I'm frustrated. Some of my friends either have bad manners or just don't care anymore.
Some people I used to be really close to in school and growing up are pissing me off. I am always the one to call. Always the one to make plans. Always the one to call back and leave a second message because they were just too busy to return my call. But when I get them in front of me finally they act like everything is fine, like they weren't a PITA to get together with.
I get the "I'm really busy" thing a lot from my best friend (I think) L. L never calls me first. Pretty much the behavior I listed above. But you'd better believe that the slightest inclination I hear or see telling me she's going through a rough time, I call. I myspace message. Etc. I'm on top of it. Yet she can't return any contact in a timely fashion, some times not at all. But I know for a fact she has some new group of buddies she seems to see extremely frequently. WTF? Am I not as fun as they are because I'm not into the rockabilly scene? Or a cosmetologist? Or don't go out drinking all the time? I feel left out and neglected.
Want to know what's ironic? L posted a myspace blog a couple months ago bitching that she was tired of her "real" friends never contacting HER anymore. That she didn't appreciate it, saw how we really were, etc.
R wonders why I'm hesitant to even bother calling her anymore.
This is a problem with several friends of mine. I'm such a good loyal friend. Why can't they be?
This isn't a reciprocal friendship to me. It feels onesided. Hard thing is that when I finally do get us to hang out, I have a blast. But this rude behavior is ruining it for me. And you know if I bring it up they'll deny it and call me a whiner, bitch, or some other fun word. Because people get defensive in this kind of situation.
WTF.
Anyone else?


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