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    recently i quit my old club and i'm starting a new one, but it always takes so long to make myslef go in! i get so NERVOUS!! When i started my old club it took me two weeks to muster up the courage to go in.. i got made up and packed every day for two weeks, only to end up sitting around watching tv saying "it's too late! they don't want to start a new girl tonight/today!!" i'm not nervous about the actual job, i like it, it's just going in for the first time sux!! the wierd part is, even after i am used to a club and like being there, i still get extra nervous, tense and stressed before going in every day and a lot of times i feel like i have to convince myself extra hard just to work, but when i get there, i am all relaxed and happy.. what gives?? is this some kind of weird social disorder? am i weird? do any of you girls feel unnecessarily stressed about going in? what can i do?
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    a lot of girls here have posted that they often even get ready drive to the club and then just drive past and don't go in. i think its the nature of the job - it can be anxiety provoking esp if you're not in a social mood. we have to talk to strange men who wanna see us naked all night, it can be intimidating.

    i get a bit anxious sometimes when i go in. i have even had a panic attack at work and had to leave.
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    I know how you feel. I have yet to set foot in a club in my new city yet. It's ridiculous!
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    You might want to try developing a routine.

    Such as, on my way to work, I always take a certain road, stop at one gas station, drink a Rockstar, smoke at certain intersections.

    Sorry, maybe not that anal, but I'm a creature of habit.

    It might help you get geared up for "work mode"






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    Quote Originally Posted by MysteriousMystery View Post
    recently i quit my old club and i'm starting a new one, but it always takes so long to make myslef go in! i get so NERVOUS!! When i started my old club it took me two weeks to muster up the courage to go in.. i got made up and packed every day for two weeks, only to end up sitting around watching tv saying "it's too late! they don't want to start a new girl tonight/today!!" i'm not nervous about the actual job, i like it, it's just going in for the first time sux!! the wierd part is, even after i am used to a club and like being there, i still get extra nervous, tense and stressed before going in every day and a lot of times i feel like i have to convince myself extra hard just to work, but when i get there, i am all relaxed and happy.. what gives?? is this some kind of weird social disorder? am i weird? do any of you girls feel unnecessarily stressed about going in? what can i do?
    Youre not wierd! Im the SAME way. I've been dancing a few years now off and on and I still get sooo nervous to the point of causing myself tummy problems! But when I get there, to the club, and I get a couple drinks in my system I am a little better, so maybe have a drink while youre making yourself up. I actually am taking meds for social anxiety/mild depression so in my case it's the anxiety but I dont get nearly as anxious going any where else! Just take deep breaths and realize it's really not a big deal youre just there to work like its any old job you dont have to prove anything to anyone.

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    I'm the same way. It's hard to be in a brand new club, not knowing how the girls will treat you and what the customers are like. Although I've been to a few clubs by now so it's getting easier and easier.

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    If you've been at the one club for a long time, switching club can be hard. You kinda have a comfort zone established and then you have to leave it. I'm going through the same thing, as I'm really wanting to check out some other clubs around town, but when I'm ready to go to work, it's always easier to go to the old club rather than hit a new one.

    I've switched clubs before, so I can tell you that it does get easier after you've been there a few nights. In two weeks, you'll be totally at home. But for those first couple of night I don't any better advice than just suck it up and go in.

    I motivate myself by thinking about the new persona I can create at a new club. Nobody knows me or has any preconceived ideas about me, so I can be a new person. New name, if I want, new clothes, new hustle. It's exciting!

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    I get the same way.I've been at my home club for over a year, so I know everyone there. It's like a big disfunctional family. Whenever I work a new club I have no idea if girls will be friendly or how the managers will treat me, if the bouncers are watching out, and so on. I always try to get some stripper friends to come work with me so I'm not alone and I can't back out. Are there other dancers you could get to come with you? Try to make it feel more like a girls night out that you're getting paid for.

