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    I recently lost my job since my club was sold, and I was so scared as to what that meant. I was assured that the club would not stay closed very long, but it's pushing a month. My savings, which had taken a hit from Christmas as is, is slowly being whittled away from rent, student loan payments, groceries,and other essentials. It smacked me in the face last night. I was told that the club will hopefully open on February 1st, but I drove past the club, and the old sign is still up.

    The other club is town is not an option. Boyfriend refuses to let me work there (and before you get on me, keep in mind I'm a lifestyle submissive to him, and apart of that relationship is he can dictate where I go. Don't jump on it, it's just how things are for us.) on the grounds that the lapdance room is supposedly not supervised by bouncers. I was turned down for a job at the new club out in the boonies (which may have been a blessing in disguise. The girls there make maybe $100 on a weekend night.) The next club, which is a fairly big club, after that is an hour away, and I don't drive.

    I got job applications from Petco, Starbucks, Hot Topic, and Target. I wanted to cry as I looked at them on my coffee table. I'm not lazy, I just...loved my job so much.

    I need a hug.

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    Default Re: Never Thought I'd Deal With This

    for you.
    So does this mean that the club will eventually open back up? Or no?
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    It will. It's just when? I don't know. It's not exactly uncommon for a club to be bought and take months to reopen. I can't wait that long. I might be able to get a job in PGH since a girl I danced with is become Asst. Manager in hiring there, but that's in April.

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    Oh sweetie.... How frustrating. Be strong and look at this as a vacation, maybe? A time to save your dancing mojo to come back stronger than ever before! ...maybe?


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    I think it's time to talk with boyfriend and rethink the whole "can't work at club X" thing. I understand the Dom-sub relationship but when it's causing you to suffer financially, that's not ok. You should not be forced to suffer financial hardship because he doesn't like club X - unless of course he's paying your bills, willing to help you until your old club re-opens, etc. Figure out how to approach this subject within the limits of your relationship and have a talk.

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    I plan on asking him if I can go out to said club, go through the whole process, but if they do end up not supervising the dancers, I won't take the job. That has nothing to do with our D/s relationship, but a matter of personal security. Considering it's upstairs, a lot can happen in the seconds the bouncers take to run up the stairs.

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    Default Re: Never Thought I'd Deal With This

    That sucks, it sounds like you really liked your old club. It sounds like you're not too keen on getting a non-dancing job either-I feel you there! Could you possibly take the bus somewhere out of town or have your boyfriend drive you, get a cheap motel, and work for a few days until your old club re-opens?






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    I'm sorry you're in such a shitty situation! I sorta understand what's going on with you, I just got fired from my club. I promised my club I would trade a waitressing shift in and dance last weekend, but I've been sick for months, and I just couldn't do it. So I got fired. With that new SIN tax that swept through Texas, other clubs in town have changed drastically. I didn't want to go back to my old club unless I HAD to, but now instead of being topless, they have to wear pasties and full bottoms! So I can only imagine money is going down the drain everywhere. Yesterday I filled out an application for an insurance agency call center here in town. I figure it's easy, paid training, and I can charm the pants off anyone for a job, so why not? I just feel weird not being in the club. I think I'm going to make a weekend trip every month to Austin or something to work for like 3 days. I dunno..but I feel ya!!

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    I'm also sorry to read this. This happened to me in 2006. My club closed for over a month to remodel. I lived off my savings for as long as I could but I could never find a club I liked in the process of waiting. When I went back to the old club, it was filled with paint fumes and I was pregnant so I had to quit. Also the customers seemed to have "forgotten" about it too, and it was absolutely dead.

    I would suggest talking with the boyfriend, checking out the other club for the safety issues (also NOT compromising your safety if it doesn't turn out the way you want) and applying for regular jobs in the meantime. Don't wait to fill out the applications because it takes a lot longer to get hired at a normal job than at a club.
    And good luck. I hope your club re-opens soon.

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    id go through a temp agency first, before i applied at retail stores. you can get good paying short term jobs through temp agencies. just tell them the range finantially you can afford to live on and they will try and find you a job.

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    ^^^ Depends. I called 1/2 a dozen temp agencies and having had no training (because ive been a dancer) they said nope, cant help. I type 65wpm and have worked secretarial positions before but since it wasnt in the last 2 years they didnt even want to bother. I mean they didnt even want me to come in. Nothing....

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    ^I'm worried about that. I didn't put anything for the last two and half years in my resume because I don't want to be turned down for having danced. But now I don't know what I'm gonna say when they ask why I 'haven't been working'... My boyfriend pays my bills? Ahhhhh, it's too much!

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    I understand your situation entirely.

    Here's how I'd look at it if I were you: Assume you get a job, at, say, Petco. They pay 9 dollars an hour ish, yeah? Say you go to the club you are not wanting to work at and don't work the dances - you work stage, maybe you do convo for tips. You'll still make more than that 9 dollars an hour.

    Or say you work out a deal with the bouncers. If you sell a dance, you give them a little to escort you upstairs. Discreetly, of course. That may not be an option, but, you never know.

    You know that I understand M/s or D/s - but even in M/s informed compromise should be an option.

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    Default Re: Never Thought I'd Deal With This

    Wait, where are you? If you mean the club I think you do, lapdances are watched in the awesome mirrors, even if they are upstairs, but rooms are totally unsupervised with a panic button. Stage money used to be good enough to just work stage, tho. That is, if you're where I think you are?



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    I'm just 2nding what a lot of people said. If it's a club that you can make good stage tips at, even if you don't do dances, go for it. Maybe you can offer custys a back massage on the main floor for 10$ a dance, too. I know a lot of custys love them!

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