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    Okay - situation: My mom got me a car for graduation. She just signed for it and used her credit. I paid the down payment, paid the payments, etc. When I went to college she said she'd take care of the payments for a while so I wouldn't have to worry about it. Well after a while she stopped paying the payments and didn't tell me and I ended up almost having it reposessed. With some help I managed to get out of that scrape. Well - then she ended up filing for bankruptcy and included my car in it.THe payments for the bankruptcy come out of hers and my stepfathers paycheck. The portion of it that is from my car is about $100 a month. Though my car payment itself was $345. So she told me I was in charge of my payments now and that I was required to still pay her the $350 even though thats not what its actually costing her per month.

    Well I agreed to pay it anyway, but told her that I would pay her $150 a week for car/insurance/and phone because thats what she wanted. But that I was flat broke from a recent school emergency and wouldn't be able to start paying her for about two weeks. (when I got paid)

    She called yesterday and said I'd better have $300 for her tonight or she was taking my car and keeping it. She's dead serious and said that if I dont' let her in the gate where I live she will call the cops. I haven't called her back yet because I don't know what to say. I don't have $300. And she knows that.

    I really just want to give her back the fucking car and tell her to have a nice life. I've done nothing but try and get better and recover from all the fucked up things in my life and be a normal human being that is happy and has a normal amount of stress instead of constantly freaking out about everything and having my mom call me all the time screaming at me.

    BUT - then I have no car, no source of public transportation because I live out in the middle of nowhere and a cab ride to work if I could even find one to come out here would be 120 miles a days worth of pay for a cab five days a week and I'd never be able to go anywhere else.

    I'm feeling trapped in a corner and have no idea what to do. She refuses to understand that I don't have the money and that I will give it to her when I do.

    She wants me to start dancing again and that would be REALLY bad for me right now. I can not handle it and will not try to sabotage the work I've been doing on becoming mentally healthy again. Besides the people letting me live in their guest house (childhood friend's parents.) Are helping me get better and will not accept me stripping right now because it wouldn't help me get better and thats why they are helping me. I told her this and she says "You can move back in with me and dance a few nights a week and pay me $300 a week!".....Uh?

    She's become a toxic person in my life in the way that she has slipped into alcoholism and calls me drunk every night telling me basically she hates me and everything wrong in her life is my fault and her marriage falling apart is my fault and I don't care about her etc.....

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    Sorry that was so long. If anyone reads it - thanks.

    I have to call her back soon. I don't know what to do.

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    wait, am i reading this correctly? she wants you to pay so she can take the extra money, since you'd be paying more than what she owes?

    if thats the case, let her call the cops. whts she gonna do? tell them you wont give her money that you DONT OWE HER?

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    I read it all Pooka, and I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Unfortunately I don't know what you could do either but I wanted to post to tell you that I'm sorry and I hope this works out. :hugs:

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    Can YOU call the cops first and alert them that she may be coming by? That shes been harassing you and will cause a disturbance?

    What about the friends you stay with? Can they talk some sense into her?Maybe give you rides or help you get another car so you can give this one back and tell her to fuck off?

    Whenever she calls...as SOON as it turns negative, hang up. Turn your phone off. Tell her you will be doing so. Do NOT tolerate abuse...not even from your mom. That isnt going to make you better. You CAN hang up on her and its OK.

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    I think the problem is the car is apparently in her mother's name. She has every legal right to repossess it. However, then she has to pay for it. If that's what she wants I suppose that's what she'll have to do.

    I don't know what advice to give you honey. I can only offer internet hugs!

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    Thanks guys.

    Alot of what's caused me problems in my life has stemmed from her negativity, emotional abuse, bad habits, and the idea that she should feed off her children instead of feeding her children.

    I want to just put an end to it now but there is no other option for transportation. The friends who are helping me now would love to help me but they just don't have the money to help me get another car and they both work during the day.

    It sucks. I work 45 hours a week at a mind numbing office job. Then I go to school full time at night and do really well. Yet she makes me feel like a complete, irresponsible loser.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheTempest View Post
    I think the problem is the car is apparently in her mother's name. She has every legal right to repossess it. However, then she has to pay for it.
    Remind her of that. If she takes the car back..she gets NOTHING. SO wait 2 weeks and get paid...take it back and get nothing..ever.

