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    Default I walked away from potential drama but I feel like....

    ....a coward.

    This might be a bit long, but I will do my best to make it readable.

    In the last few months, I have started working in different clubs around my area, reinventing my stripper persona, slowly leaving (finally I did last month) the small, ghetto topless bar I worked at for three years and generally having a better time and making more $$$.

    One of the clubs I have been working in is another small, but clean, great management, Ok $$$, bikini bar.

    Last month, on my third shift, I found out a dancer I had not seen in over a year was working there. That's fine w/ me. We are similar in that we are both tiny women, she being the thicker, curvier one, me being thinner, toned athletic.

    On that day, I walked out to the floor and the men who had been hanging w/ her immediately sauntered over to me and were giving me a lot of attention and tipping. (stage tips only at this place).

    Everything seemed fine, I worked a couple more shifts over a period of two weeks or so and then on the third one, she was working and the guys who seemed to love me would not even acknowledge me.

    She and I are both older dancers, in our thirties, that happen to look young, most likely because of Latin looking faces and small bodies.

    Well, she spread rumors that I was way older but had tons of surgery done. WTF?? I have never had anything done!

    But I could deal with this. Then my long time reg. came into to see me another week down the road. I was working w/ her again. She was all over him when he came in. I was on stage. He walked past her and came to tip me and said, kiddingly, to me, "Why didn't you tell me she was working. If you had, I would have come to see you when she wasn't here". She got mad and left work.

    My reg told me that she had run into his son (my reg is 60ish) and told him that my reg should be careful of me because she told his son, thatI am extorting his financial savings from him.

    Fast forward to a week ago, during the LA storms. It was horrible! I was hydroplaning everywhere and swerved where there was no lights. All the roads and freeways to my place (near the beach) were partially flooded and/or had falling debris on the roads where it wasn't well lit. I just couldn't drive home. I actually called my old club to get a recommendation for a hotel in which I would get robbed, raped or worse. The bartender offered me her couch and we didn't have to take the freeway.

    She was nice, gave me some blankets and clean sweats and I waited til dawn to leave. As I was folding the stuff she lent that morning, I saw a body out of the corner of my eye, thinking it was her flatmate. So, I said 'Hello' and to my surprise, it was HER! The little shit from the club. She says, "what are you doing here'. It was so early and I had like 1 hour of sleep that I was searching for an answer. She then says, "No, what the F*&k are you doing here, this is weird". All I could say was, "Good morning to you too". She went into her room and slammed the door, I wrote a note to her roommate, thanking her for her hospitality and kindness and left.

    Fast forward to last Friday night. I worked in a bigger club, had a decent night, but twisted my left foot during lap dances.

    Yesterday, my foot hurt like hell, but I iced it and wrapped it and got ready to work at that bikini bar. I was also PMSing and had a headache, but I went in anyway. I get there, the music is way loud for such a small place. I see one of her reg. custies. He is affectionate w/ me and asks where I have been, et. I tell him I am surprised that he is talking to me because he is one of her friends. He said he likes me and the more I let him touch me (???) the more he will spend and pay attention to me. Yeah right.

    As I am talking to him I look in the wall mirror over his shoulder and see a tiny body w/ short hair. It's HER. My foot is messed up, so if there is a fight, I am incappacitated, I am PMSing and our dressing room is a little bigger than an apartment bathroom. There is no way I can just hustle on the opposite side of the room because the place is so small!

    I just said "Oh hell no", turned around and left. The owner called me a half hour later and begged me to come in and had heard that I left. I just couldn't.

    If I had not been hurt, I would have stayed. Did I do the right thing by leaving? Or do i just not have any cojones?

    Sorry so long.
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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    Default Re: I walked away from potential drama but I feel like....

    Yikes! This is long. I will really appreciate anyone who will take the time to read it and give feedback
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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    Yes, you did the right thing. She cares too much about trying to cut you out- if you did something, it would just fuel her.

    Tell the owner to get rid of her. He probably will, since she doesn't sound as cute as you.

    If he won't, wait till your foot heals, and then use it to kick her fat ass! LOL NO, cerously, let the owner handle this.

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    If management likes you...I'd take it up with them. Tell them that you are trying to avoid drama in the club by not confronting her directly, that you doubt she would be reasonable given her recent behavior and therefore nothing good would come of it. Ask for their assistance in stopping this. Maybe they can have a chat with her and consequently fine her when news that this continues reaches them?
    Do you think her roommate would back you up at all since she most likely gave her an earful for letting you stay there?

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    If you're making decent money there, you can't let her get to you (easier said than done, I know).

    I don't think you should have left--the owner sounds sympathetic--wouldn't he/bouncers intervene if things were going to get physical? Let her be the one who runs off from work because she can't handle her sh-t, you know?

