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    ...why? I think it's one of the more ridiculous things I see in SCs. I often see girls getting mad at customers for dancing with another girl or whatever...wtf? It's not a fucking monogamous relationship- it's a SC!

    That said, my real contempt is for the guys who get all ball n chained by dancers, and then sneak around getting dances with other girls when ther 'primary' isnt working. Do we really need to recreate fucked up social constructions in strip clubs? Seriously. Grow a pair.

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    i agree your more likely to keep your regular if you act as if you dont mind if he tries out another girl or two. sure it might be a bit nerve racking but when he sees you arent posessive that gives you major bonus points. though there are the rare ones who like to see the conflict...

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    It's super annoying. There's a girl in my club who snatched up a really good custy (who I had danced with before she did) and now he gets all happy when he sees me but also very nervous and won't get dances because ****** is "very jealous".

    WTF it's SO frustrating. I personally don't care if my customers dance with other girls because it preserves my novelty and keeps them from getting bored.

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    I personally hate it when the girls do the whole "oh, you're cheating on me, giggle" routine. I'm like "do you think you could not discourage the customers from actually getting dances? Not cool.

    In a nutshell I think girls are possessive of their regulars when they rely on regulars. They are possessive of the money, and have learned that it is an effective way to keep it. Some guys like drama.
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    It's just like in relationships, guys don't like girls when they act overly possessive. Hell, what girl likes when their man is overly possessive either? It's a total turnoff. It's their effin money, shouldnt the customer be able to spend it the way THEY want to?

    I've had regulars in the past who LOVE the drama, as Jenny mentioned. That shit is annoying as hell. "Oh, well so and so suggested she'd give me a naughtier/better/whatever dance if I went with her. What do you think about that?" Uhh.. what do I think about that? I think you better run and catch up with her, sounds like she gives an awesome dance, and can offer you shit I sure as hell can't <smirk>

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    Ugh don't even get me started on the stupidity of it. It is the most ridiculously thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheSexKitten View Post
    It's super annoying. There's a girl in my club who snatched up a really good custy (who I had danced with before she did) and now he gets all happy when he sees me but also very nervous and won't get dances because ****** is "very jealous".
    Ugh! I had one like that at my old club. He told me that he couldn't get dances /talk too long /let anyone else even sit with him too long, that she'd start crying. He'd always be nervous and cut the convo short with me. Then some bullshit about how she's "emotionally unstable" As a guy, why would you put up with a situation like that? How ridiculous. You can't even enjoy coming to the club and talking/dancing with another girl cause there is a basket case on your trail.

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    Some guys like drama.
    ....Then again, there's this factor.^

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    ^ well said.

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    One of mine will never get a dance of anyone else and I have not told him not too!
    Ever since he started seeing me it has been HIS CHOICE not to get a dance of anyone else.

    I have asked him to get some double dances when my friends were doing it hard on slow nights and he will do this occasionally but I can tell he doesn't really like it coz I had to talk him into it.

    Also it could be the case that some dancers know that their regulars want them to act possessive coz it will make the guy feel wanted or something.
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    It's rude if they are deliberately trying to edge you out or hoard your customer. I can't see it as rude for a dancer to try to sell a dance to a customer, though, no matter who he has bought from in the past. I also don't think I can expect girls to keep track of when I'm actually finished with a customer, when he has turned me down or when I'm just running to the bathroom or who I was sitting with before I went on stage. We're strippers. We sell dances. There is certainly etiquette, but I don't think it can preclude you from selling to a customer who has been with another girl, even consistently, in the past.
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    Customers who walk into the club should be fair game. But sometimes they come to specifically see a certain dancer. If I knew they came there with the intention to see so and so, I would leave them alone. I give other dancers this courtesy and feel they should do the same, but many of them are such sharks. I've had regulars tell me about being hounded after he told them he was waiting for me. Later they were walking by and kept looking back, flirting and blowing kisses. That was pretty messed up, but whatever.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AznExtasy View Post
    Customers who walk into the club should be fair game. But sometimes they come to specifically see a certain dancer. If I knew they came there with the intention to see so and so, I would leave them alone. I give other dancers this courtesy and feel they should do the same, but many of them are such sharks. I've had regulars tell me about being hounded after he told them he was waiting for me. Later they were walking by and kept looking back, flirting and blowing kisses. That was pretty messed up, but whatever.
    Well, I don't think customers should be "hounded" at all; if they say "I'm waiting for Azn" I think it is just hoarding the customer - you are no longer making a sale, you are just preventing someone else from doing it. But if it is just a matter of they usually get dances from another girl... if I think I can change their minds about who they came to see, or convince them to spend an extra $100... I'm going to do it, and I wouldn't expect any other dancer to behave any differently.
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    If i see another girl talking to my reg for a while when i know he is waiting for me for a dance i just walk up and sit down. I know some might think this is rude but sorry time is money and im not gonna sit around and wait while you waste my time.
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    some customers want the illusion of a monogamous relationship in the SC-- not sure why some kinds of fantasy-providing are ok in the SC and this kind isn't...