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    You poor thing. I really understand how you feel, theres been times in my life when my mum has been a really toxic person in my life and its almost impossible to deal with. Could you try to placate her with any money you have when she shows up. That might make her quieten down a bit till you can afford to give her the rest.
    Also, I don't think you should be giving her any more than you owe her. I know she might be in a mess finacially but she doesn't sound like she deserves any support from you.



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    Quote Originally Posted by PookaShell View Post
    Thanks guys.

    Alot of what's caused me problems in my life has stemmed from her negativity, emotional abuse, bad habits, and the idea that she should feed off her children instead of feeding her children.

    I want to just put an end to it now but there is no other option for transportation. The friends who are helping me now would love to help me but they just don't have the money to help me get another car and they both work during the day.

    It sucks. I work 45 hours a week at a mind numbing office job. Then I go to school full time at night and do really well. Yet she makes me feel like a complete, irresponsible loser.
    I know the feeling. But you're NOT an irresponsible loser. You're working to better yourself, and take care of yourself at the same time and it's rough. Parents are supposed to help but it seems like she's taking out her problems on you by putting a financial burden on you.

    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    Remind her of that. If she takes the car back..she gets NOTHING. SO wait 2 weeks and get paid...take it back and get nothing..ever.
    Well, that's almost right. She'll get debt. The car and the debt fall on her. If she wants the amount she's paying for the car now, you might be willing to negotiate. Otherwise she'll be stuck with it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PookaShell View Post
    Yet she makes me feel like a complete, irresponsible loser.
    No way. I can't let you say stuff like that. You're doing really well, better than I could do, better than many others could do. You've come through a lot, you work hard, your ambitious. Don't allow her to make you feel this way. I know its really tough right now but things won't always be this way. I can tell your working really hard to try to make your life better and it will, you just have to keep going.
    Me and my mum went through a terrible time a few years ago, our relationship has always been up and down, I didn't even talk to her for a year. Now things are better, we don't have a great relationship but we have a relationship which is 1000 times better than it ever has been. What I'm trying to say is that things won't always be the way they are now. Don't let anyone make you feel like that. Your not a loser, your not irresponsible, see my sig. Hope things work out for ya hoeny, am thinkin of ya,



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    I wish I could give her a little money now to get her off my back. I have a grand total of $25 right now and an empty gas tank. Which I can get by fine on until I get paid if she would just shut up and chill for a little bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Polekitten View Post
    No way. I can't let you say stuff like that. You're doing really well, better than I could do, better than many others could do. You've come through a lot, you work hard, your ambitious. Don't allow her to make you feel this way. I know its really tough right now but things won't always be this way. I can tell your working really hard to try to make your life better and it will, you just have to keep going.
    Me and my mum went through a terrible time a few years ago, our relationship has always been up and down, I didn't even talk to her for a year. Now things are better, we don't have a great relationship but we have a relationship which is 1000 times better than it ever has been. What I'm trying to say is that things won't always be the way they are now. Don't let anyone make you feel like that. Your not a loser, your not irresponsible, see my sig. Hope things work out for ya hoeny, am thinkin of ya,

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    If I had a cpl hundred to spare right now I'd send it to you. I know that doesnt really help...sorry.

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    I'm so sorry sweetie No one deserves to be treated that way, especially by their own mother.

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    You guys always help. I'm on the phone with her right now. She's being horrible. Okay. I can make it through this.

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    Hey, let us know how it goes, x



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    Can we beat her up? Would that help? Bunches of angry strippers waving stiletto's?

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    Ugh. I promised I wouldn't cry while I was talking to her. Someone say something funny.

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    Look at my sig. You are so funny, don't forget it!


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    *grabs a stuffed animal and sings pooka-style* It's just another manic mondayyyyy...wish it were sunday.....cuz that's my fun day..... an I don't have to run day, it's just another manic monday....

    If I had a camera, I'd use my cat in place of the stuffed animal and upload it to youtube for you.
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    pooka.

    what did the ghost say to the bee?

































    BOO!Bee!

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    Imagine us all naked infront of you shaking the boobies



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    Now we're showin you some booty.



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