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Last edited by ghostinpa; 05-18-2008 at 02:44 PM. Reason: being harressed at work. ruining my life. sorry. please delete me/ban me whatever





Sounds like he has a porn addiction. The reason I think this is because he's doing it rather than having a normal sexual relationship with you, i.e. the too tired thing. If its not an addiction, it could just be his fetish. Maybe gets off on exposing himself. I wouldn't call him a pervert though. I mean, what IS a pervert really?
I think it sucks that he's lying to you though. You should have a talk about it with him.
yep, I think he has a porn addiction. If I were you, I'd make him seek treatment and if he refused, I'd break up with him. That type of thing is poison for a relationship.




Sounds very similar to what I used to deal with. My ex of 2 years would go on cam sites and get on his cam also and jerk his cock. He would pay, and ended up paying a lot of money. He thought he was good at hiding it from me, but I am a very observant person and it is very hard to hide something from me. I would notice when he moved his camera, or he would have it laying on the floor and I would come home and it would be plugged in. So, I asked him one day (I knew what he was doing) and he came clean. I found out he was spending hundreds of dollars.
Anyways, I agree with Lily. He has a porn addiction, my ex would say it was an escape. I would be pissed as well because I would want sex and he would rather lock himself away and spend money on his camera.
how big is his penis?
the reason I ask is because if I was well-hung I'd be doing that too.
My 1st boyfriend was like this. Horrible lay too. I guess he wasn't trying to escape me so much as his horrendous performances in bed...LOL...
He turned me off of monogamy though, so that's a plus.




I definitely think you went overboard when you broke the camera. Addiction or not that kind of shit just isn't cool.
I can understand feeling neglected when he'll watch porn and not have sex with you, but it is by no means acceptable behavior either. You wonder why he lied to you about a computer webcam... because you broke his other one. No wonder he lied to you about it.
I agree with Lily, this doesn't really make him a pervert. He could possibly have an addiction, but its very unlikely perverted.
I'd say it sounds like he's on the verge of an addiction, but also that the two of you have communication issues as well.
You need to sit down with him, both talk about your feelings, and hopefully come to a solution you both can live with, if not, well then you two might not be right for each other.
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If it bothers you find a new boyfriend lots of them out there who like the feel of a woman.Sounds like he's not gonna stop showing his junk for a while.Hope it gets better for you.Maybe find his call name or whatever and let him give you a show then about the time he's ready for blast-off show your face!I'm not trying to be cold about it just giving you some ideas.





Screw that. I could not be in a relationship with someone that whacked off on the internet all the time and wouldn't be intimate with me. It's like, you'd rather rub one out than have sex with me? Uh, yeah what a great way to make a woman feel special.
Eh, dump him. All men wank but not all of them are obsessed with it. Cerously.
I'm not sure I understand. When he uses the cam is actually communicating with other women? Are these women like internet whores or something? I'm really not up to date with my internet porn knowledge but if this is so it would really piss me off, to me thats being unfaithful.
Whoa....several of us here do webcamming so calling us whores is NOT cool. You do a striptease on camera and usually touch yourself. Most of it is one way...once in awhile you do cam to cam shows where you can see the guy.
That said...if hes obsessed to the point that he isnt paying attention to you or spending all his money on porn is an addiction. He needs to get help NOW and/or you need to leave him.
it's cheating to me too.
and I'd have gone further then to just break his camera.
Sorry cam, I really didn't mean to offend you or anyone else, I'm obviously a bit ignorant when it comes to internet porn. I understand that from your side its not the same as prostitution, (and even if it was who am I to judge,) but I still wouldn't feel comfortable with my man doing it. I guess its not that different from watching a porn film but something about it being one on one makes it more personal and just makes me uncomfortable.
I definatley would not be happy if my SO was participating at the level ghostinpas is, that would be a deal breaker for me.
And again, sorry for any offence I caused.





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OP, your boyfriend gets off to knowing that a bunch of gay guys and maybe 1 or two girls are getting off to his cock. This is his fantasy and he's living it.
With that said, you either need to do eith 1 of two things:
1.) NEXT the BF
2.) Find a way to incorporate his fantasy into your sexual lives, that way both of you can be pleased.
If you like option two, start having public sex in gay clubs.
Well considering there isnt ANY contact between you and the guy it is absolutely not prostitution. Its actually less so then stripping in most cases since nobody ever touches you but you.And jut like in a strip club, guys that become your regulars usually just want to talk. I spend a lot of time just talking with guys all over the world who are just lonely.
That said..if you arent ok with it and he's still doing it, esp on this extreme level..theres a huge problem. No communication, disrespect,addiction...not good grounds for a healthy relationship.




Agree with most the the above comments, if it's a problem for you then it's a problem. Especially if it interferes with your sex life!!
I wonder who has watching him, lol I bet he's paying someone too, or he's on the gay sites. Because there's not many chicks out there who stare at men wanking for FUN online.
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what *I* would do: get on the comp when he's about to come home and let him think he just caught *me* flirting online with another man and showing him my twat. then break up with him, move out, and then have lots of sexy men help me move my stuff.
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My opinion prob won't be a popular one...BUT:
I can def understand your POV, but I don't share it. The only way it would bother me is if the fetish was causing problems with our intimacy.
Really, I can't really see the difference in being on cam and getting naked in the club. All men masturbate, and I'd be more worried if he didn't.
Maybe it IS an addiction, and maybe it isn't. Either way, if it's something that you aren't comfortable with, then I wouldn't stick around.
^^ being a webcam girl myself it wouldnt bother me either..but it is bothering her AND interfering with their sex life. Thats not ok.
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