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    Quote Originally Posted by iambonbon05 View Post
    Kudos for this thread. I read Nickel and Dimed in one day long before I ever stripped.

    Can you imagine how shitty it feels to be unemployed for 2-3 months, just trying to find a basic min wage job? That was me after my parents stopped helping me and I applied probably to a couple dozen jobs. I had good job experience and all. By the time I finally got a job at a department store, I'd racked up debt and $7.95 an hour with very fickle hours wasn't going to cut it. I could live on it as I'm lucky to live in a low cost area, but pay off my debt and build savings? FORGET IT.

    Hence I'm a stripper. I have had some very bad nights and my good nights are nothing to brag about it, but I'm still glad to be taking it home.
    Yeah that's exactly what I went through, except I was making $5.15/hr(not $7.95) and I lived in an area(Philly) where you could definitely NOT live off min wage. Even my one-room studio apartment in the most ghetto zipcode of the city(North Philly, zipcode 19132) was $110/week. But yeah I had a lot of debt too and that's what pushed me to do dancing!

    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque
    I'm grateful too, believe me...but I also refuse to allow myself to be completely satisfied with what I make on ANY night. Just b/c it's so easy to become complacent and let that slide into laziness. I never want to accept what I make as being "good enough"...I want to always be setting outrageously high goals and pushing myself HARD.
    YES I agree 100%. This doesn't just apply to dancing, but to many other jobs and things in life. My dad(he's his own boss, a contractor) and one of the ambitious managers at my former club told me this and it made a lot of sense. Count your blessings, but don't settle for less if there's a chance you can strive higher and do even better! That's what "progress" is!

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    I have read it also- and I love it. Very eye-opening. It is tough to think of so many who have no other choice but to survive on such a low salary.
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    "F*king aye, homes"

    I grew up in degrading poverty so every dollar I make as a stripper tickles me pink. I am so grateful for my job...I'd actually be literally dead without it because managing my health problems on my own is so expensive & I don't want to use Medicaid.

    & I tip very well to service workers....It's good karma.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CherryBomb954 View Post
    Thank you, Dolly! This is so fuckin true. I have been averaging around 1000$ a week at my new club, which I am stoked about, but still there are those that I hear complaining about having a "bad week"....making more than I did!

    This is one of the reasons I didn't like the big glamourous clubs in Vegas. People talking about having a "decent week" making 5 figures! At first it seemed cool then things just started to make me sick. Listening to girls talking about how "If you leave with any less than 3000$ here a night you are a loser" Talking about so-and-so there that make 25,000$ a week....Totally intimidating and unrealistic to me. I just wasn't cut out for it. I mean more power to those girls but I am happy with 1000$ a week and not having to live in Vegas. I want to go back to there eventually but I think this time I am going so try some smaller, less hyped up, not so much huge "high dollar" places.
    $25,000 a week.... geez... I remember when I made that in a YEAR!

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    I just started reading this book and it's a real eye opener.

    I've only read one chapter so far but it sure reminded of how much life sucked before I started dancing: I was working 2 jobs, working 6-7 days a week, living in a crappy apartment, barely made enough money for groceries, etc.

    I feel ashamed at how incredibly spoiled I have become the past 5 years.

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    I heard of the book and yes I do agree with you. Before I danced I had a variety of odd jobs that kept me at the poverty line, it was just impossible and very scary living on my own making 7 bucks and hour..because of dancing I was able to go back and get my high school diploma and now I am in college with a 4.0! Not to metion a pretty great lifestyle with lots of freedom..so yes dancing isn't "easy" there have been stressful even painful experiences but it is worth it to me and remembering the past and all that dancing has given me and taught me about life and myself, it puts it all in perspective. Cool thread!

