It's not well-known, but if you have it or know someone who has it..Can you PM me please?![]()



It's not well-known, but if you have it or know someone who has it..Can you PM me please?![]()
Do a search sweetie...there are quite a few here with this. If you look at the bottom of this page in fact you'll see other threads that discuss it.
I had it when I was in 8th grade...I was obsessed with being thin, and I was already 5'6" and 115 lbs. I was nearly flat as a board, so I figured that if I was already flat chested, I couldn't get any flatter if I lost weight...if anything it would be to my benefit, since a flat chest is more proportionate on a twig-like figure than a medium-sized, slightly flabby figure(I wasn't flabby, but I viewed myself as such)...so I ate fat-free rice-and-salsa all the time and walked/ran constantly. I was convinced that I didn't look good enough unless I could stretch my two hands around my waist, and that if my hands couldn't reach around my waist, that I wasn't working hard enough to lose the weight. Part of this was because of the harassment/"reverse sexual harassment" I got from multiple guys at school who taunted me for being flat, and one guy who commented that I had a "fatass" once even though I was only a size 4. They fucked with my mindset, my esteem, and the way I saw myself in the mirror.
Even after I got my implants at age 22, there were times that I wasn't sure if my boobs were big/proportionate enough.But I honestly wonder if that was a result of all the guys in middle school(and some afterwards, in high school, college, and beyond) taunting me for being "too flat." Teasings and harassment tend to stick around and fuck with your mindset/morale even after your body has changed for the better.
I also knew of a few guys that were convinced that they had to take steroids or creatine because they weren't muscular enough, when in fact they had gorgeous bodies.
*raises hand*
MeBut I have no advice as no matter what I do, I struggle.





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the forum at this website helped me immensely when i was going through a real bad patch





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Omg, thanks guys....Sorry I didn't do a search on it, because I was under the impression that nobody ever heard of it.
I used to be a frequent poster on bddcentral.com, but it doesn't seem very active lately? The reason why I made this topic is because I'm having a major BDD attack.... It really sucks when nobody else around you understands. Yes, it has to do with what a guy (or a few guys) said....To be honest, my BDD is PART of the reason that's holding me back from becoming a stripper (I still like to post here though!) As stupid as it sounds, I seriously just want to die because of appearance. Anyone with BDD knows what it's like to have black or white thinking. We know it's irrational to worry about appearance and thinking that it's the end of the world if we're not pretty enough, but the feeling is so gut-wrenching and horrible........
If anyone has AIM, that would be great.
i understand that.
my BDD is relatively under control at the moment but i went through a REALLY bad patch early last year, and for a few months i genuinely believed that i was too fat and ugly to be alive. so don't ever think you're alone, there are a lot of people here who understand exactly what you're going through![]()



i understand that.
my BDD is relatively under control at the moment but i went through a REALLY bad patch early last year, and for a few months i genuinely believed that i was too fat and ugly to be alive. so don't ever think you're alone, there are a lot of people here who understand exactly what you're going through
Mine was too, as I'm no longer housebound and can go out of the house without makeup. You know how things that people say can "trigger" BDD attacks? That's how it is with me now, and I haven't felt this horrible in ages. I've wasted most of my life worrying about appearance, trying to be pretty as possible, and getting validation about it from others.
They fucked with my mindset, my esteem, and the way I saw myself in the mirror.
What sucks is that I thought I looked normal, but I was just told that I'm bigger than I thought. Now, I'm not even sure if I can trust my perception when I think something looks good. I'm so freaked out that most people are viewing me as being a "little big" (this is what this guy and his friends said), when I just thought I was average sized and proportionate.
I did receive a few compliments recently about me being very pretty, but now I think it's all bullshit and what if they're lying? I'm so freaked out about losing weight now.





i did, but as with everything else in my life, the presentation was non-standard, so i don't know that my experience would be useful to anyone with specific expectations of what bdd is.
I had it when I was a teenager. I never realized my lack of food (hypoglycemia) was making me delusional, so once I did realize that I started eating better and working out and am pretty much fine now.
I still have a tiny little bit of fat on the back of my upper thighs which drives me crazy and makes me a little self-conscious at work.
I also never used to leave the house w/out makeup until recently. I just started telling myself to not give a fuck what anyone thinks. I would always think that people were secretly judging me, and they are probably were, but they can shove their opinions up their ass for all I care. I just keep reminding myself that.
Although my body isn't perfect now but still in nice shape (healthy BMI range), I sure do wish I could have appreciated my 18 year body more, because it was damn hot.
*stunned* It always astounds me when I see many of the most beautiful, successful, experienced dancers on here say that they struggle with accepting and appreciating their appearance. Just absolutely floored. My heart goes out to all of you.
Yep.Been there...many times. Flares up every time my jeans wont fit or some dillhole calls me fat or thick or whatever at work. I'm happy when I feel bones poking out.
I've looked at girls on TV and thought they looked JUST like me..when everyone else seems to think they look quite a bit heavier then me.
You def arent alone.
I'm with you on this one. I constantly feel like that. I don't reall have any advice for you though because this has ALWAYS been a huge issue for me. No matter what anyone says, or what size I am I just feel like a giant ugly cow. Been that way as long as I can really remember pretty much.![]()



Dumb question, but do some guys really mean that when they call you fat or thick or they're just talking crap?Flares up every time my jeans wont fit or some dillhole calls me fat or thick or whatever at work. I'm happy when I feel bones poking out.
It was actually my guy friend (an ex, but we remained friends) who said he and his friends thought I was a "little big" and bigger than "average-sized." I see myself as normal sized and even compared myself to the "chubbier" celebrities..I don't see any similarity, but I'm freaking out if that's how other people really see me! He even had the nerve to say that me and him are the same size! I'm 5'5 and 125, and he's 5'10 and 160. The reason why this came up was because he made a comment about me not being "escort material," and I kept prying him why. He said I have a pretty face, but am not top notch like what people expect escorts to be and am overall average looking.
I've decided not to talk to him anymore, even though he says he was just being honest, that I should be strong enough to handle the truth, and that he still wants to be friends.
oh i struggle with this to I think alot of women do. The new show on lifetime how to look good naked is awsome. They illsutrate this very well to they line up women in there bra and underware and have anthor women put herslef where she think she fits in to them the results are amazing. carson kresly is truely doing and awsome job with show its fabulus.
In point of fact, my childhood BDD wasn't about being fat. It was that I imagined my face (as others would see it) as grossly misshapen and freakishly large. Not surprisingly, the BDD came with a set of social anxieties, too, especially around having my picture taken. Having acne didn't help.
Nowadays, I'm much happier with my appearance, especially following my 'ear' job last January. Hell, in some lights I'm even considered attractive. But you can't count on those lights, unfortunately.
Your friend is an ass. 5'5 125 is perfect and well within the realm of fantasy girl..stripper, escort,whatever your choice is.
Gyus say this to be jerks. They know damn well that most women have issues with their weight. Just like us telling a guy he has a tiny dick. Whether its true or not, it will likely piss him off since most GUYS are self conscious about that. Of course...even though my head knows they are just being assholes and trying to get a rise out of me and see me upset(which I dont give them the satisfaction of)...in my heart I believe what they are saying, so its hard for it not to hit home.



^Yeah, BDD can be about any facial aspect...nose, lips, eyes, hair, or just overall appearance. I used to HATE pictures as well (still do, unless I feel "adequate" enough lol).
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