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    I am 21 and would love to be a dancer. The thing is I am pretty shy around guys. I know there is a sex kitten in me somewhere, I just can't get it to show! I need some help or advice or something on how to be seductive, sexy, and a tease. If I am going to be a dancer I want to be the best. I am determined and just need some guidance. I have no clue how to dance either, lol. I am scared to audition because I don't want to look stupid trying to dance.

    I have a great body, I work out all the time, and I eat right. I just need to learn the art of seduction.

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    Go to a strip club as a customer & watch the dancers. (SEriously- best thing you can do.) Strip-dancing is much, much different than club-dancing... but everyone starts out raw at some point, so it's kinda to-be-expected. If you have a good body, a good smile, and some personal charm (you MUST not be afraid to talk to people, though- bring out that inner actress!!!) you'll be great!! Read Hustle Hut diligently for sales tips. Welcome to sw.

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    I agree, go to a club and just watch and see if you like it. Look into clubs that have amateur night as well. They are great confidence boosters and you can test yourself too see if you are ready. If your not yet ready to dance get one of the waitress jobs. Thats what I did, it was semi topless as well so I got used to the fact of being partly nude. If you have any other question feel free to PM me.

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    Since you are in Baltimore and shy, I would check out the topless clubs first. You work only for tips so you don't got to really worry about hustling. I started out in clubs like that and for me, it was much easier than to be thrown in a club where all your money comes from doing lapdances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by elizabethschafer01 View Post
    I am 21 and would love to be a dancer. The thing is I am pretty shy around guys.
    Some thoughts from the other side of the fence.

    a) A strip club is a special environment - you step outside the real world and enter a de facto fantasy one. Ditto your customers - who will probably never see you outside of the SC enviroment anyway.

    Means you can leave your mistakes inside of the club - if you're slightly clumsy in dancing, or tongue tied in conversation, what does it matter? You're not going to see a customer in the real world, so your SC mistakes don't matter there.

    b) In the club you'll be in demand from guys. You have something they want (be it the chance to see you nude, or the hope they'll get your phone number) so you'll find initial shyness won't be a problem.

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    I just need to learn the art of seduction.
    At the risk of appearing slightly cyncial, it's the art of hustling you'll learn (see Hustle Hut).

    I can't find the quote, but a dancer once defined the art of hustling as "Convincing a guy that you've only just met, and whom you aren't really interested in, that you have an urgent need to get naked for him - with money only a secondary consideration to you".

    Although I suspect your ability to handle guys inside the club will also make you more confident outside.

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    What everyone else said. Plus it helped me when I realized this: I have every right to be there because this is my job. I got hired, paid for my uniform so-to-speak and am doing the task at hand, whether it be selling dances or showing up for my stage sets. If you think of it that way, it takes the question of whether or not you belong there out of the picture.

    Everyone starts out raw. To this day when I see new girls, I think to myself, at least she's trying; sure enough, three weeks later, she blends in.
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    i think work one week and you shyness will go. i went straight into the deep end. it really was so scary but it payed off. we are here for you!!
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    You already have the first ingredient of being seductive in the club - desire. Spend some time in the club(s) as a customer and watch other girls to see what they are doing that you think is sexy and try to incorporate bits and pieces of their style but making it your own. You also have being new on your side. Every club has its big spender regulars to some degree. These regulars are usually sick and tired of the same old crap from the same old girls. New faces in the club are guaranteed to get more and easier attention (which will make you feel sexy). Try to talk to a guy for a couple minutes and look directly in his eyes as much as possible - if you can get him to laugh or can remember his name - it will usually be enough to get you a dance - if not right then, then soon. Don't just circle the floor asking for dances or you will end up with minimum tips and tired toes. If you can make a guy believe that you are sincerely giving a crap what he is saying (or asking) he is more likely to tip extra and buy drinks and more than one dance.

    Also - try and buddy up with the doorman or floor hosts - ask them to point you in the right direction to be spoiled by the best of customers - ALWAYS tip them when they help you out, or they won't be of much help in the future. Also some DJs can steer you toward big money - the reason I keep bringing this up is that big spenders live to make the girl feel sexy and if you can hook a couple right away your confidence will skyrocket. I have watched girls walk away from so much money just because they are intimidated by the VIP customers - they are just guys in a booby bar and poor guys aren't necessarily nicer than rich ones - you have nothing to lose by aiming for the top dogs right up front.

    One thing that has helped me in the past when I didn't feel particularly vixon-like was keeping messages on my cell phone from someone that I am dating that makes me feel great and sexy - sometimes I would listen to these messages several times a night because it would make me smile which is the most seductive secret of all. (You would be amazed how many dancers skip the smile and eye contact - silly)

    Do not allow the other girls to see that you are nervous - they can be like cruel school children that smell fear and attack. Just know that if they do try to mess with your head, it is because they are jealous or catty.

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