Okay, so I grew up in some pretty sucky neighborhoods and I was always picked on because I was an easy target. (My parents were the "Don't fight, tell the teacher" type of people.) The problem with that was the teachers were just as afraid of the violent students as I was and they wouldn't do anything. Luckily though, I befriended some pretty tough kids and they would always defend me. Now that I'm an adult, I find that I still cannot defend myself. For example: When I was 19 yrs old, I was attacked and beat pretty badly by a 38 yr old woman. I was walking down the street with my then boyfriend. (I was as far over as I could get, my arm was brushing the fence) and this woman, carrying EMPTY $0.30 aluminum pans cuts the corner short and one of the trays hits my arm and falls. I turn around when I hear it and see my boyfriend picking it up for her. She immediately starts cursing me out and acting ignorant, at which point my bf and I turn and walk away; only to find myself on the ground with her on top of me, beating me less than 10 seconds later. (And no, the bf didn't do anything. A guy that I'd never met in life pushed his way through the crowd that'd formed around us, pulled her off of me, picked me up and carried me to the hospital as my bf trailed quietly behind.)Then last year, I was at a former guy friends graduation party. My former best friend had a SUPER crush on this guy friend and that was the only reason I went. Anyway, some random guy at the party was trying to get her phone number, they went back and forth for some time because she was politely rejecting him and like any other man; he got pissed and had to find ANY reason to justify his attitude (saying that she should've just said he was unattractive instead of saying that she doesn't like to talk on the phone to avoid giving him her number) he became really disrespectful, then decided to ask me my opinion on the situation. I RESPECTFULLY gave it to him (saying that he should just drop it because she's a nice girl and would never say anything mean like that to anyone.) He got pissed and threw his drink in my face. Furthermore, the former guy friend who was graduating decided to start MORE drama and lie to my former best friend, telling her I was mad at her for the whole situation. (?!) She (having a crush on him) took his word for it and went off on me and was really hurtful and disrespectful. ANYWAY, my point is, I never learned to fight and anytime there is conflict around me, or even a situation that I think could possibly RESULT in conflict, I get extremely scared. At 24 yrs old, is it too late to learn self defense? How did you ladies learn?



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