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982 View Post
    ^ Ugh I can do you one(a few, actually LOL)
    Even worse: Working as a restaurant hostess(they wouldn't let me start off as a server) making $5.15/hr and getting sent home after only an hour of work. I don't know why they even bothered to hire me...they were already overstaffed with like 4-5 hosts per shift. As a result, they would "cut" me 1-2 hours after I got there. It literally took longer to take 2 busses up into the suburbs for this job one-way, than I spent working once I finally got there!! On most nights, I would get to work at 5pm, get "cut" at 7pm, then walk over to Acme and sit around the deli cafe section for 4 hrs until he got off work and was able to give me a ride(because the only bus stopped running after 6:30pm, this was my only option). .
    I needed a break from dancing last summer so I took a job at a resturant..and yes I had to host before serving and sometimes would get cut after an hour!! Omg I had bills and I couldn't stand having to take crap from people after five years of getting paid hundreds an hour with a guy in VIP. I said to myself.."I'm way too good to be treated like this!" So I went back to dancing and am VERY happy and finnishing my education..and last February I left with the most I EVER made dancing i my whole career, 4,500 in about two hours!! No extras or anything just a very generous guy who the bouncer hooked me up with....stuff like that makes me want to hug myself for saying fuck you to the resturant and realise how successful I am as a dancer, and in reality always was, even though for some reason I never really saw myself as stripper extrodonare or anything, even if society doesn't approve it doesn't really matter because this career fits my personality. provides me with the opportunity to further my education, allows me to take care of myself and just makes me happy, I love taking off my clothes, being sexy, and having a good time and at this point in my life I feel good saying that this is what I am ment to do right now in my life. Yes dancing we do run into some assholes or negative experiences but when you compare it to the "real world" now I realise that is a small price to pay for all my good fortune!

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilac666 View Post
    I needed a break from dancing last summer so I took a job at a resturant..and yes I had to host before serving and sometimes would get cut after an hour!! Omg I had bills and I couldn't stand having to take crap from people after five years of getting paid hundreds an hour with a guy in VIP. I said to myself.."I'm way too good to be treated like this!" So I went back to dancing and am VERY happy and finnishing my education..and last February I left with the most I EVER made dancing i my whole career, 4,500 in about two hours!! No extras or anything just a very generous guy who the bouncer hooked me up with....stuff like that makes me want to hug myself for saying fuck you to the resturant and realise how successful I am as a dancer, and in reality always was, even though for some reason I never really saw myself as stripper extrodonare or anything, even if society doesn't approve it doesn't really matter because this career fits my personality. provides me with the opportunity to further my education, allows me to take care of myself and just makes me happy, I love taking off my clothes, being sexy, and having a good time and at this point in my life I feel good saying that this is what I am ment to do right now in my life. Yes dancing we do run into some assholes or negative experiences but when you compare it to the "real world" now I realise that is a small price to pay for all my good fortune!

    I am very glad to hear that you made so much money last month...great job! I am very happy for you being content and happy.

    I'm also glad you can relate to me on the hostess bullshit. There were a few people who didn't believe my horror stories about being "cut" 1 hr into my shift, probably because it was so horrible thus unbelievable. I'm glad that someone can verify this! I agree with you that you deserved to be treated better. Three years ago when I worked the hostess gig, I wish I had the high enough self-esteem to have thought this way! Instead, I had the mentality of "well at least I have 'a' job," even though I probably spent just as much(or more!) on bus + train fare than I made at that place. Oh and it gets worse. When the manager found out that I was without permanent residence and couchsurfing at my friends(hmmm I wonder why? maybe because they didn't pay me enough to afford rent?), he accused me of being a "liar"(even though I really did live at the address on my app at the time I'd filled out the app) and started acting really condescending and mean. When I tried taking on other jobs(dancing and tutoring) to supplement the tiny restaurant hours in a humble attempt to pull myself out of a bad money situation, I told them that I had a few schedule conflicts and the same manager said snidely, "Well if you're working, like, 8 jobs, I can tell you right now that the end result will NOT be good." Then give me more fuckin' hours bitch!(that's what I shoulda told him) Needless to say, I quit that job 2 days after I started dancing!

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    Quote Originally Posted by PhillyDancer1982 View Post
    I am very glad to hear that you made so much money last month...great job! I am very happy for you being content and happy.

