i don't even know where to start, so if i ramble, please excuse me...
ok, my husband just got a call a few hours ago from his brother in alaska. (i'm gonna be changing names here for obvious reasons)
background before i get too deep..some of you may remember the major drama i had about a year and half ago with my crazy ass sil...well, this is her husband. she was molested as a child which i'm guessing totally f'ed her up. she's an attention seeking sob that always tries to start shit up. very long background story short.
my husbands brother told him that they just found out from their older 3 boys (they are like 15, 12or13 andthat "uncle j" touched them. this is a man that is pretty close with them since my crazy sil latched on to him. he does not live where they live (he lives in WA state), but has visited about 4 times in the last few years, at least week long visits.
now, uncle j is the "funny" uncle...you know, the one that makes jokes, wrestles with the kids, all of the kids love him, my kids get excited when they get to see him. he's married for like 30 yrs, has 2 boys, who both have kids and they let him babysit them.
i don't have many details yet, but i do know they have called the cops and an investigation is probably underway.
my husband sucks at asking questions, so the most i got from him was that the kids said he "touched" them while wrestling around with them.
i don't know what to think.
i would not put it past my crazy sil to put it in the kids heads for the last years that this happened. i honestly believe that she has munchausen syndrome (the oldest she swears has sever adhd and learning disabilities (so not true, i've been around this kid, he is smart as hell), the second kid was always in the dr or hospital for something, she insisted he be antibiotics constantly, when that seemed to clear up, the third kid all of a sudden she is convinced is bi-polar, starting at 5 yrs old!, who know what the 4th will come up with).
she is drama seeking, a constant victim and has a history of stirring things up in the family. (she's f'ed with me a couple of times till the last time i called her ass out and proved to everyone how she was lying and making things up, she constantly is trying to make my mother in law feel like shit, when she does nothing but help them ALL the time, etc etc) apparently the 12 yr old "got it" the most, which is also the kid that was "always" sick.
on the other hand i would NEVER discount a child saying something happened to them. i believe their kids over my overwhelming urge to think she has somehow put false thoughts in their heads. which isn't that hard to do, especially with such a manipulating mother.
so know i have to talk to my boys. he's never really been alone with them. he's always wrestled with them in front of us. i just don't know how to bring it up! i don't want to say "did uncle j every touch you here?", cause i know from experience that my kids will say what they think you want it here, and a question like that could easily get a yes by the tone of it ya know? i've always told them that everything in their undies was for them only and not for anyone else to touch except for mommy/daddy during washing or a dr when we are with them etc..and vise versa.
i'm sure my mother in law is going nuts right now, this her closest brother. i think i need to talk to my husbands sis and see what she thinks also, they spend more time with him than we do (we only see "uncle j" maybe once or twice a year).
has anyone had to ask their kids if they've been touched???![]()



that "uncle j" touched them. this is a man that is pretty close with them since my crazy sil latched on to him. he does not live where they live (he lives in WA state), but has visited about 4 times in the last few years, at least week long visits.
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