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    Okay WTF is with people lately? A coworker/acquaintence of mine was upset last night because not one, but SEVERAL, customers early in her shift made fun of her for having small boobs. When she got off stage and went around the room approaching guys for tips as usual, some overly chunky guy said, "You really should think about spending $4000 on breast implants so you can be beautiful. Even I have bigger boobs than you." WTF?? (If I were her, I woulda said, "Then YOU pay me the $4000 if it means so much to you." My friend didn't say that, but she DID slap him 3 times! ) This made my friend very upset but she regained and recomposed herself when she approached the next customer, and guess what?...he did the same thing! He didn't use the same exact line of course, but he made a crack about her not having boobs. Granted my friend is nearly flat, but she's also very petite and thin, plus she has perky nipples, so it works for her decently(unlike me, who was nearly flat pre-BA with no nipples but I also had a much bigger body frame).

    Overall it was a lousy night moneywise for most of us, which was bad enough. But it's even worse when customers have to add insult to injury. What is their problem?? Do they get off on insulting people?

    I remember pre-BA a few times when customers said mean things about my lack of boobs. It hurt like a razor blade, since I was so self-conscious about it. I wrote a few examples on here about it before. For example, the group of younger guys that came in a whole 2 days before my scheduled BA surgery. They came in a little under a month ago and when the one guy said that he preferred girls with big boobs, I told him to "come see me in a month," hinting that I was getting surgery. Whaddyaknow, they happen to stumble in one month minus two days, saw my flat chest, and one of the guys in the group started yelling and taunting me, calling me a "liar". He told all of his friends + everyone on his side of the bar not to tip to me or talk to me because I was a "liar" and "still flat." This hurt my money a LOT, even though I tried to be friendly to the other guys to counteract what this asshole was saying about me. It resulted in the guy's friends saying "What, do you really think you're entitled to this whole dollar?" despite sliding dollar upon dollar down the cleavage of the much bustier girls' bra tops. There's more stories than that. There was also the time guys taunted me for being flat and it led to me getting into a drunken fist fight brawl with them because I was drunk and couldn't control my temper at them for being called flat. Hells, I still have 2 dents in my skull to prove it.

    So why do guys have to act that way? It is completely unnecessary and mean. For all you guys out there, do you realize how much it can literally ruin someone's day? Seriously. I felt really bad that these guys put down my friend, because she is very cute and she didn't deserve to hear all their shit. Ugh. Okay that is all for now. Anyone have similar stories or ways to combat it?

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    I am barely an A cup so I know exactly how insulting guys can be. One guy told me his ten year old son had bigger tits than me. I've gotten turned down for dances because a guy "liked big boobs." Fortunately I have a phenomenal ass (if I do say so myself ) so if a guy says something about my boobs I'll turn around, bend over, and say "I'm sorry, didn't you see this ass?!" They'll usually laugh and say "yea I guess you're right" and I've gotten dances. I actually haven't gotten too many comments about my boobs lately. It's all about how you feel about yourself. I'm fine with not having boobs. Sure if I won the lottery I'd get them tomorrow, but it doesn't bother me enough to hurt my hustle. If she walks around with her head high and her small chest out, guys more than likely won't have too much to say. When it comes to SC's, guys can smell fear and they somehow seem to know exactly what you're self conscious about and point it out. Why? I really don't know!

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    That's ridiculous! I am naturally large chested and I want to get them reduced! Seriously, guys need to realize BOOBS are BOOBS. That's the wonder of them - big, small, medium, whatever.

    I think guys are more concerned about how our bodies look - which is so stupid, because if there isn't a nice face to go with a body - I won't have it.

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    So why do guys have to act that way?
    because some of them are losers with no self esteem who get off on being mean/rude to women they normally couldn't talk to?

    they think they are "winning" by being mean and/or not letting you "get any of their money". they are arrogant, self absorbed and have NO respect for you/us.

    those types of guys (that mind set) is the #1 thing i hate about stripping.

    it is my whole hearted opinion that no dancer should EVER allow a customer to talk to her that way. do not sit with him, walk away from him (if it's really bad have him thrown out). even if he's saying it about another girl (not you). nip it in the bud, change the conversation, etc. by sitting there or arguing with them you are allowing them to play that game and/or are participating it.

    they don't earn the right to act like that, no matter how high the cover or drink prices are.

