Discuss, please. My brain has been elswhere for weeks now, and my career requires a lot of time and commitment. Every day I lose opportunities because I can't focus.
Experiences? Solutions?
Discuss, please. My brain has been elswhere for weeks now, and my career requires a lot of time and commitment. Every day I lose opportunities because I can't focus.
Experiences? Solutions?
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M
I don't know, but I can sympathize. Not that dancing was really a career as much ass a job to me, but after I was in love with Rob, my money sunk bad.
And your job is a hell of a lot harder I'd bet.
Good luck! I think it'll just take a lot of determination, refocusing yourself when your mind starts to wonder... that sort of thing.
Auntie Katrine,
What is love?
Dottie
Ask TOO. I think it involves 30 minute long screaming, writhing, uncontrollable orgasms caused by intensive fingering and mind fucking.
Cerously, my head is so far up my ass right now. We spend all morning drinking coffee and jabbering away, so I'm always late, then I leave early all the time to pretty myself up for him.
Apparently the chemical reaction will subside, but I need to make some money, yo!
Are there really so few people that easily distracted? Do I need to up my ADD meds?
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M
I get easily distracted as well, things I've found that help:
Leave cell phone/email conversation away from work. Only talk to him on breaks/lunch/etc to avoid getting caught up in the middle of something else.
Meet later on. If you're getting pretty so you can see him, plan on meeting an hour later so you can finish your work first, or, make a deal to leave work early one day and spend all night together.
Start talking about what you did at work. In my case, if I had to say 'well, I didn't really get much done, but...' I'd get embarrassed, and work harder the next day.
Don't know if any of this will help, but it's what I've done that helped.
I believe you Dottie and you have my support
Ya know, I have this same problem! And it is SOOOO hard for me to pull my head out of my ass and do things that are important to me. I've been putting off work and school for my boyfriend of 4 months who I am TOTALLY digging. He always says "I know you have homework, go ahead and do it, I'll go home" or whatever .....and I am always saying "No it's fine, I'll do it later" etc etc.
I definitely have learned that for me, the only way to cope with this (b/c I am also easily distracted in general) is to not make plans with him before I have anything important going on, with work, school, whatever. I try to avoid the call/texting trap if I know I need to wake up early or have some other appt to go to.
It takes serious discipline, which I do not have, so it's a work in progress. I'm not sure if upping your meds would be beneficial....it's just about getting a decent sense of time management. (which I also don't have!)
(just click to donate FREE food to those in need...REALLY!)
I can't think straight. But I am about to go to the gym, then back to the office. Let's see how much I get done at either place.
Its like my brains have been sucked out worse than any drug I've ever done.
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M





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It's scary stuff.
I tend to have the opposite reaction: the more I like somebody, the more I give them space so that we don't burn out so fast.
It might cut into your paycheck a bit Kat, but I think it's worth it. We can always make money, but experiencing those feelings of love/lust don't come too easily.
You can't love something you think is flawless - me
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M





Have you not read any of the plethora of cheap porn posts from TOO? LOL
Anyway.
Doood. When I fall in love I don't wanna do shit, except be with that person. I'm all distracted. Right now, for example, I have barely been able to force myself into the club to make just enough to skid by. I have literally worked 3 days in the last 2 months. Oy. I think my current problem is exacerbated by the retarded hours we have to work at this club, but still. I'd rather sit my ass at home and play housewife than go to work. This is in stark contrast to the strippin machine I was in 2007. haha
I have no idea how to deal with this, except in my case, to go out and get myself a job with a schedule and stuff, so I HAVE to take my ass to work. And that's exactly what I've just done.



