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    It doesn't matter what people have done in their past - each one of us has grown and learned from our experiences as strippers. Either we learned to say no, or we learned to not do drugs, or we learned just the right way to wink to get a few extra dollars. Either way, each of us has grown - physically, emotionally, psychologically, intelligently, spiritually - you name it.

    Obviously my mood has increased lately, so I haven't been a sour puss. So I'd like to hear from you girls. How have you grown? What has stripping changed in you for the better? Other than money? Because of the money? Spiritually? Mentally?

    You may still be in debt, but you have to be hopeful - you will walk out of this with some experience, some knowledge, somehow a bigger person, right? So tell me... if you walked out of stripping today... what have you gained?

    Inspiration. We can do it. <3


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    Ive always been confident so that wasnt a problem, but I used to be PAINFULLY shy. You know shy in the way that everyone notices and points out!
    Thanks to stripping I am now comfortable talking to anyone about anything, any time, any place (-:

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    I was a wallflower at parties. Would find the one person I knew and would latch onto them for dear life as such... or hang out eating at the food table because I was really uncomfortable dealing with strange people.

    Now.. I am similar to MsQ. I learnt the art and skill of small talk thus now I can be put into any social situation and know that I am fine... know that I do NOT need to know anybody.. and walk away ending up 'making friends' with people (even if it is for just that moment, never seeing that person/people again).

    It has also taught me A LOT about being in business and how a business is run.

    Taught me how to really identify good business opportunities thru my experiences with MLM / Network Marketing.

    I've been able to travel Australia and see parts of Australia even my own immediate family has never seen! Thus been able to appreciate my own home as well as country as a whole.

    I'm not under the delusion of monogamy be it myself or anyone else. This isn't a negative as I am actually feeling 'okay' about it. I'm finding myself happy with it. I definately thought I was a 'one man' type of woman for what seems forever. I'm not nor do I ever expect any man I am involved with to be a 'one woman' man...

    I can tell the difference between being in lust and being in love with someone. I really got those two mixed up numerous times ... thinking my infatuation was the start of love when really it was fuelled/driven by my lust for that person not love of that person (as such).

    Financially I have been all over the place. I have had some really great awesome years earnings-wise and other not so good years.

    I have learnt that I will be okay. The Universe will and always does look after me... thus one of my daily affirmations: The Universe is generous and gives me everything I need, everyday. I actually truly believe!

    Overall, I've learnt a lot about myself, life and people that I wouldn't take back. It has been a bumpy ride. It has definately NOT always been great and I have wanted to "throw the towel" in multiple times yet ... ultimately.. in the end... this profession/this business has given me to me more than it has taken from me.


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    As much as I really love all these stories, I'd like to hear more from the other girls! C'mon, NONE of you have gained somthing important from this experience? Man!


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    if i could get up on a pole, no dancing skills whatsoever, and get naked in front of a room full of people, including my ex who had broken up with me a week earlier, i think i can do anything.

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    I've learned to stand up for myself and not be walked on.

    I've paid off over 14k in debt, and have 2k left to go.

    I've become much better at reading people, in and outside the club.

    I've learned that my happiness is more important than making others happy.

    I've learned that for every person there to bring you up, there are 50 more waiting to tear you down, if you let them.
    I believe you Dottie and you have my support

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    i can sell ice to an eskimo
    These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?

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    I am in a bad place with stripping right now so this is a good thing for me to think about. I used to be painfully shy, and while I'm still very shy, I am able to approach people I don't know and make small talk with them. It has and will again give me the money and free time to reach some short term life goals. I never would have been able to afford school without stripping. Physically, my body is in great shape and I eat very healthy and being naked in front of people motivates this. It has also taught me so much about human behavior and the world around me. Most importantly stripping brought me to stripperweb. Although I don't post much, I am on this site every day, and have learned so much here!
    "I wear tight clothing, high heel shoes
    It doesn't mean that I'm a prostitute" En Vogue

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    i learnt how to hit rock bottom and come back up again.i also learnt what i DIDNT want in life- i worked ina ghetto crack using club, and easily blended in with the other dancers, then realised, i didnt want a life of crack and changed.

    now i work in a nice club with girls who dont use anything, and im happy i made the right choice.

    i learnt that having one breast is funny, no matter what. and finding out a regular customer was a cannible some months later, is also funny.

    i dont know if i have learnt anything constructive yet. maybe in my 6ht year that will change lol

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    I learned how to act like a spoiled brat and make people give me money or whatever, and then I learned that that sucked.

    I learned to say no and to have boundaries.

    I stopped being shy.

    I learned that life is literally what you make it, every day.



