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    Little bit of a rant ahead.

    I've been dancing for a very short time. The club I work at hired me initially as a "TLC Girl" who walks around the floor and gives massages. I was offerred the chance to be a dancer, and I jumped on it. However, there were all these things the club never covered with me. For example, I can't come in on my off time with friends unless I get permission from the club first. I went in Saturday with someone, we'd been to other clubs throughout the night, and wanted to go back to our favorite. I saw the director, and he says, "What are you doing here?" I said, "I'm here as a customer tonight." He said, "Did you ask for permission?"

    HUH?? I have to ask permission to spend my money at your club? WTF! I was tipping the stages, buying drinks, tipping the bartender, the shot girl... I really felt like I wasn't welcome there in my off time. I just wish someone actually told us these rules when we started. How am I or other new girls who've never danced before supposed to know these rules?

    Not to mention I've already been accused of doing drugs in VIP (Which I'd never do...my fiance is a cop, for God's sake, and I have WAAAAAAY too much to lose by doing drugs.), and a manager basically said someone said I was doing cocaine in VIP, wouldn't give me the chance to address the accusations, and threatened to not allow me up in VIP anymore.

    Gaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh....it's just frustrating, is all.

    So what are some other strange or rules you ladies have had to learn by experience? Maybe if I hear what other clubs have in place, I can avoid any potential other embarrassing situations.

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    If I were you I would go to the manager and ask if you could speak with him in private. Si him down and say, it seems that I have been getting in trouble a lot lately simply because I'm not familiar with the rules here, and they have never been explained to me. I want to follow the rules and I do not want to have any more problems, so would you mind explaining all of the rules to me so I can avoid issues in the future.

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    Grrr....how infuriatingly frustrating!!! Kaylin has given good advice, I will add that it might also be beneficial to ask if there is a policy handbook/rulebook for employees. As far as the accusations go, be careful who you trust (I'm sure you already know that backstabbers and smack-talking run rampant), keep a low profile, and don't cause trouble even by defending yourself. Let's face it, most managers overlook our individual value and view us all as a dime a dozen. Stay out of sight and out of mind, it's the easiest way to avoid trouble. It might also be a good idea to try other clubs in your area. I travel a little over an hour one way to work at a clean, fair, safe, and profitable club. It is SOOOO worth it! Good luck to you, Crys! Keep your head held high, YOU know your dignity is intact, so f%*# the rest of them.
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    Thanks. Kaylinn, I'll take your advice. I don't work 'til Wednesday, but I'll sit down with the manager who handles us dancers (We've got, like, 4 or 5 managers).
    Amber, I've been thinking about that. This club is my favorite in town, and I want to see if I can ride this out. I'm just worried that if I happen to get a solid day job I've been trying for, if I'll even be welcome there after the fact, know what I mean? Oy. Thank you, ladies. It was just frustrating, especially when I'm there working my ass off and trying to bring people into the club and get people to come back to the club. Maybe my mistake was in working at the club I most like to frequent. Anywhos, I'm going to stop rambling now, haha.

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    Lol, Crys! I know just what you mean! I love my club (for the most part) and sing its praises to anyone who engages me in that particular topic, so it can be especially frustrating and hurtful when you feel like you've been wronged by said beloved club. I know that's maybe putting it a little over the top, but you get my drift. I'll keep an eye out for an update on Thursday.
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    I have the same rule at my club. I also have a written set of rule's. I feel none of my rules are unreasonable. They all have just cause at least to industry standards. They are about half legality rule's and half of what I call " Dancer etiquette ". This rule falls under dancer etiquette. I do think it's bad management policy to introduce rule's as they are broken, it's kinda like making them up as they go.

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    Switch clubs!!

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    I wouldn't switch clubs just yet. Like Kaylinn said--talk to him. As for the rule that you're not allowed to come in on your off night without permission, my club works the same way. The rationale is that they don't want girls coming, seeing the club is dead, and taking off. If you walk in the door you must work 6 hours or you must have approved your customer visit earlier. I think it's silly, but that's what they told me.

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    why did he think u were doing coke? were u looking down at something.

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    What was his reason for accusing you of doing coke? Did he see or hear something? About coming to your club as a customer, I know many clubs that won't allow that either. Maybe there are other strip clubs in your town that you can go to.

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    The place seems shady to me. If things don't improve get out of there cause it will only get worse.

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    The whole Coke thing is ridiculous, I have no real idea where it originated except it originated in VIP somewhere with some girl at some point. The only thing I can think of is this: This guy who has invited me upstairs to VIP several times liks to give dollar bills every few second and I would just start kind of shoving them in my purse. After I can't close my purse anymore, I'll excuse myself to the bathroom and straighten out the bills, fix my make up, then go back out. My assumption is someone has noticed me excusing myself to the bathroom, and assumes that the amount of time spent in there is being spent doing something else. I haven't started charging him by the hour yet (Very very soon that shall change) so I don't feel guilty about any wasted time or money or whatever.

    It's not that I feel the rules are unreasonable. What's unreasonable is the lack of communication between them and the dancers in relaying these rules. But it's almost enough to make me want to dance at another club just so I can go back to the club as a custie for fun. But if I do that, I kinda feel like I would be even LESS welcome. I know it's a matter of learning the business. I'm just trying to figure out if they've mistaken me for someone else or something. Them not letting me defend myself and being assumed guilty of doing something I've never done in my life pisses me off.

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    Follow Kaylinn's advice. It lets mgmt know you're making an effort to "be a good girl" AND that you're not going to be a pushover If the bullshit continues I'd consider switching clubs - there's no need to put up with such bullshit when there are so many clubs!

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