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    My homegirl pissed me off the other day, and I'm not sure what course of action if any I should take, if any. She strips at this ghetto-ass club, if she didn't work there I probably wouldn't go there and told her this, anyways, me and some of my friends go up there and hang out with her, buy her drinks, and me I just tip her on-stage (I've only ever gotten dances from her when I'm pretty drunk because otherwise it just feels weird.) We don't mind spending money on her because she's a friend and we all wanna see her do better.

    Well, the other day I go in to see her because she had called me. So I walk in and see she's doing dances. My face lit up because I thought to myself, hey she's making money. So I take a seat and order a beer. I guess about 45 minutes go by and finally she's finished with them. She then goes on stage and I did a money shower and so did some other people. At this point I'm thinking shit, this girls having a good day. Etc. etc. etc. we hang out and before I left she made me promise to go see her on her b-day which is coming up. As I'm hugging her good-bye I told her I'm happy she had a good day money making wise. She then drops the bomb that the custies she was with when I got there she didn't charge because the girl of the couple was hot! I was beyond slightly inebriated at this point so it didn't sink in right away and I thought she was joking. When I saw she wasn't I kissed her on the cheek and left.

    Half-way home it hit me. Me and my friends always helped her out because we know Houston is a cut-throat market where alot of the competition is doing extras. This chick doesn't do extras and we thought that was something that hurt her cash flow, but we respect her for that and always encourage her to keep doing what she's doing. However, she worked for free for damn near and hour.

    So my question is this. Do my friends deserve to know this? Should I have a pull your head out your ass intervention for this chick? Should I just do nothing? This seems like the wisest choice, but I can't stand seeing my friends do stupid shit. Should I wait until after her birthday before thinking about what to do? Most likely I will, because lately I've been feeling lazy. Anyways any advice would be appreciated.
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    Yes. You should completely tell your friends that she did a free lapdance for someone else, and that she is screwing them by not giving them free dances too.
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    OK, I'm old. "Homegirl" ? Does this mean she is your girlfriend? an acquaintance?? A room mate???

    In any event, honestly, what is the difference? You tipped her, you are supposed to tip dancers. You did a good thing. If she is dumb enough to do free dances for some guys that's her problem, not yours or your friends. Telling them just seems a bit childish to me.
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    Yeah...she was having some fun on the job. Nothing wrong with that. Nice that you tipped her on stage. When you go visit her on her b'day, just be nice to her and give her a big tip.
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    albeit a stupid choice on her part... i don't see why you should feel "cheated"?

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    If you got what you paid for, you should not feel cheated.

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    I get where you're coming from, but I wouldn't feel cheated... I would on the other hand stop "helping" her.

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    That was cool of you to come in for her with your buds. I get why you'd be pissed to find out that she's got no qualms hittin ya'll up for support like that, but yet she turns down money from stranger patrons because ZOMG she wuz hott! Tsk.

    If ya don't mind, how long has she been dancin? I'm guessin not long. Anyway, no I wouldn't let all the homies in on it, she'd definitely get defensive then, counter-productive. I'd suggest you cool a few days if ya need to so you don't come off bad, and then mention it to her tactfully in confidence. If it were me I'd say somethin like...

    Hey you're my friend so I gotta tell ya somethin- I worry about you in that rough club- I know it's gotta be hard to bank when ya gotta compete with less scrupulous girls. And it really worries me when I see ya goin on a roll, but then not takin your due like the other night. I mean, that chick mighta been hot, but you're hotter AND a bitchin dancer, so I don't understand why you'd ever feel like someone shouldn't have to pay you. You dance, they owe, that's it! Please don't let people slide like that anymore- it's gotta hurt your money and it just made me mad to see ya get shorted like that. Just sayin.

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    It's really none of your business what she chooses to do at work. She doesn't sound like a very good dancer if she gives away free dances but that is her choice.

    I'm not really sure why you are bothered by this or why you would even think you need to tell your friends about this?
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    Quote Originally Posted by datchapin View Post
    I can't stand seeing my friends do stupid shit. ... Should I have a pull your head out your ass intervention for this chick?
    P.S. He never said he felt cheated.

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    I'd stop tipping as much. Continue to tip, but not as much. Girl could be making money, but doesn't. It's not your problem, but if you think she's doing wrong, don't support her actions.

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    Is it "phairest of them all" or "phairest of the mall"? I've wondered ever since I saw the name.
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    If you're invested in someone's happiness and they're in a position to listen to you, then offer them advice. If not, let others be adults and make their own choices.

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    Either and both, just my lil double entendre ;]

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    If you are going to a strip club simply to give money to a friend of yours, then there's something wrong with that picture. Let the girl do her job and don't worry about how she does, just like you do with all of your other friends. Do you go out of your way to help you accountant friend get clients, your lawnmower friend? I didn't think so. And if your lawnmower friend does his girlfriend's yard for free do you get pissed off? I didn't think so.

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    I might say something to her about giving it away for free- and personally I wouldn't be helping her out (unless you want to get dances from her.)

    Why support stupid people unless you're attracted to that sort of bad judgment?

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    To everyone that responded thanx. It really helped alot to get others perspectives. Yoda homegirls to me is just another way of saying friend. Gentleman X thanx, those were good analogies, and no I don't go to the club just to give money away, I enjoy the strip clubs here. Phairestofthemall, thanx alot. Thank you for your wisdom.
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    I have a feeling she is just niave and doesn't realize what she did was wrong. Who knows?

    Don't tell your friends
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    Homegirl sounds like a friend.....

    I use this phrase often (even in business settings).

    Hi Homey, how are the quarterly figures looking?

    Homegirl, please analyze this data and try to determine any trends.

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    I hate it when dancers bf come into club - I feel like telling those guys "hey get a job."

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