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    I know...I start the most RANDOM threads...this may be applicable to hustle hut, too.

    Anyhow, does/has anyone ever used staring as a tactic to sell dances/get people's attention?

    I first noticed it worked for my friend when we were out together. We'd be at some clubs, in the mall, wherever with a group of people...and I noticed that she got stared at alot and that guys would make comments. (I'm probably going to get flamed for the next statement, as mean as it sounds...but it's true IMO...) I didn't understand why out of all people with us they would check HER out (I have many pretty friends, and while she isn't ugly...she is a bit chunkier, has short hair (chin length and sometimes even shorter), and looks just "average." I knew it wasn't b/c she dresses slutty, either...b/c she dresses very tasteful. Then I noticed that she actually stares at guys (all guys - young, old, single, with gfs/wives) ALL OF THE TIME. I'm still not sure why she does this...but it seemed to work.

    As a matter of fact, I tested it out for myself. Sure enough, I got many stares, double looks, and nice comments directed my way. If I were accompanied by males, guys would even compliment my male friends on "how pretty I was, how lucky they were to be w/me," etc. Also, if you're wondering, I also kept track of if that happened when I didn't stare (just in case I just noticed the comments/stares MORE when I acted differently), and there was def a difference.

    From a psychological standpoint, I guess this makes sense. Staring shows interest, sometimes captures the attention of people who might think that you're attractive who otherwise wouldn't have looked at you, shows confidence, sometimes can be sexy, etc.

    *edit: when I say "stare," I am not referring to a rude or nosey glare, nor am I referring to eye contact lasting just a second. It's hard to explain in words, but I guess I mean more like locking eyes with someone and looking..."interested," but not blatantly like you want to jump in their pants.

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    I think that making eye contact when you are on stage helps sell the dance. It's sort of like an ice breaker. They might take a moment to look at more than your body...

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotica268 View Post
    From a psychological standpoint, I guess this makes sense. Staring shows interest, sometimes captures the attention of people who might think that you're attractive who otherwise wouldn't have looked at you, shows confidence, sometimes can be sexy, etc.
    I think you've got it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotica268 View Post
    I first noticed it worked for my friend when we were out together. We'd be at some clubs, in the mall, wherever with a group of people...and I noticed that she got stared at alot and that guys would make comments...Then I noticed that she actually stares at guys (all guys - young, old, single, with gfs/wives) ALL OF THE TIME. I'm still not sure why she does this...but it seemed to work.

    *edit: when I say "stare," I am not referring to a rude or nosey glare, nor am I referring to eye contact lasting just a second. It's hard to explain in words, but I guess I mean more like locking eyes with someone and looking..."interested," but not blatantly like you want to jump in their pants.
    Welcome to the wonders of body language.

    When a woman wants to indicate interest in a man in another part of the room (consciously or sub-consciously) and he's momentarily looking at her, she'll hold his gaze for a few seconds, then look away and down. Us guys are not always good at decoding female body language signals so it may take several glance/look away cycles, before it registers.

    Your friend was signalling "availability" with her all her eye contact. And when you used the same pattern of eye contact, you were signalling "availability" as well.

    You might also want to check out if your friend smiles for a few seconds after she's made eye contact. The smile goes along with the eye signal: eye contact means "I'm interested in you" and the smile indicates "and I'd like you to come across".

    For all the tradition of the male making the first move, studies have shown that 90% of the time it's the woman who's used body language like the above to signal her interest before the man comes over. He might be "making the first move", but the woman's body language has given him the green light to do so.

    As to using it within a club environment, remember us guys are not always good at decoding body language. Studies have shown that the woman might need to make "glance" type eye contact 3 - 4 times before us dumb blokes realise you're interested. So it might take some time to get our attention....

    And in the money making environment of a strip club it might be more cost-effective in terms of your time just to walk over and say "Are you enjoying yourself - do you want a dance?"

    Phil.

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    ha ha i taught a bunch of chicks that years ago. I was at a bar with 4 other cute girls, and they couldnt understand why no guys were coming up to them. I taught them how to look at a guy, slowly smile, then turn thier head, and they were shocked how quickly it worked! Seriously, what guy wants to risk rejection? Its like us at work- we look for the ones looking at us, dont we? I do this at work randomly all night long, and alot of times halfway through the night, guys are asking me instead of me having to ask them!

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    On the other hand, I will never forget the time I met a girlfriend for drinks at a bar....she was wearing this really provocative dress and decided to stare at a guy she thought was cute...Well she ended up glaring at him more than staring. You could tell he was really unnerved and he quickly left the bar!!!! Gotta be careful with this technique!

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    ^^^LOL that cracked me up!!

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    Bringing back an oldie that I started...I need to practice doing this more purposefully, bc I've found myself reverting back to my old shy ways of AVOIDING eye contact on purpose :-/.

    Any other success stories w this seemingly simple method?

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    This is the exact reason why I don't look at ANYONE when I'm out! Lol. But I really hate getting attention from men in public, it's embarassing if i'm with people...so i've always made it a point to avoid eye contact with men I don't know.

    It's funny because when I was in France, someone told me to never make eye contact with or smile at men on the street. I caught this guy looking at me so I kinda smiled out of politeness and kept walking. This dude followed me down the street making gestures and cat-calling in French and causing a scene! Because over there if you so much as glance at them it automatically means you're single and want them. I learned my lesson! Haha

    Inside the club though, I think this tact would be extremely useful in selling dances due to the fact that it works so well outside the club too

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    ^^ I avoid eye contact as well. It doesn't come naturally to me to ignore anyone, but I seriously get chatted up a few times a day when I leave my house. I hate it.

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    Same thing happened to me, too, in France. On the positive side, it's how I met my long-term French musician boyfriend while he was having a jam session in a jazz bar. I was starstruck without even knowing who he was and couldn't help myself but to stare, smile, look away giggle. Repeatedly.

    On negative, I was distracted getting off the metro and hadn't noticed I'd been staring at a guy until I noticed him following me home! Had to duck into a cafe to throw him off my trail.
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    I dont stare at custies, but I do take notice if they are looking at me & if so they are the targets I go for.

    It's simply interaction 101 that attraction is signaled in the eyes and if you are good at reading it then it's to your advantage. I knew this beautiful woman who told me she has no clue when guys check her out and I laughed cuz she is so hott it must happen all the time besides when I hooked up w/her she made the connection with me so obvious that I kinda got shy cuz I didn't feel I should be as transparently attracted to a woman who is a stranger. I told her that she must intimate most men cuz I believe that is the case as eye contact and not noticing is hard for me to buy w/her or maybe with women she feel more free to give off the signals as with me she sealed the deal before I ever had a conversation with her as I felt that heated attraction with just a look at her eyes.

    I on the other hand am extremely keen to what I call the sex stare and I rarely miss it if some1 is attracted to me I will know it in the eyes every time.

    Models are taught to smile with their eyes and learn to flirt with the camera using their eyes for a reason it is a universal sign that welcomes sexual attention. If you learn to do that and it becomes believable custies will respond with a more vested interest in you as they will believe what they want and that is that they made a sexual connection with you that they are interested in.

    I am a horrible faker and never look at guys as anything but custies so I can't and don't use the eyes approach myself infact I tend to pick up on who is interested and then play the u want me but you have to work hard to get my attention game which works for me cuz I think it's pretty obvious money turns me on and a good tipper might get me to look at him with the same attention as the bill he gives me.
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    Staring is a hypnosis technique. It's supposed to make people think they are in love with you.

    You'll know the pick up artists practicing at your club when they stare you down and don't buy any dances.




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