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    Long story short: I danced for a guy and he spent $100 on me. He said "is there a way I can get to know you better" and I gave him my email and suggested he come see me again. We exchanged a few emails and he came and saw me again. We chatted for around 15 minutes and then 15 minutes in Champagne for another $100. I want him to keep coming and seeing me this way but I got this message:

    "i would probably be wasting time if i was not to ask if there is any way to get to know you better?!?!? i know your not looking for a relationship and that is fine because i'm basically at the same point..."

    I am more than willing to be his inside the club friend, have drinks with him and exchange the occassional email. I do really like and respect him. But I want him to keep spending the money on me.

    How can I make that happen when it seems he wants more?

    I'm thinking of asking how his life is going and what not and then adding "as for getting to know me better... I think you are doing a good job so far." and then letting him know my schedule. But is that leading him on?

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    Lightbulb Re: how to clarify and keep him

    Just try something like: You're right, I'm not looking for a relationship; nice to know we're on the same page. As for getting to know me better, my schedule is XXXXX, come see me any time and I'll always be sure to make time for you.
    ETA: My line may not work, I'm just a newbie and have never been in that situation. Just thought I'd put a disclaimer on it. LOL
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    Yeah, ugh. I always hate that stuff. This is why I just take whatever customers come to the club the night of...if they happen to come regularly to see me, then that's fine, but I make it clear I'm not giving them special attention unless they're spending. That's just my style though. I think when they want more, they will bother you until they eventually give up and try someone else. In the meantime, you milk it as best you can...I know you're doing that already. I don't think there's a way to change their mind. I try to keep any and all conversing inside the club though. That directs them to the idea that to see me, or talk to me, they have to visit with some dance money.

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    Default Re: how to clarify and keep him

    He will eventually go away when he realizes he's not getting with you. I would just try to get the most out of him for the time being.

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    Default Re: how to clarify and keep him

    Quote Originally Posted by sparkleeyz View Post
    You're right, I'm not looking for a relationship; nice to know we're on the same page. As for getting to know me better, my schedule is XXXXX, come see me any time and I'll always be sure to make time for you.
    ^^What she said. Perfect.
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