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    ^Most girls who are possessive of customers aren't doing it to provide the customer with a fantasy. They're just poor hustlers and rely too much on regulars for their money, hence they become insufferable bitches when they feel threatened by the presence of other girls near "their" customers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver View Post
    ...why? I think it's one of the more ridiculous things I see in SCs. I often see girls getting mad at customers for dancing with another girl or whatever...wtf? It's not a fucking monogamous relationship- it's a SC!
    I agree. I don't care how much money you make off a guy and how loyal he may have been to you for however long, he is not obligated to stay...um...faithful(?) to you. And nor are you to him. He's a customer. You're a dancer. I mean, if he chooses to stray(?) I can see how you'd be miffed but he is allowed to. He doesn't belong to you.

    Another dancer stealing your regulars though....that's a different story.

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    ^^^ A-fuckin-men!

    Worst I ever dealt with:

    A Former 'friend' knew one of our mutual customers was coming in to see me one day, as I had mentioned it to her. So she calls him up and tells him to come see her too, then says to me "When he gets here lets approach him together, we'll get him to do a double v.i.p."

    I proceed to work the floor, while shes busy getting shitfaced in the dressing room. When he arrives I'm still w/ my custy, and another girl chats him up.

    When my friend got out on the floor and *gasp* caught him getting dances from another girl, she stood in front of them, shaking her head and screaming obscenities at him. Every customer in the club loooked on in horror. Stupid bouncer actually took her side and made the poor girl get off his lap.

    Then she pretended to cry for a good 10 minutes, did a few dances for him, and made him give her an extra $60.00. When she got up I approached him, and he was in such a pissed off mood, thanks to her, that he just walked off. I never heard from him again.

    Thanks to her stupidity. And so much for that 'double v.i.p.' ..........

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    Well... I feel bound to point out that the problematic behaviour is not that she "stole" your customer, but that she screamed, and cried etc. Although - he was too pissed off to get dances from you. He wasn't too pissed off to get dances from and tip her. Like he got too pissed off to stay in the club right after that. That's what I mean when I say some guys like the drama.

    But let's say instead, she sees him come in; she realizes that he normally gets dances from you, but you're busy with another customer or you haven't seen him and she decides to go over and try to sell a dance just like he was a public customer that could make up his own mind and strolls over and says "Hi! How are you? Great! Nice weather, great game, love your tie, I'm really pretty, wanna dance?" Is there still a problem?
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    ^^^ A-fuckin-men!

    Worst I ever dealt with:

    A Former 'friend' knew one of our mutual customers was coming in to see me one day, as I had mentioned it to her. So she calls him up and tells him to come see her too, then says to me "When he gets here lets approach him together, we'll get him to do a double v.i.p."

    I proceed to work the floor, while shes busy getting shitfaced in the dressing room. When he arrives I'm still w/ my custy, and another girl chats him up.

    When my friend got out on the floor and *gasp* caught him getting dances from another girl, she stood in front of them, shaking her head and screaming obscenities at him. Every customer in the club loooked on in horror. Stupid bouncer actually took her side and made the poor girl get off his lap.

    Then she pretended to cry for a good 10 minutes, did a few dances for him, and made him give her an extra $60.00. When she got up I approached him, and he was in such a pissed off mood, thanks to her, that he just walked off. I never heard from him again.

    Thanks to her stupidity. And so much for that 'double v.i.p.' ..........
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jenny View Post
    Well... I feel bound to point out that the problematic behaviour is not that she "stole" your customer, but that she screamed, and cried etc. Although - he was too pissed off to get dances from you. He wasn't too pissed off to get dances from and tip her. Like he got too pissed off to stay in the club right after that. That's what I mean when I say some guys like the drama.

