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    Why dose every keep asking me that is soooooo very rude yes i have 5 kids each of them I want and love i do not plan on getting my tubes tied I do however plan on getting something semi permiant like mirana but how is that your buissiness. I mean sersiosly strangers and ppl i barely know are asking me about steralization which is a very perssonenel thing I don't want to disscusse it or justify my explation with anyone. expcept you ladies of course but thats becuse i choose to express myself here its not like someone is starting a thread to debet krchab's ferilitly. thank you end rant.

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    ^it goes both ways.

    If you have a few kids, people assume you want to get permanently sterilized.

    If you have no kids, people assume you want dozens and suggest fertility treatments.

    And if you're me, and want no kids, ever, people laugh and tell you that you'll change your mind.

    Why people can't mind their own business, and let us make our own choices, is beyond me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kandie_kitten View Post
    Why people can't mind their own business, and let us make our own choices, is beyond me.
    Seriously! I remember when I was pregnant the following was said to me...

    STRANGER: "Aren't you a little too young to be having kids?"
    ME: " I'm pushing 30. Thanks for the compliment."

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    People these days can be quite insensitive. Really, they should be complimenting you on your family and how hard you work to take care of them. Just because a dancer has kids does not mean her tubes should be tied! How Rude!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kandie_kitten View Post
    And if you're me, and want no kids, ever, people laugh and tell you that you'll change your mind.

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    I hate this. Sorry to thread jack slightly but when I tell people I don't want kids they'll always say something along the lines of. "You're young, you'll change your mind."
    Yeah maybe I will maybe I won't but you wouldn't be saying that if I was a man. Why am I expected to want children just because I'm a woman?? Do I love kids? Of course! But that doesn't mean that I wanna be making loads of them for myself. I think its great for other people to have kids but it not for me. People have actually told me that they felt sorry for me! Wtf?? Mind your own business!

    Ok, sorry, rant and thread jack over.



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    krchab-I agree with the other posters. It is very rude and insensitive of people to ask you that. Not having children, having children, or how many children to have--those are all very personal decisions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by oregonchick View Post
    People these days can be quite insensitive. Really, they should be complimenting you on your family and how hard you work to take care of them. Just because a dancer has kids does not mean her tubes should be tied! How Rude!
    If she comfortably supports five children, I think that is rude.
    If she can't support five kids comfortably, I think it's advice to be taken in stride.

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    But... is it as bad as the tummy-touchers?
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    it's just one of the (many) thinks people feel like they have a right to stick their nose into.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21 View Post
    But... is it as bad as the tummy-touchers?
    I HATED TUMMY TOUCHERS!!! Ew!

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    Yup people are always nosy as fuck when talking to women about children. It's freakin annoying..

    thread jack/ what about booby touchers? I am always getting molested by women who think it's okay to reach out and touch my breasts. Just because you have a vagina? grr
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    Quote Originally Posted by PuertoRicanPinup View Post

    thread jack/ what about booby touchers? I am always getting molested by women who think it's okay to reach out and touch my breasts. Just because you have a vagina? grr
    Sorry thread jack upon a thread jack:
    OMG I thought I was the only that felt that way. I use to get molested all the time in Japan. Mostly because they didn't think my boobs were real.
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    Some of it is nosiness, sure, but some of it is concern. You don't seem happy, you seem extremely depressed and overwhelmed, and we just don't want to see you turn out like Andrea Yates.

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    Well, I'm sorry if my asking offended you, but you've posted almost daily about how depressed and overwhelmed you are in life. You have been vey open about it, so I didn't think it was out-of-line to ask. It seems like a reasonable thing that you would at least consider getting your tubes tied after having five children.

    Most people can't imagine what it would be like to have so many young children, and that's one of many reasons that they might be nosy. They might also worry about you since your husband is away for long stretches and you are prone to deep depression and anxiety. Perhaps they are just looking out for you. But like others have said, if you are able to support all of them without any government/taxpayer assistance, then it isn't anyone else's business.

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    It's nobody's business even if she is using the government or taxpayers assistance. What do you think it's there for?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    Well, I'm sorry if my asking offended you, but you've posted almost daily about how depressed and overwhelmed you are in life. You have been vey open about it, so I didn't think it was out-of-line to ask. It seems like a reasonable thing that you would at least consider getting your tubes tied after having five children.

