I can actually relate to this a LOT! I *did* have a guy friend/fuck buddy/future ex-boyfriend who had a similar reaction when I first started dancing. Before I ever told him I was contemplating dancing, he suggested it to me because he knew I was cute and desperately needed money. But after I started dancing, he made a joke about "How can you dance? You don't strike me as the type who has a very good sense of rhythm" in front of his guy friend.

Like you, this guy had NEVER seen me dance before! And also like you, he was right(I really
couldn't dance for shit) and his comment made me even more self-conscious about my lack of dance skills.

What's even more similar, is that at one point when I knew this guy, he too was married!(but separated, and did eventually finalize the divorce)
Back when I was first looking to get into dancing(God knows I needed the money!), I was told that I wasn't the "dancer type" by more than a few people. Now I wouldn't want it to be the opposite extreme, where people automatically assume that I
must be a stripper(I wrote about this in another thread), but at the same time, I didn't like total discouragement either. For example, my second week dancing. A customer didn't tip me, interrupted our convo to go off to the couchroom with another girl, and later told me, "You're too humble to be a stripper."

Well duhhhh...how else was I going to pay my bills and keep a roof over my head? It wasn't like any of the "real" jobs were hiring me, and trust me I had jobsearched my butt off trying to find one. There were other comments too but I don't really remember them much anymore.
Just wanted to let you know that I can relate. I'm sorry you have to go through this. It is really mean and catty for your guy friend to say this. Either he doesn't realize that his words are so hurtful, or he is trying to be catty because perhaps he's jealous that you have an opportunity to make easy money at such a fun job. After all, it's a LOT harder to be a male stripper, especially since there's not many male strip clubs and I'm sure that the few existing ones are really picky. If I were you, I would disassociate myself from him for a period of time while you're auditioning and getting adjusted to dancing. Focus on getting the job, mastering your hustle, and making money. This guy isn't paying your bills, but dancing can...so as hard as it can be to filter out negativity, take some time away from him and your mutual friends and focus on the job. That's what I did. I'd also recommend not telling a lot of people about dancing, because you're bound to reach a lot of people opposed to stripping, or people who will make catty comments like this douchebag guy.
Does this guy make catty comments like this a lot, or is this a rare occurence for him? If he frequently makes insulting discouragements like this, then I would seriously reconsider my friendship/fuck-buddyship with him. Friends should be there to support you, not put you down when you are trying.
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