I've been dancing for a little over a year now and love it. I've been with my boyfriend now for 7 months. He wants me to quit dancing. He says that "I'm better than dancing". I don't see what the big deal is. I am really lost on what his issue is. He says he's been to strip clubs and "knows" what goes on there. I tell him that he's never been to mine and knows that I wouldn't do the things that have given him a bad taste in his mouth about girls that dance. He says he hates that I go to work and am "flirting with other guys". And that he can't make me as happy as the guys at my work do with giving me money. I've brought up the fact that for the first 3 months of our relationship he wasn't working and I was paying for everything. Payed for his car to get fixed (600), gave him money all the time, bought his gas, payed his 150/mo gym tuition, payed for us to go out to eat every day, bought him clothes, gave him money every weekend to go out to the bar with his boys... the list goes on. And during that time he didn't say a DAMN thing about wanting me to quit. It was almost like he thinks I owed him all that because I was staying at his house. And he was driving me to work. Well, we broke up and he was forced to get a job. Now he is on this kick about wanting me to quit because he "has stronger feelings for me since we got back together". He says he "wants me to feel how good it feels to 'work' for my money like he does for his". Bottom line.. I don't want to quit and I don't understand why he's trying to make me. I don't know what to do because he's made it very clear that in about 6 months if I don't quit he's going to break up with me. He says he doesn't like telling his family what I do for a living. I'm sorry but my family knows what I do. And i've NEVER been the girl to give a damn about what other people think about me. Especially dancing.. The people that who's opinions even matter to me know that I don't do the things that people claim dancers "do". I'm just really confused. I would love to hear back on what I should do and how to approach this. ALSO from dancers who are in long term relationships or are married (husbands don't care if you dance). What have you told them? How'd you get them to understand?



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