    people often say "does stripping make you hate men?" and my answer is "not ALL men" but i can promise you that i now have 0 tolerance for that type of "man" specifically inside or outside the club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    I am barely an A cup so I know exactly how insulting guys can be. One guy told me his ten year old son had bigger tits than me. I've gotten turned down for dances because a guy "liked big boobs." Fortunately I have a phenomenal ass (if I do say so myself ) so if a guy says something about my boobs I'll turn around, bend over, and say "I'm sorry, didn't you see this ass?!" They'll usually laugh and say "yea I guess you're right" and I've gotten dances. I actually haven't gotten too many comments about my boobs lately. It's all about how you feel about yourself. I'm fine with not having boobs. Sure if I won the lottery I'd get them tomorrow, but it doesn't bother me enough to hurt my hustle. If she walks around with her head high and her small chest out, guys more than likely won't have too much to say. When it comes to SC's, guys can smell fear and they somehow seem to know exactly what you're self conscious about and point it out. Why? I really don't know!
    Yeah and for the most part my friend is confident and smiling and a lot of fun to be around. She has a nice figure overall, a nice ass, and she's pretty too. I think she just unfortunately ran into some really rotten apples yesterday. Anyway, I was going to go poke fun of those customers after she told me what they said, but sadly they'd already left the club by that time. Damn. I was looking to provoke trouble with some AL(AL = asshole loser; similar to PL but worse) lol.

    I hear you about guys turning down girls because of their (lack of) boobs. That too happened to my friend last night(when it rains it pours?). This guy was all set on getting a couchdance with her, and then he saw her friend walk by and actually said, "Actually, I think I'm gonna dance with her instead. She has bigger boobs, and I'm a boobs guy." And 3 years ago before I got my BA, guys sometimes asked me if there were any girls with big boobs that were working. That's when I would usually respond with the "Come see me in a month then" line(since I was already scheduled to get my BA), and then they'd usually say, "Actually, I don't mind small boobs, I was asking for a busty girl for my guy friend here" but I think they only blamed it on their friend because they realized that they had come across as an asshole and felt bad. What do you think?

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    ^^ Yep. I used to get crap like that all the time before I had my boobs done. And then of COURSE when I made the appt every guy wa like..NOOoooo you dont need fake boobs. Fuck every one of you. I'll do what I FUCKING WANT to MY body thankyouverymuch.


    And now I get guys from time to time who ask nastily why I "disfigured" myself by getting implants.

    Fuck em all.

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    Is it me, or am I hearing some rougher-than-average reports about working in Philly of late?
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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982 View Post
    My friend didn't say that, but she DID slap him 3 times! )
    I would have loved to have seen this!

    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    because some of them are losers with no self esteem who get off on being mean/rude to women they normally couldn't talk to?

    they think they are "winning" by being mean and/or not letting you "get any of their money". they are arrogant, self absorbed and have NO respect for you/us.

    Exactly! This is exactly why they act like this. Bitter losers who are mad at women in general and madder at pretty women for being so far out of their leagues.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    ^^ Yep. I used to get crap like that all the time before I had my boobs done. And then of COURSE when I made the appt every guy wa like..NOOoooo you dont need fake boobs. Fuck every one of you. I'll do what I FUCKING WANT to MY body thankyouverymuch.


    And now I get guys from time to time who ask nastily why I "disfigured" myself by getting implants.

    Fuck em all.
    i don't have implants. i'm a 34-36 (depending on the bra) full B, sometimes C (bra again).

    i get tons of comments like "when are you getting your boobs?" and "are you going to get boobs?" from customers AND dancers.

    it's like "bitch i HAVE boobs. they may not be huge boobs but they are definitely boobs". i'm not fucking OBLIGATED to get implants because i'm a dancer. not that i think anything is wrong with them. i just don't want em.

    i also get the meaner spirited comments like "how do you make money without tits?" and (one time) "you really expect people to pay to see those little tits?"

    then of course i get tons of comments like "don't ever get implants". "your breasts are the perfect size". "i love your boobs". etc

    so

    you're right. fuck em all. i think all of should make the "implants choice" based on what WE want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    ^^ Yep. I used to get crap like that all the time before I had my boobs done. And then of COURSE when I made the appt every guy wa like..NOOoooo you dont need fake boobs. Fuck every one of you. I'll do what I FUCKING WANT to MY body thankyouverymuch.


    And now I get guys from time to time who ask nastily why I "disfigured" myself by getting implants.