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    I always get anxiety about going on stage the first couple times or "auditioning" at a new club. If you can take a shot or two haha. BAD I'm encouraging drinking but it helps. Just remember the girls at the new club are doin the same thing you are just like they were at the old club. As for the guys... in your old club you met new guys all the time.
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    i hear ya. i mainly got/get nervous at clubs where tip-out is high. it's like going to work is gambling...i may walk out with alot, i may walk out with nothing and end up just having to pay the club. other times, i think i subconsciously put pressure on myself to do really well and got stressed b/c of that.

    maybe try not to think too much? easier said than done, i know. i just try to tell myself to STOP. like, yesterday, i was sitting in school becoming anxious thinking about how i was going to pick up a shift at work right after school. asking myself if i really wanted to (since i didn't have to cuz i wasn't on schedule). i'd been telling myself i was going to pick up a shift for the past 3 weeks, but became too nervous/anxious, as well. maybe use that energy in a good way? try to convert it to positive energy and use it to make $$$$!

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    I can understand how one may feel this way.

    I felt this way when I first started dancing. I think I started viewing dancing as a way of having fun + making money. I also realized that these men have seen it all before, so there is no real reason why I should be nervous.

    I don't get nervous anymore, unless I haven't been at it for a week or so. But if you just focus on having a good time then not only will the jitters disappear but the money will flow in more easily too.

    Don't let FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) prevent you from making money! Give yourself some positive self-talk. Like "I am going to bank tonight"; " I will be so glad I went in"; "I will only dance for cool respectful people". Things will get easier as long as yor routine remains consistent.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sunshine73 View Post
    Don't let FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) prevent you from making money! Give yourself some positive self-talk. Like "I am going to bank tonight"; " I will be so glad I went in"; "I will only dance for cool respectful people". Things will get easier as long as yor routine remains consistent.



    Yes! awesome advice, glad i'm not alone.. thanks guys!!
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    I agree with a routine. Every day that I work I take a shower, go on stripperweb, look for pole dance videos on youtube, check the oil in my car (I drive a relatively long distance), stop at the same coffee place, and listen to the same radio station on the way there and sing REALLY LOUD. The whole way there. Gets me in a good mood.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sunshine73 View Post
    I can understand how one may feel this way.

    I felt this way when I first started dancing. I think I started viewing dancing as a way of having fun + making money. I also realized that these men have seen it all before, so there is no real reason why I should be nervous.

    I don't get nervous anymore, unless I haven't been at it for a week or so. But if you just focus on having a good time then not only will the jitters disappear but the money will flow in more easily too.

    Don't let FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) prevent you from making money! Give yourself some positive self-talk. Like "I am going to bank tonight"; " I will be so glad I went in"; "I will only dance for cool respectful people". Things will get easier as long as yor routine remains consistent.

    Great advice!
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    I understand this feeling, any time I start a new club in a new town the first night is always the hardest. I notice when I get really nervous it's because I don't feel comfortable in a certain club because I did'nt quite fit in with the clientile or there was something about the club that put me off. It helps to ask yourself what it is that makes you feel it isn't working at a club. Some girls in clubs don't get very many new girls in the club so you could also be making them uncomfortable and changing the club dynamic a bit by showing up, thats when I try to use this to my advantage instead of letting it intimidate me and it totally works!

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    I'm experiencing this right now, too.

    I'm thinking about working at a club closer to home during the week when I have school and then go to my regular club for the weekends but I'm so scared.

    Next week I'm going to have to suck it up though. I'm stressing out so much about it that I'm questioning if I'll even get hired. This wasn't even a fear of mine when I was very first dancing!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sunshine73 View Post

    Don't let FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) prevent you from making money!
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    I like to set things up so I feel and look my absolute BEST when I'm at a new club or auditioning.
    Splurge a little and buy a new outfit, get my hair touched up, have a makeup artist do my eyes, paint and shape my nails when I usually don't...when you feel extra-hot, it SHOWS and makes such a difference.

    I think it's normal to be nervous about auditioning, no matter how long you've been dancing, or how many clubs you've danced in.

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