    Most people can't imagine what it would be like to have so many young children, and that's one of many reasons that they might be nosy. They might also worry about you since your husband is away for long stretches and you are prone to deep depression and anxiety. Perhaps they are just looking out for you. But like others have said, if you are able to support all of them without any government/taxpayer assistance, then it isn't anyone else's business.
    O i did not direct this post at you i did not even relize you asked i was more talking about ppl i see in the street like in the grocery store and places not on this bord I am sorry if you thought that.

    I am not on any assistince of any kind not even wic my husband and i take care of our own on our own.

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    a little offtopic, but just out of curiousity.....krchab will the kid you're having in 5 days be your 5th or 6th kid? also, are you planning on having more?

    and yes i agree it is rude to suggest sterilization or whatever. its your family!

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    Hey babe - as long as you love your children and know what causes pregnancy theres no need for sterilization if its not what you want. Unlike my friend who I swear doesnt realize what causes pregnancy. Duh.

    Its very rude and insensitive and as long as youre happy then f*ck what everyone else thinks/says. I think big families are awesome (not for me) but how great for the children when they grow up to have so many siblings, cousins, etc. I wish I had more brothers and sisters.

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    I feel for you.

    I remember just after I got married being so annoyed at all the people asking me when I plan to have a baby.

    Never understood why they thought my reproductive organs were any of their business. Still don't either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MixedBabe88 View Post
    If she comfortably supports five children, I think that is rude.
    If she can't support five kids comfortably, I think it's advice to be taken in stride.
    i KIND OF agree....

    honestly, and i know i will get flack for this, but i think it's selfish to have more than a couple kids biologically even if you CAN take care of them. overpopulation is a REAL problem folks, and there are plennnnnty of children who already need families.

    also, i'm not saying it "can't" be done, but the care and attention you can give your children IS divided and stressed the more you have. not to mention that having many children puts stress on the adults in the family and can lead to all sorts of problems.

    i'm sorry if that opinion isn't popular, but this is one of the very few topics i have a super strong opinion on.

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    ^^^ I agree.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AJM1987 View Post
    It's nobody's business even if she is using the government or taxpayers assistance. What do you think it's there for?
    krchab - People have no sense of discretion any more. I've had similar issues with strangers. Telling me I just have to have 1 more, or that I should stop now because 2 is plenty. It is none of their damn business. Just politely tell them that you and your husband will be the ones to decide the particulars about your family planning. If that doesn't work tell them to fuck off.


    Regarding the above post.

    It's there to support people who have had a setback and can no longer take care of the children they have. Not people who keep having kids knowing good and well they can't support them. There is a person in my family that has had children just to get the extra money. She then spends it on pills. The kids cost her and her hubby nothing because the grandparents support them and pay for all necessities. To her they are just meal tickets that the hard-working taxpayers of our country pay for. There are many cases such as this and it sickens me.

    When I just completed our taxes and relized our total tax liability is over $40,000 I had to point this out. Some people seem to think this is just magical money that doesn't cost anyone. This is not the case.

    Why should everyone else have to pay through the nose in order to take care of the children of some people who know in advance that they cannot afford them? This is wrong, wrong, wrong, and completely warps the intent of this wonderful public assistance program.

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    ^^^ Agreed 100%

    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    i KIND OF agree....

    honestly, and i know i will get flack for this, but i think it's selfish to have more than a couple kids biologically even if you CAN take care of them. overpopulation is a REAL problem folks, and there are plennnnnty of children who already need families.

    also, i'm not saying it "can't" be done, but the care and attention you can give your children IS divided and stressed the more you have. not to mention that having many children puts stress on the adults in the family and can lead to all sorts of problems.

    i'm sorry if that opinion isn't popular, but this is one of the very few topics i have a super strong opinion on.
    But some people want their own biological children and not someone elses child that now has emotional, mental, physical problems. I DO understand because Id rather take my friends 7 year old who has major problem than have a biological child BUT I wouldnt want some random kid with problems. I guess I am selfish. Dunno... its like a double edged sword...

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    ^^^ Because all adopted kids have emotional, mental, and physical problems, and all biological children are perfectly healthy.

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    ^^ Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but wasn't she saying that her friends child does have problems, but she would rather take a child she knows, assuming both would have troubles?

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