    Fuck em all.
    OMG I can relate so much!! (I find myself agreeing with a lot of the things you say, Cameron) Before I got my boob job, guys would choose the bustier girls over me or they'd make slightly mocking comments about my boobs, but as soon as I admitted to a few customers that I was getting a boob job...they would try their hardest to discourage me, despite my already scheduling the surgery date and paying the deposit! Ugh.

    On the flip side, it's also annoying when guys discourage you from surgery and try to tell you that you're "fine the way you are," but then when you get the surgery, they're all on you like white on rice. Guys who never bothered to hit on me or accept my advances pre-BA literally DROPPED EVERYTHING to make plans with me as soon as they saw me with my boob job! Literally! One of my guy friends who I'd known for 5 yrs pre-BA, would give me one-word answers on AOL Instant Messenger and always claim to be "superbusy," but as soon as I sent him a link to my Myspace site showing a picture of me with my new boobs in a tank top, he IMMEDIATELY started chatting with me a mile a minute, then blew off studying to meet me at a bar later that night LOL...then he tried to coerce me into letting him sleep at my apartment since the hospital he worked at was nearby my place(that part was true, but okay suuure that's the real reason he wanted to stay). LOL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousSeeker View Post
    Is it me, or am I hearing some rougher-than-average reports about working in Philly of late?
    i just wanted to say...

    i'm normally not very judgmental, but i have learned over the past couple years (my current club is near a lot of hotels.. so we get a lot of out-of-towners) to be cautious with philly guys. i swear. 90% of the time they are completely rude/handsy. i haven't noticed it with any other location so collectively. when the eagles played here it was RIDICULOUS. the club was filled with philly fans and i was groped so many times. way more than "normal".

    the only other "type" of guy i'm wary of is foreigners. especially mexican or indian (like.. with thick accents.. not having been in america long). i'm pretty sure it's a culture thing, but i have had almost nothing but bad experiences with both.

    i know it sounds terrible, and i'm not "racist" but... i dunno.. after a certain amount of times it's hard not to be skeptical.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousSeeker View Post
    Is it me, or am I hearing some rougher-than-average reports about working in Philly of late?
    Overall Philly isn't too bad, but it's not the best either. It's been very hit-or-miss lately. Usually my club has an almost guaranteed busy crowd on Friday and Saturday nights, but this week was really slow, presumably due to Valentine's Day.

    But as for customers' rudeness, YES Philly is very rude. Didn't you know?...Philly got voted the #1 unfriendliest/rudest city less than a year ago. They also got voted the #1 ugliest city too LOL, so perhaps the people feel the need to be rude to make up for the self-confidence they lack due to their own fugly selves? Hahaha.

    Assholes are one of the (more minor) reasons as to why I stopped dancing. After the first year or so of dancing, I got really burned out on dancing as a job, and the customers' catty comments just exasperated me that much more. Here I was actively seeking a "real" job, and customers would say snotty comments to rub it in, such as, "Oh, you went to college and now you're stuck working here." Ugh!!!!!

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    I have been working (just outside of) Philly and found it no worse than usual Of course there are always exceptions.

    (Ps Penny I just laughed out loud at your location)

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982 View Post
    Guys who never bothered to hit on me or accept my advances pre-BA literally DROPPED EVERYTHING to make plans with me as soon as they saw me with my boob job!
    Omg that is so true. At the club i used to work at we had this big fat asian regular. He was a total boob man and never said one word to me in the time i had worked there (about 9 months). The first day I came back with my new boobs he came over and introduced himself and asked if I was new!! Ummm no you PL you have only seen me on stage every night you have been here for almost a year...lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    i just wanted to say...

    i'm normally not very judgmental, but i have learned over the past couple years (my current club is near a lot of hotels.. so we get a lot of out-of-towners) to be cautious with philly guys. i swear. 90% of the time they are completely rude/handsy. i haven't noticed it with any other location so collectively. when the eagles played here it was RIDICULOUS. the club was filled with philly fans and i was groped so many times. way more than "normal".

    the only other "type" of guy i'm wary of is foreigners. especially mexican or indian (like.. with thick accents.. not having been in america long). i'm pretty sure it's a culture thing, but i have had almost nothing but bad experiences with both.

    i know it sounds terrible, and i'm not "racist" but... i dunno.. after a certain amount of times it's hard not to be skeptical.
    I actually like Indians for the most part. They tend to be handsy at times and I have to scold them/move their hands away, but they seem to take a liking to me and spend a good amount. I do find that Mexicans do not spend that much and yes, they can be handsy...although a good number of them are also harmless(but cheap), preferring to sit quietly and neither grope/act mean nor buy dances or shots. As for Philly people, I AM from Philly and yes I can verify that our people(as well as NJ) are ASSHOLES! Penny, I am very sorry about the bad experience you had during the Eagles away game. I can relate, because "handsy" and "gropey" is exactly how many of the Philly customers tend to be. It's horrible!

