I'm a little annoyed that a year later, people are apparently still mad at me for something that they should have never been mad at me for at all. Please bear with me and tell me why this seems to happen, and what I should do about it...
Last year, I was seeing this guy that was the half brother of these guys that I'd known since high school. Let's call him "Dipshit." It started out as a friendship thing, where I reunited Dipshit with his older half brother "Ed"(they shared the same dad) and Ed's half brother "Jay"(Ed and Jay share the same mom, but Jay was unrelated to Dipshit...but they knew each other growing up). (Long story short -- when Ed's parents divorced, each parent got remarried and had another kid with the new spouse) They hadn't talked to Dipshit in years, partly because Ed considered Dipshit to be "boring" and "nerdy", but I helped them to start hanging out and relating. Ed and Jay were grateful for this. We would all hang at Ed's place every weekend with Ed's girlfriend and Jay's wife. Very quickly, Dipshit and I started hooking up and casually seeing each other. Next thing you know, we were "going out" after Ed blatantly encouraged him to become my boyfriend.
A little less than two months later, Dipshit started avoiding Ed and I. He blew off Ed on the weekend that Ed was planning to give him the special tattoo that he was giving all of his brothers. Dipshit started saying that he was "busy" that weekend with his buddies, and me being too nice and complacent, didn't protest it. He started being really aloof and I suspected that he was cheating. Meanwhile, I was being loyal...simply because being loyal is the "right" thing to do. Also, Ed had drunkenly threatened to "kill me" if I ever cheated on his little brother LOL. I frustratingly reached my wit's ends when Dipshit avoided me on the big drinking holiday and only answered his phone when I called from my friend Revolution's phone(i.e., a strange phone number). I was done, finito! Even before all this, there were other things that were starting to annoy me about Dipshit...e.g, him wanting me to always pick him up, and him making snide remarks that implied that he was using me for rides more than he should have, or the time that I was over his house and his ugly stepbrothers/friends(NOT Ed or Jay) were very curt, not saying two words to me the entire time I was there.
I put up with Dipshit's coldness only as a "test" to see what would happen next(just to confirm my suspicions), and to see if I could get any real evidence that he was cheating.
Only a day after the holiday that Dipshit had avoided me on, I got my proof that Dipshit was cheating(it was VERY blatant on his Myspace site) after he was already treating me badly, so I dumped him in a humiliating way...via posting a Myspace bulletin + a comment on his Myspace site. Admittedly he deserved it, and most of my Myspace friends told me this. Besides, how is it "okay" for him to let his new girl post "I love you!" all over his site, which made me look foolish, but it's not "okay" for me to dump him on his site? It's not like he was going to actually answer his phone for me if he was avoiding me, and his cell phone didn't have voicemail set up. I wasn't "heartbroken" by his cheating, but I DID feel extremely disrespected and insulted...for once I wasn't gonna be a fuckin' doormat!
Within the same day that I posted the "it's over, bitch" Myspace bulletin, Dipshit's half brother Ed removed me from his Myspace friends list. I immediately knew that Ed was angry that I'd dumped Dipshit. I tried e-mailing and calling Ed, trying to explain that I had NOT been cheating on Dipshit, but in fact Dipshit had been extremely rude to ME. Ed would not even let me explain! He refused to hear me out...WTF? When I finally got a few words out about the situation, he didn't even care that I'd been loyal to Dipshit as I'd promised, but that Dipshit was cheating on me. He responded, "So what" and "Well you shoulda gotten a hint"(when in reality, I was only waiting it out as a "test" to get proof that he was cheating). He started proclaiming that I was his "enemy" and over the next week or two we got into immature little text message "battles" of mockery with each other. NOTE: Ed is REALLY immature and mentally unstable this way and everyone in the entire town is aware of this.
As for me and Dipshit, yeah we got into some similar phone/text message battles over the next few weeks. Dipshit got his new girlfriend to threaten to beat me up. Dipshit actually admitted and BRAGGED about how he cheated and said that I was dumb to stay loyal!(and here the only reason I stayed loyal was b/c it was the "right" thing to do grrrr) Dipshit started lying about having a "kid" with this girl(in reality, he hadn't even met for the first time until just a few weeks ago; and I know for a fact that the "kids" he speaks of are the girl's nephews). To spite him back, I retaliated with a made-up story about cheating on him back, and claimed that I was now resultingly pregnant from the guy I'd "cheated" on Dipshit with. My girl friends kept my pregnancy story going for the next 8 months! LOL.
Meanwhile, Dipshit and Ed stopped talking completely very soon after. Dipshit disowned himself from Ed and Jay, rehashing the past(when Ed never visited him) as his reasons why.
So now it's a full year later...I'm STILL not friends with Ed, but then again I haven't run across him either. And before this ever happened, Ed and I always had a friend/enemy type relationship for years...so it's not exactly uncommon for Ed and I to be like this. Ed's half brother Jay has been uninvolved in this whole scenario...I hadn't seen him since over a year ago, before Dipshit and I started growing distant. I recently discovered that Jay and his wife have Myspace sites now, so I sent them both friends requests and a casual "hi how are you doing" e-mail to Jay...not mentioning any of the drama that occured between me, Dipshit, and Ed last year.
So I check my Myspace site today, and find that Jay has read my e-mail, hasn't responded, AND he rejected my friends request!WTF? This isn't about Myspace...this is about the frustration that this guy is snubbing me presumably because of the drama that happened last year, which wasn't my fault! I don't think I was "wrong" to break up with Dipshit, who was treating me like shit. It was VERY insulting when Ed refused to hear me out last year and made ME feel "wrong" for his brother's wrongdoings...but now this? WTF?
Why do you think Jay rejected my polite gesture? Do you think Ed is influencing him and telling him not to talk to me(a whole year later)? It makes me wonder how many people hate me now, simply because Dipshit decided to treat me like a doormat(the using me for rides, cheating, etc). Advice? What should I do? I'm thinking of writing Jay a brief e-mail, asking if I'd offended him in any way(I haven't) and if there were any rifts between us when we'd always been cool before. Do you think this is a good, asssertive idea? Thanks in advance for the advice.


WTF? This isn't about Myspace...this is about the frustration that this guy is snubbing me presumably because of the drama that happened last year, which wasn't my fault! I don't think I was "wrong" to break up with Dipshit, who was treating me like shit. It was VERY insulting when Ed refused to hear me out last year and made ME feel "wrong" for his brother's wrongdoings...but now this? WTF?
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) either! During this time, my cousin was spreading untrue gossip that she'd heard about me and years later, she excluded me from the wedding that she invited all of my 4 other siblings to. To be honest, it angers me and fills me with jealousy when people take the side of family when family's in the wrong...since my family was never NEARLY that nice to me.

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