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    this is going to be kind of long, so thanks in advance for reading it. i have a quick temper and tend to over react, so i just want some other opinions on some things that have been going on at work (the school).

    first off, they take advantage of me (i think). my schedule is mon wed fri, 745-245. the first week i worked tues also, the 2nd i had a training on tues/thurs, the 3rd our head teacher was out so they asked me to work both and i said i would come in late on tues, and the 4th week they asked me to come in to go on a field trip so the teacher didnt have to go. i said no to that one. also, last week, without any notice, they told me i had to stay late for a meeting. it isnt fair for them not to tell me in advance, especially since they know i go to work at another job at night. (oh, and i interned there for 3 months prior to officially working, so when i say 1st week and stuff its really my first paid week)

    secondly, i feel like i do a lot of busy work. there are 3 program aides in the classroom, which is what i am. and i'm the one stuck with busy work. today i: peeled velcro off the wall, organized (even though i really cant bc the teacher is so picky and knows just what she wants, so its pointless for anyone else to do it) the cubby, and previously i've cleaned windows. she even admits she has nothing for me to do.

    third, i volunteered to take one of the kids home on mon/fri bc his mom leaves work to get him since she has no ride for him. i go 40 minutes out of my way to do this, and she pays me $20 a day. now, its not about the money. she was VERY rude to me today, because last week i said no, i wouldnt pick him up and take him TO school. i said hi to her when she picked him up, and she said she "just wanted to remind me he doesnt have a ride on friday so he can't come to school." and she said it very snippy. theres no reason for her to tell ME he isnt coming, im not his teacher. i'm doing her a favor and she's going to be rude to me because i won't go even farther out of my way? theres no way i can take him to school in the morning.

    on top of all that, there's the bloodwork. now, that may not seem like a big deal to some. but i get very very sick. its like a day long thing.. first, i have horrible anxiety over it, and then 9 times out of 10 i faint and throw up. i have to sit for at least an hour before i can get up without going right back down. i need someone else to go because then i cant drive myself. i've had issues with them twice about this, because i had to send my vaccine info multiple times because they claimed they didnt get it and it would be easier for me just to get blood drawn. even though it was all on the same sheet and they had some of the info so today i get another email saying i need to get bloodwork. i got upset and the head teacher asked what the big deal was and said to just get it done. sure if it didnt make me sick for hours.. but it does. so when i have proof of vaccines and its THEIR mistake, i'm not putting myself through that.

    i also dont think theyre very organized. besides that ^, the teacher, this morning, insisted we went by baltimore county, when i tried to tell her we go by the city. she insisted we were closed. i had to call the school to prove to her she was wrong. if i had listened to her then me, her, and the asst teacher all wouldve just not showed up today.

    last, i dont enjoy it. i dread going to work every day and consider calling out every morning. i like working with the kids who dont really need it. i get too frustrated working with the very low kids, and i hate doing it.

    i'm thinking about quitting. i'm not happy, at all. i make $12 an hour and work 21 hours a week. every 2 weeks, i get a paycheck between 4-500. i could make that up with an extra night of dancing, even if it was a bad night and i only made $200, i could work an extra night each week. but am i being silly to want to quit? am i making a bigger deal out of things than i need to? i dont know what to do to not hate going there in the morning, and to stop getting so frustrated every day and wanting to leave.

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    Default Re: what would you do? day job problems - please help!

    You took this job as kind of a gateway into the career you're pursuing, right? If so, and if you're serious about this career, I say stick it out. You're supposed to 'pay your dues' with crappy low-level jobs that have little or nothing to do with your line of work in the beginning. You've heard those stories about executives who used to bring coffee and doughnuts as someone's assistant and didn't get any real experience until later in the game. I guess that's how the world works. As far as scheduling and stuff like that, do you have a choice? Do you have supervisor or something there who you can discuss all these issues with. If you can't get your way, at least try to find a decent compromise.

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    Default Re: what would you do? day job problems - please help!

    ^ my schedule is set already. which is why i'm annoyed about having to work extra days (then i cant dance the night before) or stay late.

    as for it being bottom level, its not supposed to be. my job isnt supposed to be busy work. and the other girls in my position were never given this busy work, or else that shit wouldve been organized by now but if my job was to be an assistant or something, i'd understand. but since i didnt do this busy work as an INTERN, its really not cool that i'm doing it now. plus, she admits that she has nothing for me to do so she's giving me busy work.

    my career.. well. i dont know. i get bored very, very easily. i almost didnt take this job, if you remember. i decided on the last day of my internship, because i love my kids. but i dont love my job. i cant really picture what i want to do with my life or look past dancing. im NOT happy with the idea of having an early morning job, doing the same thing day in and day out.

    its really not just one thing, either. its all that put together.

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    Default Re: what would you do? day job problems - please help!

    You should read this:

    That book has a lot of ideas for people who have too many interests to stick to one career. Like, I get bored once I feel I've 'conquered' something. But there's a lot of tips for how to combine things you really are passionate about into a fulfilling career. If you love working with your kids, but you hate the environment in which you do it, maybe that's what needs to change. And if you're really passionate about it, maybe the good money you make from dancing could go towards your career goals, once you figure them out.. You shouldn't continue doing what you hate, that's not good for anyone and that's how you get into a rut.


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    Default Re: what would you do? day job problems - please help!

    i think i might quit. it's not good that i dread going in there every day, and it makes me not want to go to work to dance either bc im so frustrated from the day.

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    Default Re: what would you do? day job problems - please help!

    So are you a classroom aide in a public school system? If the mom of the kid who you're driving around isn't your boss, I'd remind her that you're doing her a favor (and probably let her find someone else a few times). It's possible that she was just bitchy because she was stressed out about the driving situation instead of being bitchy because she thought you owed her something... but who knows. In fact, if the job is making you stressed out, that is one responsiblity that you could drop. 40 more minutes for you to get home and relax before work at the club.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    its a private school for special ed kids. i'm so, so bad at telling people no or quitting or anything.. i want to stop driving him home but i'm scared she'll be mean to me. stupid, i know.

    as for her being stressed out, though.. the girl who used to drive him had a baby. she had MONTHS to line up someone new and she didnt.. her boyfriend, who she lives with, refuses to do it. so i kind of have less sympathy for her since she could have worked SOMETHING out in the months and months she knew the other girl was leaving.

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