    I have instituted a new policy for dealing with gropey customers...haha I grope them back in annoying lil' ways, such as pinching their butt or the back of their necks, or poking their groin with one of those skinny drink straws they have at bars LOL. I say, give them back a taste of their own medicine!...but wait until you are sure that they aren't spending, because you don't want to burn a potential bridge. But if there's no bridge to burn, haha there's nothing to lose(unless your club has a lot of rules against being annoying. Luckily mine doesn't!).

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    Yeah, some guy told me the other night that my boobs are too small. I was like WTF, they're huge!

    Some men just see strip clubs as a place where they can pay to insult women they'd never get a chance to talk to in the real world.



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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    Fortunately I have a phenomenal ass (if I do say so myself ) so if a guy says something about my boobs I'll turn around, bend over, and say "I'm sorry, didn't you see this ass?!"

    Reminds me of this shirt that I want. On the front it says "Who needs big tits?" and on the back "With an ass like this!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brooklynn06 View Post
    Reminds me of this shirt that I want. On the front it says "Who needs big tits?" and on the back "With an ass like this!"

    I have that shirt!!! Seriously!!!!

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    Wait a minute Lena, aren't you a DD? What kind of idiot was this guy? LOL. Or do you think he was making a comment in sarcasm? IDK.

    Last year, some butch girl customer that was hitting on me all night tried to tell me that my boobs were small(she didn't say they were "too small," just small). Mine are between a full 36C and small 34D. She said that they were "small" in comparison to hers, 36D. But the thing is, if she truly was a 36D, her shirt did not show it at all. She was wearing this baggy turtleneck shirt with no bra and although she was a bigger sized girl and it's very possible she had big boobs under there, it's not like she was doing much to accentuate them for someone who had to brag she was 36D LOL.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post

    Some men just see strip clubs as a place where they can pay to insult women they'd never get a chance to talk to in the real world.

    Yes. I have theory about this....it's a role reversal. The roles are switched when men walk into strip clubs. Instead of them pining for our attention, we are pining for theirs. Of course it's really not their attention we want it's their money.....and we all know that but....
    These guys are pathetic losers with no self esteem who have to pay for a woman to even fart in their direction. They are bitter towards women.
    My point is, alot of these fucks feel bad about themselves so they come to a place where the roles are reversed and they feel they have the right to say these things.

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    I am barely a B-cup and I can only remember guys saying something negative about my breasts twice; one of the times I overheard them when they thought I was out of earshot and one time these two friends told me I'd make more money if I got implants....(more men giving us money-making advice... ) I guess I am very lucky that this happens so rarely. Maybe it's because I'm not self-conscious?

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    oh, philly people are so rude!

    But this isn't a recent phenomenon and it's not just about bodies. It's just about everything!

    Have you seen that new show on A&E called Parking Wars? It's basically people reacting to getting parking tickets. Guess where they film it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena View Post
    Yeah, some guy told me the other night that my boobs are too small. I was like WTF, they're huge!
    What are people saying in response to the comments on breast size (good comebacks)? Has anyone had management side with the customer?
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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousSeeker View Post
    What are people saying in response to the comments on breast size (good comebacks)? Has anyone had management side with the customer?


    I usually don't have very good comebacks, I just walk away. As for management, unless a guy gets physical they don't do much. When a guy is rude they just say ignore it and move on. Freedom of speech, ya know?

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    When I was in my early twenties, pre-BA, I got off center stage and I went to go find a guy that had said he wanted a dance. He was sitting near the LD area and he saw me and told me that he wanted a dance from so-n-so because 'she had tits'. I promptly cried! Embarrassing. He felt badly and tried giving me money but I wouldn't take it (stupid me). In the end, I let that one comment completely ruin my night ~ never again!

    I don't get any more comments about my tits, but of course I get comments about other shit. Jerkoff guys like that will find ANYTHING to pick on ladies about ~ your thighs, your shoes, your outfit, your toenails for god's sake...it doesn't matter. Those guys are certainly not the norm, and obviously don't have an ounce of class. I am sure damn near all of us have been upset and/or hurt by someone else's stupidity and sometimes it's hard to remember that those people are acting out of just that - STUPIDITY.

    Fuck 'em.

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