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    I always try to think of the best way to reject a dancer if I'm not attracted to them. I usually say "maybe later" or "not right now" because I suddenly lose my sack and can't flat out say no. I realize this hurts me for later on often because they will try again. I often try to avoid that situation by not giving eye contact. Does this tactic actually work?


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    Basically if you are in a strip club without a dancer on you, you are fair game. Most dancers do not always pay attention to eye contact, since alot of clubs overbook dancers there are sometimes more dancers than customers. You kind of just have to be firm but not rude. Do not say Maybe later because that girl will be back later like 50 times until you say yes. Find the girls you are attracted to and approach them directly otherwise you will be approached because you are sitting there alone. And alot of times the girl you want most may either be superbusy because alot of other people want dances from her or she is new and has not grasped the whole concept of approaching customers yet.

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    How about a simple "no, thank you"?

    Might as well be honest so they don't keep coming back again. I don't think avoiding eye contact is going to keep determined girls from coming up to you.


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    Default Re: Do you ladies approach even if no eye contact?

    For a dancer who just comes by and asks "wanna dance", a simple "no thank you", with a smile is good. I usually add "thank you for asking" as well.

    For someone who says hello, and asks if she can join you (sit down), something along the lines of "I'd rather not waste your time right now, but if I want a dance later, I'll come and get you, ok?" works pretty good. That way she knows not to seek you out later.

    I'm a friendly guy, so I don't avoid eye contact myself. To me that would make my SC experience less relaxed. I like to say hello to everyone...and stick to my budget for the afternoon at the same time.
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    Quote Originally Posted by youngBUTbanking View Post
    I always try to think of the best way to reject a dancer if I'm not attracted to them. I usually say "maybe later" or "not right now" because I suddenly lose my sack and can't flat out say no. I realize this hurts me for later on often because they will try again. I often try to avoid that situation by not giving eye contact. Does this tactic actually work?


    I'm not talking about regulars that you see but haven't seen you and you just go sit on their lap out of nowhere. I'm talking about possible new custies.
    Look. Let's say you're in a mood for steak. You go to a nice restaurant, intent upon ordering the steak. The waiter comes up and asks if you'd like to try the day's special, which is trout. You don't want trout; you want steak. Are you going to puss out and get the trout just because you don't want to say "no, I'm in the mood for something else" to the waiter? I really hope not. Why would it be any harder to say no to a dancer who just isn't your type rather than lead her on with false hope, which is ultimately more cruel and a bigger waste of her time?

    Granted, continuing with the meal analogy, there's nothing to say you can't order an appetizer and a dessert as well as the steak you craved. Sharing the wealth is always appreciated.

    Remember the "ripple effect" at SCs. Girls talk to each other. If you huddle in your corner playing the "please don't look at me please don't look at me please don't look at me" game, you may end up with the whole houseful of dancers ignoring you, including the ones you may have been interested in. Be a man.


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    Yes, sometimes I will completely ignore lack of eye contact or even blatent looking in the other direction. Because I KNOW that once i start talking to the guy there is a huge chance he will change his mind. I never "wanna dance", i will go up and ask politely if I may sit with him b/c i just got there and need to "warm up" or "relax" a bit. This ususally relieves the guy of thinking I am going to ask for a dance and by the time hes wrapped around my finger, he's asking me.

    SO..if you have zero intention of spending saying "NO Thank you" is not offensive in any way. No need to be apologetic or provide a reason, just "No" or "No, thank you" or "I am waiting for someone else".

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    No eye contact has never stopped me from approaching a customer. I found out that it also has very little to do with whether they will spend or not. So I go to them even when they aren't looking at me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SundayMorning View Post
    Granted, continuing with the meal analogy, there's nothing to say you can't order an appetizer and a dessert as well as the steak you craved. Sharing the wealth is always appreciated.
    Amen, sister! Seriously... I don't know why guys get so caught up in waiting it out, looking for that 'special' girl, going through odd little machinations of trying to figure out which dancer is most worthy of their stupendous $20.

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    To answer your question-yes I do approach guys even if they don't make eye contact. I learned a long time ago that even if they aren't giving you the eye, that doesn't mean they aren't interested and won't get a shit ton of dances from you.

    And this is stellar advice:

    Quote Originally Posted by hockeybobby View Post
    For a dancer who just comes by and asks "wanna dance", a simple "no thank you", with a smile is good. I usually add "thank you for asking" as well.

    For someone who says hello, and asks if she can join you (sit down), something along the lines of "I'd rather not waste your time right now, but if I want a dance later, I'll come and get you, ok?" works pretty good. That way she knows not to seek you out later.

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    LOL! I needed a good laugh...


    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Seriously... I don't know why guys get so caught up in waiting it out, looking for that 'special' girl, going through odd little machinations of trying to figure out which dancer is most worthy of their stupendous $20.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Amen, sister! Seriously... I don't know why guys get so caught up in waiting it out, looking for that 'special' girl, going through odd little machinations of trying to figure out which dancer is most worthy of their stupendous $20.

    Try a bit of everything. With dancers it's tough to judge the quality of a dance based on outward appearance. The best dances often come from unexpected dancers.
    I've learned this lesson. I've gone into clubs with the intention of buying at least one dance from every dancer on shift. Of course, I've done that in clubs with only 4-6 dancers on duty because, y'know, I'm not rich (yet).

    And I've learned that waiting for that special dancer means a lot of waiting. If she's attractive to me, she's likely attractive to a lot of guys and therefore busy as hell.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Amen, sister! Seriously... I don't know why guys get so caught up in waiting it out, looking for that 'special' girl, going through odd little machinations of trying to figure out which dancer is most worthy of their stupendous $20.