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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    Yes, you did the right thing. She cares too much about trying to cut you out- if you did something, it would just fuel her.

    Tell the owner to get rid of her. He probably will, since she doesn't sound as cute as you.

    If he won't, wait till your foot heals, and then use it to kick her fat ass! LOL NO, cerously, let the owner handle this.
    MadMax-

    That's really sweet and funny. The thing is, she is cute but we are just different. I accept that, but she has issues.

    Thanks for reading and my foot does feel a bit better today.
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    If management likes you...I'd take it up with them. Tell them that you are trying to avoid drama in the club by not confronting her directly, that you doubt she would be reasonable given her recent behavior and therefore nothing good would come of it. Ask for their assistance in stopping this. Maybe they can have a chat with her and consequently fine her when news that this continues reaches them?
    Do you think her roommate would back you up at all since she most likely gave her an earful for letting you stay there?
    I'm not really that close to her roommate. She was just acting as a kind human being. We have never had anything against each other, just have never been that close. Yet, those two go back many years.

    Management would listen, but they really need girls and she is attractive and apparently hasn't shown her bad side to them yet. So, since the ownerhsip of this club is really new, they need her as much as they need me. Apparently she told them, she was cool with my working. I just felt weak and defenseless on too may levels last night.

    Btw, thanks for reading.
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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    Whether they need her or not, it wouldnt be a bad thing to bring this to their attention. They may not fire her, but they may fine her. Or maybe just them telling her that they are aware of what she is doing and will be keeping an eye on her will be enough to make her stop.

    But they cant do anything if they dont know its a problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sienna_TX View Post
    If you're making decent money there, you can't let her get to you (easier said than done, I know).

    I don't think you should have left--the owner sounds sympathetic--wouldn't he/bouncers intervene if things were going to get physical? Let her be the one who runs off from work because she can't handle her sh-t, you know?
    Well, she did once before, now we're 1 for 1

    The money is OK here, the club is under new ownership. I work two other clubs, one of them which the $$ is much better.

    Also, there is a tad bit of racial tension in this club. I have no problems, but I could sense it from some of the staff and dancers. Most of the dancers are Latina of different origins and some speak Spanish as a first language. I am half Irish/Mexican, who speaks passable Spanish, but I look, sound more Caucasian. Even the one of the DJ's is trying to get me to leave my alt. rock music at home because he says I'll make more $$ dancing to hip-hop and/or really dirty rap.

    Also, if i wasn't hurt physically last night, I would have stayed. Also, the club was way dead.

    I'm not sure if they would itnervene. I'm wasn't willing to take that chance last night.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Corey View Post

    Also, if i wasn't hurt physically last night, I would have stayed. Also, the club was way dead.

    I'm not sure if they would itnervene. I'm wasn't willing to take that chance last night.
    It's good you didn't risk staying, then. Hope you heal up soon...

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    i hope you get better...and go back in there and ignore her like you have been and be the bigger person.

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    Ugh. I dislike small clubs for reasons like this. I agree, talk with management about it in a really cool-headed way. Don't tell them you want her fired or anything like that -- it'll just make more drama. Just tell them that her hostility makes you uncomfortable working at the club, and if it continues, you'll have to go somewhere else. If they want to keep you (and it sounds like they do) they'll have a talk with her and at least she'll know she's being watched.

    If it were me, I might also make some effort to stay away from her bigger regulars. I know this is hard, especially if the club is dead and their isn't anyone else to hustle. I don't think there's anything *wrong* with hustling her customers per se, just that it could add to her perception that you're threatening her and add more drama to the situation.

    Sorry you have to deal with this.

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    I have a girl who hates me at my club--I have never talked to her eva. I can't even guess why she dislikes me other then she does like my music or that I make much more or that I'm gay or that I'm thin and got my boobs done. Whatever for years she just gave me the dirty hate you mean look I ingored cuz she just has a bad attitude in gneral and is always bitchy and winey--no1 "I want to deal with soo I've avoided her. Fine maybe she found out that I would call her pregant cuz after a while I had to make a joke and laugh at the way she looks at me when I would never look at her for any reason other then to say damn 18yr old looks like she is having a baby that is 9months and never wants to come out--however I never told her about that and I doute any of my friends would have told her that---even though it's true and I would owe up to it anyways.

    Still I kinda got into a fight with her boyfriend/our DJ and told the boss he was a prick cuz after 5 lapdances 10mins before closing he wanted to put me on stage when I'm the 1st girl in and I'm tired from all the lapdances. Fucker told me that He gets tired of calling girls on stage like it was the same thing and he was clearly in the wronge as we don't put girls on stage after 5:45 except his ass who just doesn't know how to tell time.

