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    ok... me and hubby have posted before on going to the club as a couple and kinda being outcasted (ok before it starts, yes we tip - almost all the girls on stage, both of us) anyway, I had a thought. Since there is a concern among dancers about jealous and bitchy women, are couples that sit further away from each other somewhat more ~approachable~? I was thinking, we usually sit very close, kinda cuddling. Well, that could be construed as "closed off" or maybe univiting, territorial? I could be rambling... but I would like thoughts if dancers have that perception?

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    Nope. Wrong perception.

    Couples should always make the first move. Say hi to a dancer, ask her to join you, suggest that she give the hubby a dance, etc.

    Make the first move.

    Some dancers are wary of couples. I have had more than a few nasty experiences with bitchy/jealous girlfriends getting drunk and acting up. So as long as you are friendly and open the girls will flock to you.
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    ^^^ After a few nasty experiences, I let couples come to me. I'm always delighted to find a cool sexy couple but they need to let me know they're interested first.

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    well, darn... I am friendly! I just thought I might have been onto something there. I am not hideous...mean or intimidating. Ok, wish us luck!

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    I wish you lots of luck and lots of happy dances. Enjoy!
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    Good luck!!! I think there are all sorts of tid bits of advice on here for customers, and a bit about what we think of couples. I personally never make the first move and don't generally give attention to couples, but lately there have been some awesome couples coming in and I have been loving them tons!
    Def. make the first move, walk up to a dancer and ask her for the dance, we also pay attention to couples that seem to tip us more than the other dancers if they like us the most.
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    I've had the male in the couple ask me to sit down, only to be yanked by the arm and tossed off his lap by the wife 30 seconds later. From now on I will wait to be invited by both halves of the couple. If nobody is crazy, and the wife is wearing panties I am fine with dancing for couples but I will be gun shy to approach them thanks to bad experiences.

    Perhaps if you, the wife, invite the ladies to come by your table? Make it clear that you are cool. Try not to come off as some pushy swinger who's looking to pick up a girl for a threesome.

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    I simply won't approach couples. It's too intimidating for me. I'd rather they come to me.
    But yes sitting there cuddling will 100% make you look unapproachable. I always think girls who are doing this are doing it so dancers WONT approach, it looks like they are protecting their man.

    Best just to go up and approach the girl you are interested in.

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    ^I agree with this.

    Whenever i saw a cuddling couple, I assumed that a)the woman was jealous and trying to show that he was "her man"...kind of a "back-off" signal to strippers or b) that they were just there to watch to enjoy as a couple, not interested in dances

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    I ignore couples like the plague. I like it when I'm on stage and the chick will come up tip and tell me her husband would like a dance (or the guy coming up asking for a dance for his girl). This way you know both parties are cool.

    NOTHING is more awkward than sitting with a guy and then the wife walks up...::shivers::....

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    I have gone to SCs numerous times with an ex, whoever it was would go get the dancer she liked, not me. Sometimes with the SO ex we would get the dances as a couple, but mostly the women got them on their own. I like letting the women pay full attention to each other, I don't have to see everything to know it's hot. They have all been dancers in the last few years and I think that makes it easier for the working dancers to relax with the women I am there with, but the same ideas will work better I think.

    It has frequently happened that when the women go to tip someone or use the bathroom or are busy getting dances a dancer will approach me, I say come check back or maybe if I'm sure she might like her I might say stick around and see what happens if you have the time. If they can see her tipping I will sometimes say "Go get her, there she is, maybe she'll like you!"
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    Couples should always make the first move. Say hi to a dancer, ask her to join you
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    QFT.

