous postings. You know that way, when we give the next problem poster the obligatory "use the search function asshole!" line, they can come here and actually read something worth searching for?


    In any case, it does make me chuckle a bit when this topic comes up and so many of us tell the customer to be "honest and polite" in turning a dancer down, while in the thread immediately above this one, dancers are more or less asking how to phrase their hustle to provoke the very deer in headlights reaction as the OP is describing. I just love this place sometimes.
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    ^^^
    I'm not sure they are such good points. I mean, for example, why this:

    But the honest answer, I would never give was: "because I don't consider you attractive enough for a private...marginally attractive enough to go to your stage and tip (which I do)."

    I mean, it is completely unnecessary. I submit that the point of the post was just to be able to write that line down and share it with us. Which he got to, and everyone reacted to it and called him a douche. So really everyone is happy, including the OP. He got to share his derision for a local dancer; the girls got to be derisive to him... and these are the days of our lives.
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    ^^ hmmmm....douchebag self-identification could be a helpful thing to members in general. And just playing devil's advocate for a moment, overcoming customer objections to lap dances through technique is of interest to dancers with respect to their hustle right? Though, come to think of it, that would only apply to honestly stated objections...not hidden ones.

    Maybe I should just shorten this to hmmmmmm...I don't know.
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    Well, it didn't sound like he had a real question. He said something, she went away. He just wanted to share his "honest" answer and... what? Ask for something that was closer to it? Like "how can I be as close to horrible as possible? Because simply saying "no thanks" or "some other time" and having it be effective isn't good enough for me? I would prefer that she really know how unattractive I find her?" Like he wasn't really asking anything.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Well, it didn't sound like he had a real question. He said something, she went away. He just wanted to share his "honest" answer and... what? Ask for something that was closer to it? Like "how can I be as close to horrible as possible? Because simply saying "no thanks" or "some other time" and having it be effective isn't good enough for me? I would prefer that she really know how unattractive I find her?" Like he wasn't really asking anything.
    Well Jenny, when you're right...you're right. I can't disagree with anything you've said here.
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    I've turned down numerous dancers for privates. Sure, some of them I don't find attractive, but many, if not most, I do. The reason? It's been my experience the dancers who ask me if I want a private dance are those I obviously really liked, tipped well, spoke with, smiled as I gazed upon their beauty, etc. At least until I finally accepted one, and it turned out great, I always thought it would be a lot of money spent in a few minutes, and I was there for a couple of hours, not a few minutes. It surprises me to read that many dancers automatically think the guy isn't attracted to you when he turns down a private, rather than he's just trying to conserve his money a little bit.

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    Sheesh man, I'd tell you to "do a search" but there's no "searching" when it's right on the front page.



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    I like you more and more!




    As to the OP, sir, piss up a jumprope. Are you retarded? How about just saying NO. Christ, it's SuperCecil all over again. Dude, ever toss gum at a stripper? If so, you have a twin out there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Well, it didn't sound like he had a real question. He said something, she went away. He just wanted to share his "honest" answer and... what? Ask for something that was closer to it? Like "how can I be as close to horrible as possible? Because simply saying "no thanks" or "some other time" and having it be effective isn't good enough for me? I would prefer that she really know how unattractive I find her?" Like he wasn't really asking anything.
    OK, for that awesome answer i forgive you for the Tiger dust-up...

    hehe...

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