    Well she's been getting into it with me lately getting out of place to upset me getting in my bissness trying to tell me what to do or agrue w/me or about me and if I didn't work with her I would just beat her ass to get her out of my face, but I told management which knows she's got a bad attitude, but she's also a bartendar and her boyfriend is the DJ and she works everyday sooo becuz we lack other DJs and bartenders and enough girls they let her suck and be bitchy to everyone from customers to who ever walks in the door--cuz girl just really isn't a poeple person and has a bad attitude(which is why she actually makes more as a bartender then a dancer--yet still complains that they won't give her any good shifts as a bartender)mind you they asked me 2 work more to bartend soo they could fire her, but I said no becuz I make 3 times that as a dancer then the best bartenders there soo why would I give up my off days to make that much less.

    Point is I'm on my own when dealing with her and I told my boss if she keeps on I'm just going to have to shock it to her---to which they didn't say anything about. Meaning they wish I would, but however I know legally I would have to have her hit me 1st and she's a chicken shit that wouldn't even be able to fight back yet alone have those kind of balls to do soo anyhow point is I just try to ingore her no matter how annoying she is to me becuz at the end of the day her bugging me doesn't stop me from making my money, but quiting or going to jail would and she's soo not worth it.

    Yes your problem is that the one annoying you is trying you with your customers, but really just talk to them and ensure them that she's just a hater. Most customers are loyal to the girls they find more attractive anyways and drama/jealousy is soo ugly she's not doing herself any favors trust me.
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    I think Max and Cam gave good advice, so I have nothing to offer but my sympathy. Dancer drama sucks, and the fact they're just jealous doesn't ever seem to help. You shouldn't have to look over your shoulder at work.

    But if it's any consolation, refer to my siggy

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    Quote Originally Posted by UV69 View Post
    I have a girl who hates me at my club--I have never talked to her eva. I can't even guess why she dislikes me other then she does like my music or that I make much more or that I'm gay or that I'm thin and got my boobs done. Whatever for years she just gave me the dirty hate you mean look I ingored cuz she just has a bad attitude in gneral and is always bitchy and winey--no1 "I want to deal with soo I've avoided her. Fine maybe she found out that I would call her pregant cuz after a while I had to make a joke and laugh at the way she looks at me when I would never look at her for any reason other then to say damn 18yr old looks like she is having a baby that is 9months and never wants to come out--however I never told her about that and I doute any of my friends would have told her that---even though it's true and I would owe up to it anyways.

    Still I kinda got into a fight with her boyfriend/our DJ and told the boss he was a prick cuz after 5 lapdances 10mins before closing he wanted to put me on stage when I'm the 1st girl in and I'm tired from all the lapdances. Fucker told me that He gets tired of calling girls on stage like it was the same thing and he was clearly in the wronge as we don't put girls on stage after 5:45 except his ass who just doesn't know how to tell time.

    Well she's been getting into it with me lately getting out of place to upset me getting in my bissness trying to tell me what to do or agrue w/me or about me and if I didn't work with her I would just beat her ass to get her out of my face, but I told management which knows she's got a bad attitude, but she's also a bartendar and her boyfriend is the DJ and she works everyday sooo becuz we lack other DJs and bartenders and enough girls they let her suck and be bitchy to everyone from customers to who ever walks in the door--cuz girl just really isn't a poeple person and has a bad attitude(which is why she actually makes more as a bartender then a dancer--yet still complains that they won't give her any good shifts as a bartender)mind you they asked me 2 work more to bartend soo they could fire her, but I said no becuz I make 3 times that as a dancer then the best bartenders there soo why would I give up my off days to make that much less.

    Point is I'm on my own when dealing with her and I told my boss if she keeps on I'm just going to have to shock it to her---to which they didn't say anything about. Meaning they wish I would, but however I know legally I would have to have her hit me 1st and she's a chicken shit that wouldn't even be able to fight back yet alone have those kind of balls to do soo anyhow point is I just try to ingore her no matter how annoying she is to me becuz at the end of the day her bugging me doesn't stop me from making my money, but quiting or going to jail would and she's soo not worth it.

    Yes your problem is that the one annoying you is trying you with your customers, but really just talk to them and ensure them that she's just a hater. Most customers are loyal to the girls they find more attractive anyways and drama/jealousy is soo ugly she's not doing herself any favors trust me.
    I appreciate your situation and yeah, my custies are great. I was just physically weak because of my injury and mentally because of PMS.

    I will work there again, if they want me, whether she is working or not. And I will talk to management about the situation. I hope yours gets better.
    (Formerly known as 'Korina')

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    Default Re: I walked away from potential drama but I feel like....

    Dottie, you are so right about that, your siggy is great

    Ladies thanks for all the feedback and especially for taking the time to read my longest post ever!

    My foot is actually a lot better today, maybe i just bruised it, but I'm still keeping it wrapped and iced. I will talk with the managers/owners tomorrow.
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