    Works for me.
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    It definitely makes a big difference if the woman of the couple approaches and asks for a dance or tips me on stage. When I see couples at the stage, I will always pay LOTS of attention to the woman in an effort to make her feel more comfortable and hopefully let her enjoy herself. I agree that less cuddling may make you appear more approachable to the dancers, and I also agree that you may still have to make the first move. If I go to a strip club as a customer with a man, I always pick the girl I want a dance from and approach her. Sometimes, I tip her on stage and she STILL won't approach! I hope you will understand that most of us have been burned by the female half of a couple and give us some slack. :-)

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    I think most dancers avoid couples because its too much work compared to dealing with a single guy. I know alot of dancers who also won't deal with couples because they always get invited to do a threesome at the couples house and such. That is really offensive to most dancers as you can imagine. You should always approach the dancer you are interested in and tip her on stage. I would not ask a girl for a dance but wait to be approached by a dancer who is more couple-friendly. You may wait for awhile but its better to get a dance from a couple-friendly girl than some random dancer who you think is hot but may do a crappy couple dance.

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    I don't normally bother with couples because they are not "hustle worthy". Like if they are planning on spending money, they generally know what they want and you are not going to sell them. Couples are into each other - they are interested in eye candy, not "personality" and they don't need me to make them feel "special" or to amuse them. Or such is my general experience. There is no way to sit or stand or act that will change that; you are just not a good hustling bet as part of a couple. It's not personal; you just have to reconcile yourself to seeking out the dancer you want.
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    Not to be a bitch, but IMHO I think you're doing something to scare off the dancers if you are consistantly having this problem at more than one strip club.

    I don't always like dancing for couples, but I will generally ask them if they want a dance. (I don't mind couples either, just saying)\

    If not ONE girl is approaching you, you're doing something fucked up.

    Also, as I mentioned in a seperate thread it is extremely rude not to tip EVERY Girl on stage when you are sitting at the stage, and you are two people, so you should both tip. If there is a girl you don't care to tip on stage, you should get up and walk away from the stage and come back.

    Also, it's only a dollar. I don't care if it's the ugliest girl ont he planet, she deserves a dollar.
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    I don't enjoy dancing for couples, it's double the work (ego stroking for 2, etc. ), plus dancing for girls is awkward to me. I used to enjoy it, but I steer clear of couples and even if I am asked (unless it's dead) I will politely decline. However, if they make it known that they want a VIP or want to spend a certain amount of money to make it worth my time I will oblige. I wouldn't take it personal if you aren't getting approached much, but sitting far away from eachother might make it look like you are mad at him and I would stay far far away from a couple like that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    Not to be a bitch, but IMHO I think you're doing something to scare off the dancers if you are consistantly having this problem at more than one strip club.

    I don't always like dancing for couples, but I will generally ask them if they want a dance. (I don't mind couples either, just saying)\

    If not ONE girl is approaching you, you're doing something fucked up.

    Also, as I mentioned in a seperate thread it is extremely rude not to tip EVERY Girl on stage when you are sitting at the stage, and you are two people, so you should both tip. If there is a girl you don't care to tip on stage, you should get up and walk away from the stage and come back.

    Also, it's only a dollar. I don't care if it's the ugliest girl ont he planet, she deserves a dollar.
    I disagree with a couple of points (or maybe just your assumptions or the way you put it). The first, I don't see where in her post here she said that she's sitting right up by the stage. If that's a reference to another thread when she said that's where they sit, then my bad. But if they're in the general audience, I don't think they're obligated to tip.

    And related to that, I disagree that all dancers deserve a tip. It's not really about the cost (although if there are 100 dancers on stage over the course of a night, that adds up!), it's about the value call. As a customer, if someone doesn't meet my standards for an attractive dancer (in looks, moves and attitude) then I don't see any reason to give her my "approval." It's like saying that every guy who tries to talk to you at a bar is worth 5 minutes of your time. No, they're not. Just because you both happened to be there doesn't mean that you have to indiscriminate and say that he's as worthy of your time (or in the above situation, money) as the next guy. Waste of resources that would be better spent elsewhere.

    JMO. Although if you were saying that if you're sitting at the tip rail, you'd better be paying, then I agree and disregard the previous ramble.


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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    Not to be a bitch, but IMHO I think you're doing something to scare off the dancers if you are consistantly having this problem at more than one strip club.

