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    So, a guy that seems decent on match.com sends me a message interested in me. We finally get in touch on the phone. We talk and make plans to met tonight at 6pm. I get there early because it's on my way home from school. I wait till 6:30 try to call and get no answer so I leave. He calls me at 6:35 says he was on a conference call and is still 30 minutes away from his home. He asks if I'll wait another hour for him. I say no, that if he wants to come up to a restaurant next to my school Saturday evening then I'll met him directly after school. Then he asks if I'll met him at the park instead and go running with him and his dog. Then afterwards maybe we can have dinner. My gut told me to be a bitch but I just told him to call later and we can discuss it. I think he sounds self-centered and I'm just going to avoid the headache all together.

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    He's clearly already married to his job. You're better off.

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    Jog in the park = murderer jk
    Bleh...pass! If he can't be on time or try to make an appropriate time to fit a woman in his schedule then thats it..done.
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    Screw that! You haven't even me and you are already less important than his dog?

    I know that there have been threads about how dinner is too high committment for a first meeting, but that guy handled it super crappily.

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    Maybe tell him you'll meet him for coffee at the place by your school, you'll wait fifteen minutes, no more. If he blows it again...next.
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    Late for the first date = no date ever again.


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    I don't get this... if I say I'll call at a certain time, I call. If I say I'll be some place at a certain time, I am there. It's not that hard. If I really can't make it, I use every communication mechanism I can to let the person know why. This is just basic courtesy that I can't fathom why some people don't get it.

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    I like his idea of going for the walk in the park instead.

    Restaurants are better outings for the more established, not really first meetings. There is no food between you and conversation, it's less stuffy and more relaxed.

    Good food can cloud your judgement as well, and trick you into thinking he was entertaining...

    Can't blame the guy for being loyal to his dog. A dog will take a bullet for you. You might not be around after the first date.

    His standing you up the first time was not cool, however.
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    Standing you up wasn't cool, but a lot of people who have good jobs unfortunately do have things like this happen occasionally. If he called as soon as he got out of the call to let you know, I'd give him another chance. If he screws this one up...NEXT!

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    What about him makes him "decent" anyway?

    Is he good looking and profile-wealthy?

    And, yes, I am accusing you of being shallow, but I've read enough of your "this guy I've met from online dating turned out to be a jerk" threads to be able to predict this by now.

    His reluctance to stop everything to go on dates with you is probably a good sign he's not a loser. Probably means his time is in demand.
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    If you had to wait for 30 minutes for him to call (finally) and ask you to wait another hour, it seems like he should expect his second chance to be something that you want to do and that would be convienient to you. Was he just making a suggestion of something else to do? If you don't want to go running in the park, then tell him so... his reaction to that should tell you a lot. It sounds like he was suggesting something else to do... not trying to be a prick. (Although, maybe a little clueless... I wouldn't want a first date to include me red-faced, puffing, and sweaty... but that's just me, maybe.)

    No harm in giving him a chance, right? If it really does turn out to be a nightmare, you can make a funny post about it at least.
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    I say one more chance, you haven't even had a chance to meet up with him to tell what type of person he will be.
    Hope it works out, you just can never tell without meeting him first. I agree if he messes up again and makes you feel like you were stood up again then screw it.
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    first impressions are very important. i agree with stella and the others. a simple call ahead would've been nice.

    otoh, a 2nd chance speaks volumes about you to him. i.e. you're forgiving and you like to meet him and you're understanding. just don't let him think he can walk all over you.

    but the meeting at the park sounds a little weird to me, unless it's like a Central Park setting, i.e. very public & lots of people. otherwise, a lonely park with a stranger isn't where you should be on a first date.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t View Post
    What about him makes him "decent" anyway?

    Is he good looking and profile-wealthy?

    And, yes, I am accusing you of being shallow, but I've read enough of your "this guy I've met from online dating turned out to be a jerk" threads to be able to predict this by now.

    His reluctance to stop everything to go on dates with you is probably a good sign he's not a loser. Probably means his time is in demand.
    He is good looking but we did exchange some emails and have a couple of phone conversations. We do have similiar interests and he was able to have a stimulating and intelligent conversation on the phone. He is well-rounded as I am am and closer to my age then those I have previously dated.

    I am not shallow, if you saw who I was married to and knew how much he made and didn't make when we married you'd understand.

    I don't expect people to stop their lives for me but just keep their promises is all. My time is just as valuable as anyone elses, I just ask for reasonable consideration.

    I have had good dates with people who seemed to be good people but no real connections.