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    I don't know if this is very inspirational... But I've learned that most people will do or say what they need to so as to get what they want from you. I put up with SO much shit before stripping (although I was also younger). I don't put up with people's crap anymore (unless there's something that *I* want or need from them, of course. Heh) and it's easier to see through them.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    *I'm not naive the way I used to be. I've learned how to read people and see right through them. I won't let people take advantage of me anymore. I pay attention more to my feelings and surroundings so that nobody can "pull one over" on me.

    *I'm WAY more confident now. I feel more confident undertaking projects that used to be daunting. My faroff dreams are now becoming reality.

    *I can work a room now. Before I used to be so shy.

    * I've learned how to handle haters (to ignore them). And if they do hate, it's because you are doing something right.

    *I've learned that I may be sweet on the outside, but just beneath the surface I am a tough and strong person.

    *Keep a positive attitude and you will always be powerful.

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    I'm still a little shy, a little awkward at times and I'm SOO not the woman most men want to take home to their mom. I'm mouthy, sarcastic, weird and artsy, and generally despise most people.

    But after stripping, I know how to make it seem like I am the opposite of these things. I'm good at faking it. I can make do out of a horrible situation. When the world is going down in flames I will plaster on a smile and find a way to sell you a bag of marshmallows to roast in the flames. Sometimes my acting is so good I have to be careful not to believe it myself. These are both good and bad things. It depends on how I use them. But they are powerful tools I didn't have before.

    My skin is thicker than tree bark, if I put myself in that frame of mind.

    I know how to make people feel good about themselves too. And that's never wrong.

    Financially - ehhhh - well stripping hasn't been as good to me as most dancers around the world. I guess that's a matter of location and willingness to give/receive more contact, or even to work different shifts or put up with different bullshit, which I have a hard time doing. But ultimately it IS what I make it. I am now getting back on my feet a little and it feels good to be able to do that without waiting on a tiny paycheck every week. I've gotten farther away from authority while gaining a greater understanding of it.

    I don't trust men that much. I think that's a positive thing, considering all the ways I've been fucked over and see many women continue to be fucked over because they are naive. I know a good man when I see one.

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    I've learned to trust my intuition about people and situations. I know when to hang and when to bail.

    I'm still shy, I guess, but I've learned that it doesn't really matter. I can still work a room like the biggest party girl alive. Shy isn't what you are, it's what you do.

    My bullshit detector is razor sharp.

    I've learned how to look good. I've learned how much that matters and how much it doesn't matter.

    I've learned how to sell.

    I've kept my conscience clear and my personal code of ethics intact, even when the temptation was there to throw it to the winds and make more money.

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    Dancing has opened me up as a person. I used to be a very shy, withdrawn girl and now I'm the life of the party! I'm so much more confident than I've ever been in my life. I am very comfortable in my own skin. I know how to talk to many different people from many different walks of life. I just love the fact that I can do something that many, many people are afraid of doing.

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    The most important thing I've learned is how to be assertive. People really don't know what you want from them until you are able to tell them, clearly, and then give them instructions on how they can do it for you. Before dancing, I really didn't "get" this and constantly felt walked on. I'll never again pay more money on my phone bill than what I owe or allow a landlord to take a week fixing my broken toilet. I won't work for free. I won't let whatever boy I'm hanging out with "forget" to call me.

    I also learned that it's my own responsibility to take care of myself. Emotionally, financially, physically... in every way. No one else is going to do it for me or "make" me do it... it has to be me. I listen to and work on myself constantly. I don't put myself into dangerous situations anymore--I spring for that cab fare now when before I thought nothing of walking around by myself in the city at night. Stripping really taught me how to value myself. This comes directly from knowing that a 300 lb bouncer or slimy strip club manager isn't always going to get you your money--or keep your ego intact, or tell you when to take a night off, or flag you when you've had to much to drink. A really invaluable lesson when applied to the real world--grow the fuck up or get eaten, baby girl.

    Weirdly enough, another thing I learned is that not all men are assholes, or idiots, or slimeballs. Genuine, good, mature men really start standing out after dealing with most of the guys at work. Sometimes they even ARE guys at work. I've learned that no one's perfect and that we're all in this together, but also that integrity is not a quality someone can learn--they have it, or they don't. And some people really do have it.
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    WOW.... What a wonderful thread!

    After 12 years of dabbling in this buisness, I can hardly sum it up few words. I will list the most important things I have learned from stripping that helped me grow into the butterfly I am today.

    Confidence: It has helped me become a stronger person where my attitude is to now "Bring it on!" I have overcome many obstacles personally, financially, physically and emotionally. I believe stripping has given me the confidence that has helped me over come them and will continue to overcome them long after I retire from stripping. It has also shown me that I'm still a work in progress and my confidence will only get better in time.

