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    Lightbulb How do you deal with non-stripper jealously as a result of your job?

    Over the time I've been dancing which is almost two years, I've noticed moreso then before when I wasnt a dancer ,how some women outside the industry tend to blatantly discriminate or hate on you for no reason for instance get immediately cold if your in their presence, dirty looks, gossip , backstabbing etc. in the general public setting.Maybe that extra sexual confidence makes them feel uncomfortable, but I just curious to know how other dancer's deal with these situations on a reguarly basis and the best way to handle these attitudes when they arise?

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    I would just make a mental note to ignore the bitches, personally.

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    I don't run into that situation very often at all, mostly because what i do is nobody's business, and I don't share my job information with many people, only those I am close with and know will not judge me.

    If I am judged, well..that's their problem, not mine. So I walk away.

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    I don't bother spending time around people like that. Not worth my time.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with non-stripper jealously as a result of your job?

    They think that because you are a stripper, you are going to try to steal thier boyfriend. If they only knew how far from he truth that is! Ignore the haters!

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    Default Re: How do you deal with non-stripper jealously as a result of your job?

    Yeah I deal with that...I'm not trying to compete with non-stripper girlfriends but they always feel they have to compete or be intimidated by me. Jeez...

    Mostly it's insecurity on their part...

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    People who put you down to make themselves feel better are terribly insecure. It's more of a reflection of them than it is on you. It's best to ignore them.

    Like I always say, when the haters hate, you must be doing something right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    I don't run into that situation very often at all, mostly because what i do is nobody's business, and I don't share my job information with many people, only those I am close with and know will not judge me.
    Word... It's obvious that most people have assumptions about adult entertainers so to save myself the aggravation of dealing with other's ignorance, I just kept my job to myself.

    People didn't find out about my job unless I knew them for a little bit and felt comfortable and accepted by them. When i did tell them i was an entertainer, the typical response I got was, "but you don't look/act like a stripper!?!"

    Those who disapproved, felt threatened, or changed thier opinion about me after finding out I danced, were smart (or at least courteous) enough to STFU.

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    Default Re: How do you deal with non-stripper jealously as a result of your job?

    I don't tell anyone unless I am close with them and I don't have many friends.. so no issues here.


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    Default Re: How do you deal with non-stripper jealously as a result of your job?

    some girls are just plain competitive, which i think means insecure. Last night my boyf and i went out for his birthday, and at the beginning of the night he said ''babe, please try and not dance like a stripper in here tonight'' and then later i was dancing on the table (not being a stripper everybody was doing it) and some girls really obviously were trying to 'out do' me (unsuccessfully cuz i'm so hot and confident when i dance heehee) and my boyfriend starts shouting up at me ''right babe show those bitches what you've got, i don't give a shit, start dancing dirty!'' haha funny... boys get in on the competitivness between girls too!
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    I don't go out of my way to tell everyone, but when the subject does come up "so...what do you do?" I am honest. I really don't care what "non-strippers" think, especially acquaintances I meet at bars, etc. I do have a story to share with you regarding this subject, though....
    What sucks is, the ONE "non-stripper" female in the whole entire world that I did care alot about knowing, found out. I was devastated. It was my husband's best friend's wife. She's pretty feminist and insecure and I knew for a fact she didn't like strippers (I'd overheard her talking about it once when we were out, prior to this whole ordeal)
    Well, a mutual "friend" of ours came into the club one night and "found me out" Of course, he ran and told her and everyone else.
    What sucks is since then, I am not allowed to hang out at their house, and I am never invited out when she's going to be there. My husband's best friend will call and invite HIM out to shows, bars, get togethers, etc...but like I said only HE is welcome, not me. Being the man that he is, he won't go and leave me out. He says I am his wife and I come first, and fuck them. I just feel bad that something like me dancing for a living will never allow their relationship to be normal again. Well, at least until he divorces her miserable ass.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylinn View Post
    I don't run into that situation very often at all, mostly because what i do is nobody's business, and I don't share my job information with many people, only those I am close with and know will not judge me.

    If I am judged, well..that's their problem, not mine. So I walk away.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CherryBomb954 View Post
    I don't go out of my way to tell everyone, but when the subject does come up "so...what do you do?" I am honest. I really don't care what "non-strippers" think, especially acquaintances I meet at bars, etc. I do have a story to share with you regarding this subject, though....
    What sucks is, the ONE "non-stripper" female in the whole entire world that I did care alot about knowing, found out. I was devastated. It was my husband's best friend's wife. She's pretty feminist and insecure and I knew for a fact she didn't like strippers (I'd overheard her talking about it once when we were out, prior to this whole ordeal)
    Well, a mutual "friend" of ours came into the club one night and "found me out" Of course, he ran and told her and everyone else.
    What sucks is since then, I am not allowed to hang out at their house, and I am never invited out when she's going to be there. My husband's best friend will call and invite HIM out to shows, bars, get togethers, etc...but like I said only HE is welcome, not me. Being the man that he is, he won't go and leave me out. He says I am his wife and I come first, and fuck them. I just feel bad that something like me dancing for a living will never allow their relationship to be normal again. Well, at least until he divorces her miserable ass.
    What a dumb bitch. Obviously you're going to seduce her husband right in front of your own.

    The only person I care about knowing really is my sister in law. She talked about how my mom was such a bag parent when I was 14 or 15 and reading seventeen magazine and shit like that because they talkeed about STD's. Because obviously knowing how to protect myself would turn me into a raging nympho (I was but thats besides the point ). I don't want to know what she'd have to say about me being a stripper and she'd probably make my poor mom miserable.


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    It really sucks that our jobs are what define us to certain people. It's like once we become dancers our whole demeanor changes in other people's eyes. Unfortunately there's not much we can do about it. I never tell people what I do because they hate and discriminate. I always tell people I'm a waitress. It's not that I'm ashamed of what I do but I know all too well how I will be treated if I say that I am a dancer.

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    I get tired of telling people I'm a stripper because I feel like they either expect me to be a diseased, stupid whore OR I feel like I am "on" once they know. Sorry, but I hate to feel "on" in my real life. I'm only impressive at work. In my real life? Not so much.

    As for jealousy, I don't give a shit. It makes me feel great that someone would be jealous of me because of my occupation choice. They're just pissed because they're too out of shape or insecure to get an audition and do it for themselves. I like to believe that secretly all of the haters would love to walk in our platforms, see what we see, and do what we do. They're just to scared to do it themselves so they opt for hating what they don't understand. Not my problem.
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    Default Re: How do you deal with non-stripper jealously as a result of your job?

    I have one super insecure friend who will make little catty comments here and there. She'll be like, "I'm hot, but not stripper hot. There's a difference, I don't care what you say". She'll say it loudly around random people to make herself feel better, also because she knows that it's something I keep quiet (b/c of my corporate job/ in laws.) It annoys the hell out of me & I want to smack her when she gets all bitchy like that. The last time she did that I told her that it's not my job in life to make her feel better about myself.
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