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    I'm having the weirdest situation tonight, and I'm not sure what, if anything, I should do. I came home from work tonight and checked my Facebook, and saw that my old roommate (from almost a year ago) had made some nasty comments on 5 of my pictures.

    The pictures she commented on were all from an album of pictures of my family and me, and of my best friend and I on New Years eve. They are all pretty damn wholesome. She wrote "ho" on a couple of them, "whore" on one, and "cool.... u kinda look like a slut whore here... real hot" on one of them.

    I know that she is being really immature and that I shouldn't let it bother me, but it does. We were very close at one time. We stopped being friends when I started dancing. Should I say something back? My inclination is to send her a message, but I'm so angry and hurt right now that I don't think that would be a good idea.

    Right now I think I'm gonna wait and send her something after I've calmed down a bit. God, this sounds so juvenile. I had no idea I'd be dealing with middle school-style stuff like this my senior year of college.

    So what do ya'll think? Should I message her? Should I call her and say something? Or should I just ignore it?

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    ignore her, she's only looking for a reaction from you, if you do anything about it you're giving her the ammo she wants

    she sounds like stupid petty little bitch to me

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    I think you're smart to wait--I have what I call an eight-hour rule: when I'm angry like this I take eight hours to cool down and then think it over when I'm more rational. This really sounds as if she is jealous of you in some way: if you have any response at all I think it would be best to tell her you were saddened and surprised to see what she had done, and that you would not have done that, publically, to her. But Izzy's path here is a good and sure one, too--to ignore it. This is a person who needs to grow up. Sorry that you're dealing with it! Good thing, apparently, that she is no longer a roommate!
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    Eh, just delete the comments and ignore it. How sad that she's still stuck at that developmental level.

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    if you really wanna be juvenille write nasty comments on her page lol no don't do that, she clearly thinks your hot, and shes jealous, let her hate! trust me it always comes back on them.

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    I'd say ignore it, but I know it would be hard for me not to say anything to her either. Shes obviously very immature though.


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    I'd delete the comments, and delete her from the friends list.
    What a little kid.

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    There is an option on facebook to completely cut someone out of there. All of their posts are deleted. They are not on your friends list and if you go to mutual friends' pages then they will not show up. You can always reverse it but if you activate that function, it's like they don't even exist. Click on the 'privacy' tab and it's under 'block people'. I've used it before. it's very useful!

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    Yeah, ignore her. There's a reason you guys stopped being friends so don't worry too much or stay hurt if she doesn't mean that much to you.

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    I'd report her for harrassment to Facebook's appropriate "Tom" and have her profile deleted. I've done it before on myspace. And of course, delete and ignore.

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    Thanks for your advice guys.

    She ended up deleting the comments herself. I still have the urge to message her about it just to let her know that I saw the comments. I don't want her to have the satisfaction of thinking that maybe she got away with getting rid of them before I saw them. But that's the immature side of me.

    Anyway, you guys are right about taking her off my friends list. I know she probably came across my profile in the "news feed" feature because I just changed my status to "in a relationship." (Yay! ) That way I wouldn't show up in her news feed.

    I wonder if I can still report her even though she removed the comments. Its still harassment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi View Post
    I'd delete the comments, and delete her from the friends list.
    What a little kid.
    This.

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