    Try a bit of everything. With dancers it's tough to judge the quality of a dance based on outward appearance. The best dances often come from unexpected dancers.
    Because they only have $20?

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    Quote Originally Posted by RoseLeigh View Post
    Because they only have $20?
    ...ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

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    Well I probably should have clarified - I'm not saying I'm looking for the "perfect" one or anything like that but sometimes you just aren't attracted to some ladies and thats it. Also it isn't an attempt to "find who is worthy of my $20" or anything like that. Some of you get defensive pretty quickly but it does make me laugh. I have never thought in those kind of terms when im at a SC because I go to spend a lot and have a good time but I guess there are some out there that do have that kind of thinking.

    But for the ones who answered - I noticed the common response is that saying no politely is a lot better than politely saying "maybe later" or the bright idea of "no eye contact" so I appreciate the advice !
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    i definitely do not approach a custy if there is no eye contact, but that's just me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Amen, sister! Seriously... I don't know why guys get so caught up in waiting it out, looking for that 'special' girl, going through odd little machinations of trying to figure out which dancer is most worthy of their stupendous $20.

    Try a bit of everything. With dancers it's tough to judge the quality of a dance based on outward appearance. The best dances often come from unexpected dancers.
    $50/3 minutes at my club. At $20/song, I'd spread the welath all over the place. At $50/3 minutes, not so much.

    So I guess to continue the food analogy, my club doesn't serve appetizers or dessert, only steak. Except that's not quite true. They do mini-laps for their tip walk for a few dollars (minimum $1, I end up tipping ~$3-$. I eagerly accept those as often as they're offered.
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    Quote Originally Posted by youngBUTbanking View Post
    Well I probably should have clarified - I'm not saying I'm looking for the "perfect" one or anything like that but sometimes you just aren't attracted to some ladies and thats it. Also it isn't an attempt to "find who is worthy of my $20" or anything like that. Some of you get defensive pretty quickly but it does make me laugh. I have never thought in those kind of terms when im at a SC because I go to spend a lot and have a good time but I guess there are some out there that do have that kind of thinking.

    But for the ones who answered - I noticed the common response is that saying no politely is a lot better than politely saying "maybe later" or the bright idea of "no eye contact" so I appreciate the advice !
    To the second half of your statement, you're welcome for clarifying.

    To the first half...we have "that kind of thinking" because it's our job. There's nothing defensive about it; guys who waste our time by letting us think they MIGHT spend money on us when they have no intention of doing so, as you demonstrated in your first post, are wastes of good seats in the club. Whether that's through some power game ("heh heh look how I can lead this stripper on") mentality or just being too much of a pussy to firmly and politely decline her offer of a dance, it's irrelevant. Just don't do it.


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    You could be staring at a TV with blinders on and some dancers would still approach you. But what do you expect, it's their job.

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    I don't approach if the guy specifically avoids eye contact/looks away/hunches over or whatever...sometimes you can tell he's doing that so that you wont approach, and I don't have the time or patience to try to convert them...there are usually enough guys who do want dances, so why bother.

    That said, I'm obviously in the minority.

    "No, but thanks" is easy and to the point...why is it hard to say? It's way better than 'maybe later'. I hate 'maybe later'. I hate guys who say 'maybe later'.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scarlett_vancouver View Post
    I don't approach if the guy specifically avoids eye contact/looks away/hunches over or whatever...sometimes you can tell he's doing that so that you wont approach, and I don't have the time or patience to try to convert them...there are usually enough guys who do want dances, so why bother.

    That said, I'm obviously in the minority.

    "No, but thanks" is easy and to the point...why is it hard to say? It's way better than 'maybe later'. I hate 'maybe later'. I hate guys who say 'maybe later'.
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    It depends. On a first pass, if it's crowded and easy going, then I'll ignore those who won't make eye contact. That said, if it's slow or there are a ton of girls then on my second or third pass around the room I don't care if you pulled out holy water, I'll still bug you. If you are not with another dancer, then you are fair game.

    I hope when you say no eye contact, you mean before the dancer approaches you. The whole no eye contact thing while I'm speaking to you is one of my biggest pet peeves and is likely to result in some not kind words (although usually I start by saying it's not polite and giving someone a chance to redeem themselves).

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    If you can't muster up the testicular fortitude to politely decline outright, just tell them you're waiting for someone else.

    It's not really that hard. You're the customer, remember?
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    Quote Originally Posted by NikkiWest View Post
    It depends. On a first pass, if it's crowded and easy going, then I'll ignore those who won't make eye contact. That said, if it's slow or there are a ton of girls then on my second or third pass around the room I don't care if you pulled out holy water, I'll still bug you. If you are not with another dancer, then you are fair game.

    I hope when you say no eye contact, you mean before the dancer approaches you. The whole no eye contact thing while I'm speaking to you is one of my biggest pet peeves and is likely to result in some not kind words (although usually I start by saying it's not polite and giving someone a chance to redeem themselves).

    No eye contact as in before the lady approaches...

    No eye contact when someone is talking to you is just a douchebag move.
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    I would approach everyone, even the ones avoiding eye contact. A lot of shy, socially-awkward guy spent a lot of money once you could get through to them. Just say no thank you, the dancer can deal with it.

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    I say no. I've found that for 9 out of 10 girls it works like a charm and they don't keep coming back. However, it really annoys me when they keep coming back and I keep saying no and they just keep asking me for a dance. I feel that since I've said no that should really settle what I think.

    The other week I kept having this one dancer come up and ask and every time I said no she would then tell me that I had to get a dance from her or tip her. I just kept saying no and I could tell she was getting more and more pissed off with me. I didn't get it. The place was packed, so it's not like I was her only chance of making money that night.

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