
Originally Posted by
aviendha
You know, for every "nice guy" I've ever read who complained about women not respecting them or being attracted to their passivity or lack of assertiveness, I've read about a hundred rants, jokes and even *perfectly serious* advice to treat women like walking, breathing orifices. Especially "nice guys" who 'flipped' because they got more pussy because they started treating women like holes instead of people. As a woman, you're constantly dealing with one of two types:
1) The kind who tries to trick you into bed with surface charm and once the sex is over, ends up being the type of guy who pretends that you are not even capable of the power of speech, much less that any aspect of your person or personality other than your vagina is worthy of the slightest acknowledgment,
Or:
2) The kind who tries to trick you into bed by pretending to be all vulnerable and romantic and interested (because chicks dig that), and once the sex is over, ends up being the type of guy who pretends that you are not even capable of the power of speech, much less that any aspect of your person or personality other than your vagina is worthy of the slightest acknowledgment.
And sorry, but for every "nice guy" who gets 'flipped' into being an asshole because he got sick of being mistreated by women who misinterpreted his intentions, there are about a thousand women who have ended up with Mr. 1 or Mr. 2 about a zillion times and are now on to the whole strategy "being even remotely decent = trap to get you into bed and leave". So when a guy comes along who, if he doesn't openly act like a shithead (and surprisingly a lot of guys do), acts decently, we instantly think, "Aha, trap. I ain't fallin' for that again." And since some guys can be REALLY tricky about playing the whole "sincere interest" game for days, weeks, even MONTHS at a time, it can take quite a while before we begin to think you really MIGHT be sincere, not just waiting to spring the door shut.
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