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    About a week ago I went to a club with a friend of mine we had each bought a few dances and a multiple drinks. My buddy was actually focused on whatever they were showing on the big screen while I was more interested in a specific dancer who was rather busy. So a dancer walks up to my friend throws out some kind of "wanna dance" line, and he politely says no, she responds with "yeah I didn't think so". Then she asks me, I was kinda caught offguard by her rudeness, but I told her the truth: I was waiting for another dancer. She responds immediately "who?" again I told her honestly I didn't know her name, and I started to describe her, she cuts me off and says "yeah right, you're such a liar". After that she preceded to walk around to other dancers pointing at us and whispering, and even talking to a few customers. She even came by two more times, once while I was getting dances from girl I'd been wait for, and once after that to tell us "she could get us thrown out of there". I was so beyond frustrated... Beyond her running her mouth and calling me a liar, she was running around talking to other people about me... AND on top of this, I realized afterward that this was the same girl who had been an ass the first time I went to that club.

    My question is how long should I have waited before I did something, and what should I have done? Because I so resisted doing multiple things... And I'm curious as to what some of you think...

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    There's got to be more to the story than this. A dancer threatened to throw you out simply because she thinks you're a liar about waiting for someone else? What else did you do to piss her off? I highly doubt she was a bitch for no reason, but if that's the case, simply ignore her or tell a manager if things get too unruly.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AznExtasy View Post
    There's got to be more to the story than this. A dancer threatened to throw you out simply because she thinks you're a liar about waiting for someone else? What else did you do to piss her off? I highly doubt she was a bitch for no reason, but if that's the case, simply ignore her or tell a manager if things get too unruly.
    I honestly, told you everything I said to the girl. Normally I would just chalk it up to her having a bad night, but this was the second time she was rude. And she went above and beyond...

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    Never more than 32 to 37 seconds.
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    talk to the manager. they might ask her about it but if she's KNOWN for this type of behavior than hopefully they will be smart enough to make some consequences for her.

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    I'm sorry you had to put up with a dancer acting like that, she was out of line and was acting like a child. To politely decline a dance or to request another dancer is your right as a customer and should be respected. Guys come to strip clubs to relax, and to have a good time; not to put up with another nag. I agree with fancygirl, she might be already known for that kind of behavior. I know I've worked with girls like that before. I worked with a girl once that tried to have a guy thrown out all because he wouldn't buy her a drink. Needless to say she was the one sent home, and got a stern talk from the management.

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    i'd say something to a manager, b/c it fucks up things for everyone to have pms-ing dancers acting like tools.

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    Her interupting you while getting a dance is completely out of line. If I were the dancer giving the dance when that happened the other bitch would know about it.

    You should have complained about her behaviour to management.
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    wow, my management would laugh at a guy for complaining about a dancer being rude
    your clubs sound nicer than the ones here

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    Quote Originally Posted by neve View Post
    wow, my management would laugh at a guy for complaining about a dancer being rude.
    This is precisely why I wouldn't even bother complaining to management in most SC's. There's too much money in dancer rent being made, and often too much coke up their nostrils to be concerned about the long term consequences of having a drama queen in the house.

    IMHO, the best ways to make a complaint are one of the following.

    1. Leave. The club, not to mention anybody in it can't make any money from you if you're not there.

    2. Do nothing, and see if she follows through on her "could get us thrown out of there" BS. If she does, and a bouncer comes over to escort you out, tell him your side of the story. Worst case scenario, you'll have to revert to option 1.

    3. Share your story as an amusing anecdote (but not as a complaint) with the dancers you do spend money on. They know what your true colors are and understand that what said drama queen is doing could be having an adverse affect on their money. Then they might complain to management to protect their own interests.

    Of course, If she has enough nerve to interrupt your dance, they likely already know about her because she's probably done it before.
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    Some girls just never learn to act professionally when it comes to rejection. I will admit, there have been nights when all I get is no and lame excuses, and it puts me in a rather yucky mood, but still, I would have to have a specific reason for telling someone off or trying to have them kicked out. It doesn't sound like you guys did or said anything wrong. You just crossed paths with a pissed off dancer who's ego was bruised and needed to take it out on someone. If I got pissed at every guy that said no all the time, then I would have a shitty night, every night. Like I said before, some girls just never learn.

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    If your going there to and spending money on another dancer or dancers, I would assume it would be in there best interest financially to get this girl off your back. If a costumer comes in to see dancer " A " and spends good money on her and dancer " B " has issue's with said customer then she better have a damn good reason to be stepping on dancer " A " and the club's money. I would think dancer " A " assuming she knows the situation would have taken care of it already. I might be wrong here but that's the way I've seen it handled b4.

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    Take the most you can afford to spend...when bitch approaches, tell her you only have X amount..and you don't want to waste it on a rude, classless, stripper..of course you then must follow through, and spend said amount on a nice girl. I think that would be a great kick in the teeth!

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    i think if this a smaller club, you should tell management, because in smaller clubs its more important to provide custermer service

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    Try offering her money to leave you alone, money talks. How are you going to want to throw someone out that is tipping you for doing nothing?

    Try, "you are really pretty, thanks for asking, I am already waiting for someone,(if she asks "who?", say the blond with big boobs, we all know this would be hard for anyone to narrow down in a stripclub haha!)than add, "may I tip you for stopping by?" or if she's white, say you are attracted to black women, or vice versa. Or anything shes not, short, tall, blonde, dark haired, ect....
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    something similar happend to me a while back at the trophy club in houston, but the bitch got put in her place. me & a buddy were having a few drinks & waiting on a couple of dancers we had been eyeing to become availible. some dancer that neither one of use was interested comes over, sits down & starts demanding that we buy dances from her. we both politly say we are waiting on so & so & they know we are here to see them.
    she gets up & leaves. about 5 minutes later one of the newer managers comes to our table & tells us we both have to leave for threatening dancers. we figure the st james is 5min away & our money can be spent there just as easy so we start to leave. on the way out we have to pass by the bar cause its close to the front door & one of the other managers that i've known for several years is standing there & asks why were leaving. i tell him we are being kicked out because we would rather buy dances from so & so instead of the new managers girlfriend.
    she got sent home & he got his ass chewed out for fucking with long time customers

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    Quote Originally Posted by Oksana23 View Post
    Try offering her money to leave you alone, money talks. How are you going to want to throw someone out that is tipping you for doing nothing?
    Based with that option, I'd just as soon be shown the door. Dancers are supposed to earn their money, not extort it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    Based with that option, I'd just as soon be shown the door. Dancers are supposed to earn their money, not extort it.
    I agree. Rewarding that behavior will only make her continue it. Call over the girl you came to see and explain the situation to her. If she has a brain in her head SHE'LL tell management. I would

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    Quote Originally Posted by doc-catfish View Post
    Based with that option, I'd just as soon be shown the door. Dancers are supposed to earn their money, not extort it.
    Agreed

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