    I'm also glad you can relate to me on the hostess bullshit. There were a few people who didn't believe my horror stories about being "cut" 1 hr into my shift, probably because it was so horrible thus unbelievable. I'm glad that someone can verify this! I agree with you that you deserved to be treated better. Three years ago when I worked the hostess gig, I wish I had the high enough self-esteem to have thought this way! Instead, I had the mentality of "well at least I have 'a' job," even though I probably spent just as much(or more!) on bus + train fare than I made at that place. Oh and it gets worse. When the manager found out that I was without permanent residence and couchsurfing at my friends(hmmm I wonder why? maybe because they didn't pay me enough to afford rent?), he accused me of being a "liar"(even though I really did live at the address on my app at the time I'd filled out the app) and started acting really condescending and mean. When I tried taking on other jobs(dancing and tutoring) to supplement the tiny restaurant hours in a humble attempt to pull myself out of a bad money situation, I told them that I had a few schedule conflicts and the same manager said snidely, "Well if you're working, like, 8 jobs, I can tell you right now that the end result will NOT be good." Then give me more fuckin' hours bitch!(that's what I shoulda told him) Needless to say, I quit that job 2 days after I started dancing!
    Thanks for the positive affirmations! Yes the resturant business is ridiculous. In three months working at that job I blew through 5,000 of my savings paying bills and this was after being extremely conservative in my spending. I couldn't live like that NO WAY! In a way I wanted to get out of dancing but on my first day back dancing in October I left with over 1,000, the next night over 800...and then on Valentines day I left with 4,500, I NEVER thought I'd make that much I'd done well in the past but I never dreamed I'd see that much cash in my hand after two hours, I've heard about girls in Vegas making that kind of milestone but I never really thought it would happen to me, it kind of confirmed to me that I am great dancer I need to take advantage of that in my life, first off the immediate finnancal rewards that happened when I went back to dancing, how happy I felt being back, and remembering how as a young girl I would secretly fantasize about being an exotic dancer (as well as being a Pethouse pet, lol) even though many people might find that disturbing it feels right to me and I'm sure some girls wish they could be in my position and I shouldn't throw this opportunity away just to settle for a socially acceptable job...you just can't compare making that kind of money, for something I feel that I am a natural at and for the most part enjoy. I was so unhappy waitressing and couldn't make ends meet but in a roundabout way, it quickly put it in perspective how well I really did as a dancer, how much money I actually made and all the good things I could do with it, and most importantly I got serious about coming to terms with the fact that I needed to finnish my education and open doors for myself because I will NEVER go back to these kind of degrading jobs after dancing...I know I owe it to myself to challenge myself and I deserve to be successful. Many times I have felt down on myself, wondered if I am doing the right thing with my life, wondering if I am selling myself short by dancing, and just being confused in my life, not to get too philosophical but in ways it has felt like the the universe is working in ways that is making dancing my reality and maybe this is the path that will set me up for whatever happens next in my life, whether finnishing my college education, or just learning important life lessons and becoming more enlightened to who I am from the unique expereinces I go through while dancing...I've already grown so much since I started dancing when I was 20 and alot of that is from my dancing career. When I think about how much I have invested in dancing and all that I have been through...it just seems unfair to myself to let it all be in vain by just quitting prematurely and not use it as a stepping stone in my life.

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    I am very happy that you are able to make that kind of money and that you are good at what you do. I agree, stick with it for a while! -- not only because you're obviously very good at what you do, but also because you ENJOY it.

    See for me, I was never a topearner or anything. I quit dancing when I had a consistent period of bad nights all in a row, to the point that I was making the same or less money as a waitress. At that point, working a "socially unacceptable" job like dancing was not worth it for me financially, plus I was fed up with it and didn't even like it. I did actually take waitressing jobs (as a 2nd job to supplement my full time job's income) after I quit dancing, and to be honest I didn't mind them too much because they generally paid better than hostessing. For example, I didn't mind making $100-150 waitressing for 7 hours(even though that is less than I make at my day job), but I WOULD be really pissed if I made $5.15/hr hostessing and got "cut" after an hour or two. I'd also be really pissed if I made the same amount as waitressing(i.e., $100/shift) as a dancer that has to take her clothes off. I didn't mind the waitressing because it still allowed to pay the bills. But yeah looking back at it, although waitressing isn't the worst thing in the world, there are a lot of sucky parts that dancers don't have to put up with...such as cleaning your table section at the end of the night.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Picaresque View Post
    I'm grateful too, believe me...but I also refuse to allow myself to be completely satisfied with what I make on ANY night. Just b/c it's so easy to become complacent and let that slide into laziness. I never want to accept what I make as being "good enough"...I want to always be setting outrageously high goals and pushing myself HARD.
    I really don't think being lazy and being satisfied are the same thing. I push myself to do well, but I know I would be totally miserable if I was *never* happy with what I made. I knew somebody was going to post something like this when I started this thread....being grateful for the opportunity to make this money isn't the same as being lazy or not working hard.
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