Is it or is it not cool to hang out with an ex while still having a boyfriend?
No, I wouldn't do this behind his back. (never been in this position)
Is it or is it not cool to hang out with an ex while still having a boyfriend?
No, I wouldn't do this behind his back. (never been in this position)
yes, that is what I thought. I think it would be inappropriate if they still like me.
I got one ex telling me he wants to hang out, and another telling me he wants to see me before he flies out of the country for a few months.
ex#1 I think still misses having sex with me
ex#2 I know is still in love with me
I'm not sure what to tell these guys.
I think a lot of it depends on what was discussed between you and your current boyfriend.
I've been in past relationships were my SO's were not cool with me being friends with ex's. On the other hand, there have been a couple of SO's (at the time) who didn't mind at all.
Now if your current boyfriend wasn't okay with it, I probably wouldn't. If the tables were turned, and let's say I wasn't okay with it... we are going to have a problem!
A friend of mine is really good friends with all her ex's. They hang out and talk on the phone on a regular basis. Mind you, she is married. Her husband is not okay with this, but she does it anyway.
It depends. I am good friends with a serious boyfriend I had years ago. He comes to Vegas and vists me once a year, I go home and visit him when I can. Last time I went back to visit him, I spent the night with him. My boyfriend knew what I was doing every step of the way.
The dangerous thing in my situation is that although I no longer have feeligns for this guy, we have an immense sexual energy together that is hard to control. However, I would never cheat on my boyfriend or lie to him, so when I had to spend the night with this guy and was starting to feel my panties get wet, I called my boyfriend and told him so. And we talked and I got myself under control and life was good.
My boyfriend also remains in contact with some of his ex's although he was never involved in anything serious.
So in our case, with a lot of hnestly, communication and trust, yeah, it's ok.




I wouldn't do it if I were dating someone. I'd hate for my man to try and do the same.





I am friends with all my ex's but one. But one of them I can't talk to other than the last call we had, because her SO would not be pleased. I don't blame the guy at all, and have no intention of pushing it.
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I'm very leery of people, men or women, who announce, "I don't stay in touch with ANY of my exs." That's a big red warning sign in my experience. Maybe there's a difference between keeping in periodic touch and "hanging out" with an ex, but you get my point.
Now while I'd like a current SO to understand my desire to stay in contact with some of my exs, I'd probably respect her wishes, unless these were conveyed in a psycho and jealous way. That's another red flag, by the way.





it doesnt matter what we think. it matters what your boyfriend thinks. you know? you could have 500 people tell you its cool, no biggie, but if your boyfriend cares, he's the one you have to deal with.
I've been thinking about this all day. Its really interesting for me because I've always kept in touch and on pretty good terms with my ex's until now. I think part of that was because they are an easy lay when i'm single
Now that i'm married its just kind of changed that dynamic.
What really stumps me is where my displeasure of his ex comes from. Specifically one girl, i wouldn't be happy if he hung out with her. They were together for 6 years, from what he's told me it was often ugly and i guess because i know he was hurt by her i just instinctively hate her? I'm not really the jealous type by nature, i wouldn't mind if my husband had sex with another woman but i wouldn't want him to have lunch with this one girl.
I think part of me not keeping in touch with my exes now is because i feel like if i don't he won't. And if i do it opens up the door for him to see her and i don't want that.
/ramble
Ive always hung out with my exs and remained friends with all but one - one is a best friend also. So what you think is right, if you think sex is an issue or emotions are then make your boundaries clear. My new boyfriends have always got on with the old ones too, eeryones cool (-:
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