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    If I want the guy Im pregnant by to relinquish his rights do I have the right to do that? He's told me that he doesn't want any children now so I don't want to have to go through all the crap of trying to force him to help out. I was reading on the net that even if he does it just doesn't give him any rights to the child but he would still be financially responsible. Help I need some info.

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    I'm not sure if it varies state by state, but here in NJ, if he relinquishes parental rights voluntarily, he is no longer financially responsible.


    Edited to add: He can't just relinquish to get out of paying BTW. You have to accept this arrangement legally. Otherwise, just take him to court to get your child support.

    Good luck.

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    No, he would no longer be financially responsible.

    If he doesn't do it voluntarily you can get them legally terminated if he doesn't contribute any form of support for 18 months (I think, but you should double check that).



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    Couldn't you just not put him on the birth certificate?

    If that's not an option, yes he can sign over parental rights, but as everyone else said, then he would not be financially responsible.
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    That's fine I just don't want him trying to be daddy years from now.

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    Definitely don't put him on the birth certificate then.



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    Unless this guy is a threat or a danger to a child, it's not really your place to keep him out of the kids life if he does decide after he or she is born that he will step up and be a dad.

    It's not fair to your kid at all for you decide that you don't want his dad around and to not let him know who his dad is or allow access to his dad. You may not like him or want him around but this is both of yours, the baby, and just because you are going to give birth to it, not him, doesn't mean that he shouldn't have the right to see his kid if he wants.
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    No offense, but if you didn't want this guy to be involved in your child's life, why did you get pregnant by him? You have now decided for your unborn child that he/she will have no father. That's not fair to the child.

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    We weren't protecting ourselves so we always knew I could get pregnant .He doesn't want kids right now so I don't want to force him too ,he told I should think about adoption I could never do that, so why should I let him be a part of this childs life if he doesn't want to be in the first place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MoetATL07 View Post
    We weren't protecting ourselves so we always knew I could get pregnant .He doesn't want kids right now so I don't want to force him too ,he told I should think about adoption I could never do that, so why should I let him be a part of this childs life if he doesn't want to be in the first place.
    As much as I think a child needs thier father in his/her life. I can understand exactly where you are coming from! But there have been cases, where the dad gave up thier rights. Than came back and won them back! All it takes is a good lawyer. Then he can get back his rights!

    I know a chick, who dont want the dad. To be apart of her child life. Yet he is dangerous! A very dangerous man. The type you dont want nothing to do with !

    Have you thought of how your child will feel?
    How you will explain this to your child?
    Children are so innocent, they sometimes have a hard time understanding what we already know! Do you know for sure he wont be a good dad?


    This guy might change his tune when the baby is born. He might be a good dad for the baby.
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    I think it's a little extreme to terminate his rights, as long as he is a good man. But if he and you both want it, Good luck to you both, it seems a hard decision to make, especially before the baby is here.

    I would think a child growing up in that situation would have a really difficult time of it later, b/c it isn't just like he has a "loser dad", he had a dad who didn't want him so much, the fater gave him up before they even met.....

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    ^^^ I agree with Lola. I understand where you are coming from with not wanting to force him to be a dad, but if I can be honest here; (and please don't take it the wrong way, I've been in this EXACT situation.)

    If you just don't want to burden him with the baby because you know that he doesn't want it, AND you don't care if he doesn't have to contribute financially; then why not just go on about your business and raise the baby without him? It sounds to me that you may be bitter about the fact that he doesn't want the baby, in which case, the relinquishing of parental rights would be more about your own satisfaction rather than what's best for him or the baby.

    It just seems like you're trying to use the relinquishing of his rights to punish him. Now I understand not wanting him to come in and out of the childs life. (That was my reason for wanting my ex to relinquish his rights) But there are worse things that can happen and like it was previously mentioned, it's very easy for him to regain his rights in court.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MoetATL07 View Post
    We weren't protecting ourselves so we always knew I could get pregnant .He doesn't want kids right now so I don't want to force him too ,he told I should think about adoption I could never do that, so why should I let him be a part of this childs life if he doesn't want to be in the first place.
    I think you are missing my point...WHY weren't you protecting yourselves? You say you knew you could get pregnant...didn't it matter to you that you might bring a child...a person, with wants, needs,and desires of their own...into this world? This is such a huge responsibility, and you seem to taking it almost like it's getting a dog or something. Children need two parents, and they ideally need two parents who are in a loving, committed relationship. But you have decided that your child will have only you. Don't you realize how selfish that is? How irresponsible? You are making decisions that will affect a person for 70-80 years of their life.

    Since I'm guessing you won't abort, I'd suggest you re-consider the adoption alternative. Even this guy has said it's a good idea...maybe you should listen to him. And use BC.

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    We both knew what were doing , were both adults I prepared to do what I have to do. I tried the abortion thing but he was supposed to help out with that also but didn't until the last minute so for me it's just easier to do what I have to for me I already raise two children by myself so I couldn't give this child up I have alot of family support. But I don't want to punish him by making him I wouldjust perfer forhim to sign over his rights I haven't told much about this anyways I figured I just wouldn't call him anymore he doesn't know where I live just recently moved so Icould just lose touch and he wouldcare anyway because he doesn't want to be responsible for his child in the first place.

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    If he relinquishes his parental rights then he no longer has any financial obligation towards the child. (That seems to be what you were initially asking) This would also allow your child to be adopted by your future partner, if that is something you two were interested in.


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    ^^Yes I read a ? on another site but didn't really understand why the person would be financially responsible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveSexMoney View Post
    If he relinquishes his parental rights then he no longer has any financial obligation towards the child. (That seems to be what you were initially asking) This would also allow your child to be adopted by your future partner, if that is something you two were interested in.
    Yea, that is what will be able to be done. Since he wants nothing to do with the child. I will not force my child on him! It will only affect the child worse. Him constanly rejecting the child. I seen what that did to my friend. It leaves them feeling a big empty void.

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    Also, I missed the part of your post where you asked if you have the "right" to do that. Well, you certainly have the right to try! But you can't force him to relinquish his rights. It sounds like it wouldn't be much of a battle though, particularly if he's suggesting adopting the child out.


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