This is totally normal. My bf was out of town for work, and I had to work the day he got back. I started at 8pm and left at 10:30pm because I couldn't stand the thought that he was at home and I wasn't there with him. I left and we cuddled and watched movies. Sweet relief. I've been with him for about a year and a half now, and I don't see it getting any easier. But that just makes me sure he's the one I'm going to marry, you know? If it's still THIS GOOD...
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M
Nothing to do but let it run it's course. Enjoy it, since all to soon, it will return to normal.
However, as I know first hand, sometimes life can't be on hold and necessities need attention if such benefits of life are to be properly enjoyed.
I love my job. Really. It was hard work to get here, and now it's as much a "Kid" to me as the one is coming (just with different needs), and it's easy for me to work my job into the honeymoon of the relationship by turning it's need for attention into a process to get me back to enjoying that honeymoon.
Schedule time for the two of you that is longer and uninterrupted that you can be super excited about and focus on your work until that time as a device to enable those trysts.
Break up your day mentally. Do something that has nothing to do with work and him for a little bit before and/or after work (like the gym).
Anyways, these are things I do. And you're talking about the #1 reason why I date out of town. If RoseWhite lived closer, or I closer to her, we'd both be in a lot of trouble. When you're in different cities/states, everything is a tryst, and it forces you back into your routine which forces you to create a healthy mix.
I don't know how you do it Katrine, honestly, the times I've BEEN working, just the sight of RoseWhite's ass as it passes by my door makes for long dead pauses mid sentence while on the phone.
On the flip side, I'm happy to see you so into someone. I hope it feels as good as it is good to feel.![]()
People are not ruled by their memories.
You're going to have to twist this to fit your particular situation but I've found that telling myself, "Okay, if I concentrate and make X amount of dollars, then I can go to that nice restaurant on the beach with lover boy". Or, reminding myself that if I don't make money and I can't pay my bills, I'll look bad to him.
If you think school is hard, try being stupid.
I wish the job was as simple as a goal of X dollars, but it isn't that close to stripping. I went to the gym today, yay, but couldn't focus at work. So I went to the grocery store to buy yummy foods to cook and feed him.
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M
Ive got the same problem I was banking, making money, going in almost every day when I was single and now blah I dont want to go to work at all .I want him around me all the time and it makes me feel clingy but I can't help it .Then when I am at work im constantly thinking of him and ill call him throughout the night even though I know he needs to sleep because he needs to get up at 5 am.Sorry no advice but I can relate.
My first night alone, yay! I'm pigging out and chatting. I can't wait for him to come home after work!
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M





This has been hard for me... Before I met him I was super-strippering it up, working my ass off 5 days a week. Now, the possibility of being sexed by him trumps money. I'm working more like 1-3 nights a week now.
I've found that its easier if you synchronize the nights you work. Or if you plan on socializing separately a few nights a week. Its good for the relationship to have a little bit of time apart.
That's not possible unfortunately. But he is working right now, so I'm heading to the office in a bit, after I get my SW fix.
I swear, all I want to do in life is spend time with my man, or chill on the internetz. I blame the internetz as much as him on my own laziness. Ya know, because none of it is actually my own culpeability, hehehehe.![]()
"Have you ever been to American wedding? Where is the vodka, where's marinated herring?" - GB
"And do the cats give a shit? No, they do not. Why? Because they're cats."-from The Onion
Originally Posted by Mia M
I was the same way and unfortunately it didn't subside until we had been living together for a few months and got married. I still get like that sometimes, just not so much at work now (since I'm now in debt where I wasn't before we met). Now it's more just trying to bust through my workout in the evenings as fast as I can so that I can get back home. You're in sales right? I am in b2b sales, and all I can tell you is to write lots and lots of notes of what you need to do and who you need to call. Set reminders on your phone. I never used to have to do that until I fell in love....kept it all in my head. Now I feel like an idiot all the time because my mind wanders constantly. FORCE yourself to make a certain number of calls (or whatever) before you "allow" yourself to go home. And before you put yourself in front of a prospect, repeat over and over "I will give this person my full attention", and try your best to do it. Like I said, not much help, but hopefully you can get something out of it. Just use me as an example of what might happen if you don't get it together (debt lol)





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