    Limit(ness): Stripping has shown me my limitness and limitations. I know what's good for me and not good for me through my experiences in this business. I have tested my boundaries to see my limits. I have created new boundaries where I know what is best for me that is "just enough". I have learned it's ok to modify my limits and be firm on current ones. I have applied these to my personal life.I'm really not that different outside the club...

    Strength: I've become a stronger person inside and out. If I experienced the same things back then, as I did today, I honestly would not have made it this far. I'm happy to have had my strip club experiences in the doses that they came in because they have become the bricks that hold up my temple- me. I am still unfinished, and some parts of me are still weak, but I know that this business can help me put the keystones in place to complete the person that I am.

    Stripping has also helped me understand what it is to be forgiving and grateful. It has helped me learn tolerance and acceptance. These are all so important to carry on to our daily lives. I honestly can say that I don't think I would have learned them anywhere else...

    I have have said out loud to a few of you that I feel like a man hater because of this business. I don't think I was honest. I tend to act out when I'm angry for the moment, say after a bad night or week, but that feeling doesn't last long. I then sit back and think about what it is to be a man hater and was it THIS business that was the cause of it. IT'S NOT. Any negativity I experience with a man is NOT from stripping but also from my personal experiences outside the club. And I take full responsiibility for letting these negative experiences happen. And who am I to just be angry at just men? Women have burned me too. So it's people, and most not just in the club, I just spend more time at the club for them to happen. But I'm not a people hater.

    Stripping isn't about taking off my clothes for money. Stripping, in a setting where I have most control, has allowed me to test my confidence, my limits, my strength, and showed me how forgiveness, acceptance, tolerance, and most of all, to be grateful, has helped me become the great person that I am today.
    "Where there is love there is life"-Mahatma Gandhi

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    I could not imagine my life if i never stripped. Ive learned so much about who i am and what i am caple of. I am defenitly less naive and shelterd and i am more comfortable with my sexuality. I am so greatful i made the the choice to become a dancer it was the right thing for me.

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    I don't dance anymore, but I'll tell you a little bit about how I changed from it...

    Pre-dancing, I was a sad sack. I was 22, had just finished college, but was one of those LOSERS who couldn't find a college-grad job after college despite having decently good grades. I was working shit jobs like grocery store deli or retail. The money that I made in retail didn't even cover my living expenses, and that's considering that I was still living in my parents' house at the time so rent wasn't an issue. I racked up all this credit card debt as a result...and partly because I started drinking a lot to ease the pain that I felt from not having an "adult" job and being a "loser" despite having tried so hard in school and having worked my butt off at menial jobs since age 14. As a result, my esteem quickly plummeted to the gutter. Eventually my parents started blaming me for not being able to pay for my own apartment(my misunderstanding grandmother peer pressured my mom into thinking this way, I later found out), and they kicked me out when I had no place to go. I needed a way to change my life around, at least financially...so I finally entered dancing, which I had been contemplating for over 2 yrs but never had the nerve to actually do.

    As a result of dancing, the following happened:
    1) I was able to pay off all the credit card debt I'd accrued, get current on my student loans(I missed having a "delinquency" reported to the credit bureaus by a mere 14 days!!), and establish good credit.
    2) I was able to pay for my own apartment and become 100% financially independent instead of just 66% independent.
    3) I was able to buy health insurance, a brand new sportscar, the classic car(VW van) I'd always wanted, new furniture, breast implants, and other "want" items.
    4) I was able to attract better quality guys...the kind of guys who sought girls who were financially independent and took good care of themselves...basically the kind of guys who didn't want anything to do with me back when I was a college grad working in retail.
    5) I became less shy of crowds, performing on stage, and overall I became less shy.
    6) My self esteem increased and eventually(it took some time, admittedly) I became more assertive and capable of standing up for myself. I was able to tell off the friends who tried to use me for rides or free lunches(they'd done that before in 04 when I was a min wage retail worker, but once I was making $70K/yr+, I had too much self respect to let them get away with doing that!).
    7) I met a few really cool people, one of them being my good guy friend Revolution, who has not only been an absolutely awesome friend/"big brother," but got me involved in politics...which gave me something to put on my resume and helped me to get a job somewhat related to my field.
    8 ) Paying off my bills and making good financial accomplishments is what convinced my family to start talking to me again. These days, I'm on better terms with my immediate family and my dad is proud of my good credit, money accomplishments, and ambitions to buy a home in the next year or so...wow I never had THAT before dancing!
    9) All of these financial and character accomplishments increased my confidence, which ultimately led to finding a job related to my field, which then led to a full-time job that actually paid decently(thus allowing me to quit dancing). Do you really think that I would have had the confidence/character to "sell myself" to a job if I had been working for min wage that entire time instead of dancing?...doubtful.

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