    But let's say instead, she sees him come in; she realizes that he normally gets dances from you, but you're busy with another customer or you haven't seen him and she decides to go over and try to sell a dance just like he was a public customer that could make up his own mind and strolls over and says "Hi! How are you? Great! Nice weather, great game, love your tie, I'm really pretty, wanna dance?" Is there still a problem?
    But Jenny, she said he was a mutual customer of theirs - ie, he had come in to see them before, and that she never heard from the guy again. So that girl ran off a spending customer for future, for the sake of getting a few bucks at that moment, when if she'd played it cool that guy most likely would've kept coming back.

    Some guys are too "nice" or WTFever to refuse a screaming crying chic, but they will do whatever they can to avoid her in future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    But Jenny, she said he was a mutual customer of theirs - ie, he had come in to see them before, and that she never heard from the guy again. So that girl ran off a spending customer for future, for the sake of getting a few bucks at that moment, when if she'd played it cool that guy most likely would've kept coming back.

    Some guys are too "nice" or WTFever to refuse a screaming crying chic, but they will do whatever they can to avoid her in future.
    Okay - totally not defending a girl for acting like that. That was not my intention at all - it was more an aside that, yes, some guys do respond to it.
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    Unless you're sitting with a customer, he's fair game, IMO. He'll tell me if he's waiting for you, and I don't waste time before asking for a dance. If he takes it, what's the problem?

    Some shrill girl, stressed out because her pimp requires a certain fee every night, berated 'her' customer last week because he took me for dances. This guy I've known longer than she has, and I wasn't twisting his arm. She was no where to be seen when I asked. And then later he still got his usual number of dances from her. I didn't see what the big deal was, but she told him "it hurt her feelings". Later that week she pickpocketed from my purse because she felt I stole from her, by taking her customer for dances.

    It's all just, so, so ridiculous.

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    I've never been possesive of "my customers". In fact...I'll often chat up how great my friends are..this has kept me many regs in the past by 1) avoiding the drama...most guys love it when you have "friends" you get along with and dont have a problem bringing into the "relationship". I think they get to feel the fantasy of having a girlfriend who brings her hot friends home to him! and 2) if he is getting a bit bored with me but doesnt want to give me up...bringing another girl in allows him to "keep" me(and allows me to keep making money off him) while spicing things up a bit.

    That said...what DOES annoy me is the girls who KNOW he came to see me..know he spends money and lurk nearby until I have to go on stage or to the bathroom and pounce on him telling him how much better then me they are or otherwise trying to steal him away. THATS not cool. Of course...my regs are usually smart enough to tell them that they are waiting for me and fend them off, not falling for the "But you'll like me SOOOO much better then her" pathetic hustle.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette View Post
    But Jenny, she said he was a mutual customer of theirs - ie, he had come in to see them before, and that she never heard from the guy again. So that girl ran off a spending customer for future, for the sake of getting a few bucks at that moment, when if she'd played it cool that guy most likely would've kept coming back.

    Some guys are too "nice" or WTFever to refuse a screaming crying chic, but they will do whatever they can to avoid her in future.

    Yup, this is exactly what happend. My 'friend' at the time never heard from him again either. I think he spent $ to shut her up at that moment, but that was the final straw.

    She was the one who introduced me to him, and up until her jealousy attack over girl #3 he would always come in and spend $ on both of us.

    I think some guys like when we act jealous. But truly being jealous can do more harm than good.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cameron_keys View Post
    I've never been possesive of "my customers". In fact...I'll often chat up how great my friends are..this has kept me many regs in the past by 1) avoiding the drama...most guys love it when you have "friends" you get along with and dont have a problem bringing into the "relationship". I think they get to feel the fantasy of having a girlfriend who brings her hot friends home to him! and 2) if he is getting a bit bored with me but doesnt want to give me up...bringing another girl in allows him to "keep" me(and allows me to keep making money off him) while spicing things up a bit.
    Amen! Part of my 'slow hustle' is to brag up whatever girls are on stage, and guys faces light up when I do that. I've actually gotten a lot of "I like that you're not a bitch" comments, and guys who reckognise this tend to be the most generous. Any dancer can make a guy feel good physically, but to make them feel good on the inside as well leaves a stronger impression. It'll make them want to spoil you!

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