    I don't always like dancing for couples, but I will generally ask them if they want a dance. (I don't mind couples either, just saying)\

    If not ONE girl is approaching you, you're doing something fucked up.

    Also, as I mentioned in a seperate thread it is extremely rude not to tip EVERY Girl on stage when you are sitting at the stage, and you are two people, so you should both tip. If there is a girl you don't care to tip on stage, you should get up and walk away from the stage and come back.

    Also, it's only a dollar. I don't care if it's the ugliest girl ont he planet, she deserves a dollar.
    Firstly, Sunday Morning~ Thank you for your retort to the above already, it was kind and I appreciate...

    Secondly Vegas Princess - Although I appreciate your effort not to come across as a bitch... well it was taken that way. We sit at tables, not at the stage. We also tip every girl and do not discriminate based on "looks". We only go to one club and actually do have a few dancers that we are friendly with as well as some wonderful shot girls that have since left. We drink, chat and laugh. I always have a smile on my face and the dancers are very talkative when I go to the stage. I have never been rude to a dancer, ever. The dancers seem to swarm to the single men, thats for sure. Even when I tip and the girls are happy and smiling and I ask them to come dance, they never seem to make it to us. And yes I point to where we are sitting. I guess we are not "hustle worthy" as a couple? The few we know are really great, however even some of those have left the club for greener pastures.

    So, I did take some offense to your theories that we take up stage seat, don't tip and I could be an ogre. I am not. I have never been anything other than friendly as well as followed general "strip club" etiquette.

    Funny thing is we (as a couple) have even entertained going back to VIP, if we found the right dancer (by that I mean one we mutually agree on and that the personality as well the body/hair color preference works for us).

    A year ago I would not have set foot in the club, that one or any other. Due to my insecurities. I have found that with my husband or a group I enjoy myself and have found that the dancers I have had the opportunity to meet and get to know are down to earth real people and should they come around more that we would even have more fun.

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    Lope, I just wanted to say I think it's awesome that you overcame your insecurities and go to the strip club with your husband. A lot of wives spend their lives saying bad things about dancers and strip clubs to discourage their husbands from going but never bother to check them out. So for that, you are awesome.

    I know it's tough to be ignored when you're actually willing to talk to the girls, get dances and spend money, but believe me, we've all had bad experiences and been called names by mean wives and girlfriends. I don't think you're doing anything wrong- I just think the dancers are a little wary or intimidated. I agree with the others- invite a girl to join you if you want dances from her. If she's a fun, couples-friendly girl and you get a VIP room with her, it will make her night. Good luck.

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    Thanks sexyjess!

    I guess being as when I had my issues with the "clubs" I just asked hubby to stay away and I also did not go, that I don't understand why a foolish wife would put herself through going to one if she didn't "agree" with the things that happen there. I also would have never gone and been rude or antagonized a dancer because of my issues. So I guess thats why I don't understand the views dancers have towards mean old nasty wenches that accompany their husbands just to give dancers (and I suppose husbands) a hard time. That sucks. I am sorry you guys have to put up with that! Ever step on their feet by accident with one of your heels?

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    I don't approach couples for one simple reason: 95% its not worth my time.

    Couples usually get one or two dances. When I am finding my next customer I am looking for the guy I can give 5-10 dances in a row to, usually a guy sitting alone.

    Now, if the woman half of a couple asks me specifically to come dance ASAP, I will gladly oblige because I do actually enjoy dancing for couples usually, but I'm looking for the bigger fish.

    I do have one regular couple though, that is definitely the exception!

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    People watching is interesting. Since couples in SCs are the oddity, I can't help but watch a little. While sometimes you see women having a great time, other times their body language and facial language gives away strong feelings. If I can pick up on it so easily, I am betting the dancers can too.

    p.s. But to be clear, that is not said in a judgmental way. If the tables were turned, if it was a couple watching male strippers, you can bet that many men would also have emotional tells in their body and facial language.

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