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    Not sure if this goes here or hustle hut but basically this is how I'm feeling right now

    My club recently started a smoking ban in the club. It's really getting to me at this point because typically I only smoke at work. I get really nervous talking to people and just being around large groups of people so I'll smoke around them and it calms me down. This has worked...but now there's no smoking in the club so I'm fidgity and fumbling on my words! The other night I thought I'd found the cure....drinking an enormous amount of alcohol. Needless to say that didn't end very well. It got me thinking about how dependent I've become on that one shot or a few to help loosen me up and make me social. I don't like being dependent on something like alcohol because I'm paranoid I'll develop a problem (even though I rearely drink outside of work). So my solution was to give up alcohol at work for lent. I figured I'm a strong woman - any amount of anxiety I have I can overcome with my strong will.

    Well I think I was wrong. I've been able to drink at work for almost 4 years now and I totally forgot how crazy a saturday night can be when you're sober. I swear I was going to have a heart attack! I wanted to cry by how paniced I felt! I was shy and observant, not participative and rather homicidal when guys tried to bargain with me for a lap dance. This proves even more that a few shots at the beginning of the night have been helping to push me a long. But I don't like this. I want to be able to do it without drinking. Is this possible? Any advice? I'm worried between now and the time Lent is over my money is going to go down drastically if I don't get ahold of myself! What's wrong with me?

    Geez I sound crazy don't I? LOL!
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    What if your club banned alcohol? Would you quit stripping?

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    I've been struggling too. Try not to have that first drink. Maybe don't work the busy weekends? God, last night at my club I left at 9 and it was getting insanely packed. It was sort of nerve-wracking!

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    Sounds like you need to cut down on the alcohol slowly so that you get used to the feeling of interacting sober. I suffer from horrible panic attacks and anxiety and I'm doing okay dancing sober. But it was a learned response to do so--not a moral decision of any type.

    My money is always better when I'm sober! There's no better way for me to keep my eye on the prize! I keep hearing from most girls that drink at work that it helps them keep themselves in party mode.... for me there's no better way to be in party mode than to shake my ass and make money... lots of it. There's something to be said about the high you get from that and the momentum it creates in and of itself.
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    i hear that alcohol can increase anxiety when you stop drinking it. im trying to cut back, becuase my body doesnt tolerate it the way it used to. try and cut back slow for sure that way if you possibly suffer alcohol withdrawl you wont feel the effects.

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    Well I guess if they banned alcohol in my club then I'd likely be at the same crossroad I'm at now I suppose.

    It's not like I always drink a lot....usually it's just a few shots through the course of the night. Nothing serious. By 2am I'm stone sober and ready to go home. So I don't really experiance any withdrawls from not having it.

    I guess the issue is more so anxiety. I remember not working the weekends when I wasn't old enough to drink yet simply because crowds overwhelmed me. I'm just surprised how helpful a cigarette or a shot or two of soco and limes can calm me down at work! LOL! Who knows maybe I'll get used to it. I'll have to search the boards for some general info on anxiety. I know I've seen it around. Just wondered if anyone has been through similar situations to mine.
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    ^^Yes LOTS of us have problems with anxiety. Personally, when I feel confident and on top of my game I can and do work stone cold sober. Other times when my life is stressful or I don't feel like I look as good, then I need the alcohol. Maybe you can pinpoint if there is something in particular that makes you insecure and causes the anxiety, then work on that?

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    Quote Originally Posted by tRoUbLeMaKeR View Post
    Well I guess if they banned alcohol in my club then I'd likely be at the same crossroad I'm at now I suppose.

    It's not like I always drink a lot....usually it's just a few shots through the course of the night. Nothing serious. By 2am I'm stone sober and ready to go home. So I don't really experiance any withdrawls from not having it.

    I guess the issue is more so anxiety. I remember not working the weekends when I wasn't old enough to drink yet simply because crowds overwhelmed me. I'm just surprised how helpful a cigarette or a shot or two of soco and limes can calm me down at work! LOL! Who knows maybe I'll get used to it. I'll have to search the boards for some general info on anxiety. I know I've seen it around. Just wondered if anyone has been through similar situations to mine.


    As you can see, you are going to get alot of different responses. I think the general concensus is that you are definately not alone. I also suffer from anxiety, but mine has been diagnosed by a doctor. Have you been to a doctor regarding this matter? If you have the means to do so, I recommend it. Especially if it is affecting your everyday life, not just stripping.
    I am so fortunate to now have health insurance, cause my husband got a new job with a big company. I can now go to the doctor and get the medication I need instead of turning to alcohol to take care of it.
    Before we had this insurance though, I would also have to do shots and whatnot to even muster up the guts to get to work, then do more back in the dressing room to get the guts to go on the floor, then once I was on the the floor do more to get the guts to ask for a dance!
    Now, all I do is take one pill and I am good to go for the whole shift. I only drink at work now when I just really feel like it.
    Now to clarify some things: I have dished out this advice at work to girls who have had your similar problem, and have been attacked by the holier-than-thou, sober all the time girls who have never experienced anxiety, and tell me I shouldn't be going around telling people to go get on drugs. (I would halfway expect to maybe get that response on here so I am defending myself now) Also, my anxiety doen not just happen at work and it did not come about because of stripping. I have also had people bark at me that "I am in the wrong business then, cause if you can't do the job sober....." The truth is this is a problem I have had since I was 18 years old. Stripping is a job that involves being around large crowds, being on stage and selling myself to strangers. All things that heighten anxiety! I decided a long time ago though that I am not going to let it affect my life. I love dancing, I love the money and I have a right to "be in this business", sober or not.
    I am in no way TELLING you to go get pills now become some crazy pill popper. All I am saying is that if you feel it is effecting your life enough in a negative way, going to a doctor, or a therapist and talking about it, and maybe getting on some kind of mild anti-anxiety med can help.
    Do not let anyone beat you up about it either. People who have never had anxiety or depression do not understand. Some of us need a little more than chamomile tea to calm down and there is nothing wrong with that!
    I hope this helps. Good luck!

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    ^Ugh I hate that "You are in the wrong business" speech. I got it just the other day. I completely disagree with that statement. With this job, when I am freaking with anxiety I have the option to just take the day off, no questions asked. What a nightmare having to show up at the office and give a report when the idea of dealing with people makes me physically ill. I think I'd be far worse off if I had to go in and risk being fired. Ugh I'd have meltdowns from the pressure if that were the case.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zabrina View Post
    ^Ugh I hate that "You are in the wrong business" speech. I got it just the other day. I completely disagree with that statement. With this job, when I am freaking with anxiety I have the option to just take the day off, no questions asked. What a nightmare having to show up at the office and give a report when the idea of dealing with people makes me physically ill. I think I'd be far worse off if I had to go in and risk being fired. Ugh I'd have meltdowns from the pressure if that were the case.

    Totally.....!
    I made that statement not only to protect myself from the possibility of bitchy responses from others on the forum, but to also let the OP know how to hadle them if she gets them too....

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