    I know inside myself I have a lot to offer. I don't need anyone to confirm my character for me. I know what I want and don't want. I am content being alone. Meeting a nice guy would be a welcomed addition to my life. People who strive on hurting and instigating others just show us a little reflection of how they really feel about themselves.

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    If you had to wait for 30 minutes for him to call (finally) and ask you to wait another hour, it seems like he should expect his second chance to be something that you want to do and that would be convienient to you. Was he just making a suggestion of something else to do? If you don't want to go running in the park, then tell him so... his reaction to that should tell you a lot. It sounds like he was suggesting something else to do... not trying to be a prick. (Although, maybe a little clueless... I wouldn't want a first date to include me red-faced, puffing, and sweaty... but that's just me, maybe.)

    No harm in giving him a chance, right? If it really does turn out to be a nightmare, you can make a funny post about it at least.
    No, he suggested our meeting place this evening. During our convesation this evening I just suggested a place close my school so I don't have to go somewhere I normally wouldn't go alone and hang-out just in case he doesn't show up again. Then he said I could come to park and go running with him and his dog and afterwards we could have dinner. I don't even know where this park is he is speaking of. I just know I'm not going out of my way again. I met him in the middle and waited. If there is going to be a next time he should come to me IMO.

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    ^^^ Dood- you deserve so much more respect greeneyed beauty. Next!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by snoopy View Post
    first impressions are very important. i agree with stella and the others. a simple call ahead would've been nice.

    otoh, a 2nd chance speaks volumes about you to him. i.e. you're forgiving and you like to meet him and you're understanding. just don't let him think he can walk all over you.

    but the meeting at the park sounds a little weird to me, unless it's like a Central Park setting, i.e. very public & lots of people. otherwise, a lonely park with a stranger isn't where you should be on a first date.

    Yeah, I sort of felt like he was "testing" me a bit too to see what I would do or how "desperate" he thinks I might be. I know we orginally said 5:30 for dinner but he asked for 6pm so he could go work-out. I did a lot of the giving in my previous relationships. I'd like to have the favor returned this time around.

    I know the park he's speaking of and it's a big, public park I just don't know where it is. But it's not an option. If comes to the school fine if not fine and I am not even sure about that yet.

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    ^^You sound like a fantastic woman, greeneyed. You will find the right guy because you are strong enough to not settle for less!

    I met my boyfriend off craigslist -- I searched for guys my age in their listings and found a profile that was written in a way reminiscent to my own syntax and with identical interests. We are now in love and both feel that we've found equal partners in life and the sex is great. He's taking me to Wine Country this weekend (Walla Walla)... yay vacation! So yeah. I just knew when I read his first email.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post
    ^^You sound like a fantastic woman, greeneyed. You will find the right guy because you are strong enough to not settle for less!

    I met my boyfriend off craigslist -- I searched for guys my age in their listings and found a profile that was written in a way reminiscent to my own syntax and with identical interests. We are now in love and both feel that we've found equal partners in life and the sex is great. He's taking me to Wine Country this weekend (Walla Walla)... yay vacation! So yeah. I just knew when I read his first email.
    Aww, thanks for the compliment. That's great, good for you. One of my friends met her husband on myspace. And one of the ladies I go to school with met her husband on match. There's hope yet, it'll happen when it does...

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenidlady1 View Post
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    No, he suggested our meeting place this evening. During our convesation this evening I just suggested a place close my school so I don't have to go somewhere I normally wouldn't go alone and hang-out just in case he doesn't show up again. Then he said I could come to park and go running with him and his dog and afterwards we could have dinner. I don't even know where this park is he is speaking of. I just know I'm not going out of my way again. I met him in the middle and waited. If there is going to be a next time he should come to me IMO.
    He really does just sound clueless to me. I would give him a second chance but I wouldn't go out of my way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by greenidlady1 View Post
    Aww, thanks for the compliment. That's great, good for you. One of my friends met her husband on myspace. And one of the ladies I go to school with met her husband on match. There's hope yet, it'll happen when it does...
    My mum also met my molester on Match. So it can go either way...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    My mum also met my molester on Match. So it can go either way...
    I'm sorry

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    Nah, wasn't looking for pity.. more or less telling you to be careful. There's all types. But thank you.


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    Thanks, that does remind to check out a website where you can see who the sex offenders are in your county.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t View Post
    Can't blame the guy for being loyal to his dog. A dog will take a bullet for you. You might not be around after the first date.
    Women come and go. A dog is for 15 years. A pickup truck is forever. Boys learn this growing up in the country. He's living it. Next...

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