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    Default What DON'T you like about being a stripper

    and what do you think should be changed...

    I have to do a proposal argument for my composition class and I would love some ideas from ladies all over the country about things you wish could be changed about this occupation. The ideas that I found are issues in the Tampa area are...

    1. Nobody is quite sure of the laws
    2. High tip outs
    3. Management is very strict about menial things
    4. Reviews (we do the work so why do we only get 40% of the cost of the dance)

    Please please please do not post about a specific club I am trying to do problems with the occupation not just a certain club.

    Thank you
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    Ok, so I sat here for about 5 minutes trying to think of something I don't like about being a stripper. The best answer I came up with was the bruises. Other than that, I'm a totally happy stripper

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    I'm not into being around people who do drink excessively and do drugs.

    I hate being propositioned for sex or relationships by the customers.

    I hate going on stage.

    Wearing heels does physical damage to my body.

    Having to "sell myself" or try to convince customers that I like them, because I think dances should sell themselves.

    I think this market is too competitive now, with all the extras going on.

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    Default Re: What DON'T you like about being a stripper

    Quote Originally Posted by AlexxaHex View Post
    Having to "sell myself" or try to convince customers that I like them, because I think dances should sell themselves.
    Agreed. And I don't like the tons of customers we get that decide they're in love with you because you're 'special' or 'different' and won't get dances because they 'respect' you too much to get dances/be a customer. UGH!

    I also can't stand the calluses I'm getting on my hands and knees and all of my leg bruises. But my leg and thigh muscles are lookin' really good!

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    ...the inconsistency in your $$$
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    Default Re: What DON'T you like about being a stripper

    I hate being groped without my consent.
    I hate no money days.


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    I've only auditioned so far, but I can tell that going on stage will be my least favorite part of the job.
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    Default Re: What DON'T you like about being a stripper

    -Not knowing if you'll make a grand or a dollar.
    -Being propositioned for OTC (note that I don't have a problem with selling pussy, it's a personal choice, but I don't do it and I HATE it happening ITC)
    -The shady people you meet, including dancers, mgmt, and customers
    -The judgement from the 'outside world'
    -The personal pressures I face regarding drinking and drug use that I doubt I would find as prevalent (if at all) working a "9-5"

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    1. If I am an independent contractor, why can't I just come in whenever I feel like it and not have a schedule? And when I call out, why do I get bitched at? Its not like they are paying me

    2. OUTRAGEOUS housefees and tip-outs. I am an asset to the club, not the other way around. So say I make $500, 1/5 of that is going to the club. Outrageous.

    3. Nobody is quite sure of the laws, I agree Alexis

    4. Customers thinking it is a really bad dating service, instead of a SC (what AlexxaHex said)

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    Default Re: What DON'T you like about being a stripper

    Quote Originally Posted by cutey5032 View Post
    1. If I am an independent contractor, why can't I just come in whenever I feel like it and not have a schedule? And when I call out, why do I get bitched at? Its not like they are paying me...
    I TOTALLY agree with this. All three clubs where I've worked have stupid fucking rules that I don't know why I have to follow. Why can't I talk on my cell phone on the floor, if it's keeping customers from giving me money, that's MY problem, not the club's. And if I feel like sitting on my ass in the dressing room, why do I get fined and kicked out, I paid my damn housefees to be there!!!!!

    Oooh, you hit a nerve! lol

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    My least favorite part is the grimy customers. Both the women-hating type and the REALLY bad pervs. More specifically, the guy who will say, "You're just a stripper..." and the other guy wearing slinky gym shorts- no underwear.

    This is literally the ONLY reason I will NOT let my younger sisters dance.... more so the creepy dude that comes in trying to get off.... ick.

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    I hate stripping HERE...but in a good market I LOVE it. I LOVE going out of town where the things I put up with here dont exist.I love dancing in Key West for example. I have fun,the staff and most of the girls and I are like family..even the reg customers there are the same way.(theres one old guy that drives a cab there...hes a bit eccentric but hes a sweet guy. I gave him my number at one point..he has NEVER used it but once....after Hurricane Wilma when he knew my area got hit hard he called me to make sure I was ok and to see if I needed him to bring me anything. He would completely have driven 4 hours to bring me stuff if I needed it JUST to be a friend,no ulterior motives)

    So in a good place...I dont like the bruising, the upkeep(its nice to let your leg hair grow and not worry about roots once in awhile!), and the sore feet.

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    Default Re: What DON'T you like about being a stripper

    [quote=PrettyCurlieQ;1455409]-Not knowing if you'll make a grand or a dollar.
    -Being propositioned for OTC (note that I don't have a problem with selling pussy, it's a personal choice, but I don't do it and I HATE it happening ITC)

    Those are key for me. I also hate how many clubs are in Tampa = high competition.

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    Default Re: What DON'T you like about being a stripper

    Adding to the list....And this is a big one....

    FUNNYMONEY. (This only applies to some SCs). It is such a fucked up concept to charge the guy 10-20% of the amount of money he buys, and then to have the fucking nerve to TAKE 10-20% AWAY FROM ME.

    Why not just put a damn ATM in the club, and charge a high fee? Customer spending is GREATLY discouraged when they find out how much they are getting charged on top of the funnymoney they are buying. Some of the time they refuse to have the credit cards run. Thanks a lot, club.

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    Clubs taking money from my dances-that needs to go. I already gave you a ridiculous house fee; now you're going to be a greedy asshole and take MORE? From every dance and room I do? Working in Philadelphia makes me ill for this reason. They take, take, take and then take some more.

    It adds up! If you do 25 dances, which cost the customer $20 each...and you keep the whole $20 from each dance. At the end of the night that's $500. If they take a $5 from each dance, leaving you with only $15...eems like not a big deal, right? Well you do the same amount of work, but at the end of the night you only get $300. That's a $200 difference EVERY NIGHT. Now if you work four nights per week. That's an $800 a week that they steal from you.

    I understand the idea of paying a (REASONABLE) house fee to work in a club. But after that...I am doing all the work; why the hell does the club think they deserve any of MY hard-earned money? Pimps and thieves.

    I also hate house moms and think that clubs should get rid of them. WHY do I give money to a grouchy hag to only sit on her fat ass and yell at me? But I'll leave the rest of that rant for Picaresque, lol.

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    1. Bad for my health, i.e. breathing second hand smoke all day long, exposing myself to dozens of peoples germs by close proximity during lapdances, filthy stages, bathrooms and dressing rooms, the shoes, lack of heating and/or air conditioning...etc.

    2. Stigma. I am not "out" as a dancer to family and to many people. It is stressful. I suppose people at my daughter's daycare assume I go home and paint my toenails all day. And I have bad dreams about my parents finding out.

    3. The management is almost always rotten. I hate feeling like I'm censuring myself or dumbing myself down to get along with people. I cannot believe some of the ineptitude.

    Those are my big 3. The customers don't get to me because long ago I chose to not deal with guys who make me feel icky and the girls are easy to ignore as well. And money...well I'm pretty much in a place where I know that I'll make x amount, so I don't really worry about that either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cutey5032 View Post
    Adding to the list....And this is a big one....

    FUNNYMONEY. (This only applies to some SCs). It is such a fucked up concept to charge the guy 10-20% of the amount of money he buys, and then to have the fucking nerve to TAKE 10-20% AWAY FROM ME.

    Why not just put a damn ATM in the club, and charge a high fee? Customer spending is GREATLY discouraged when they find out how much they are getting charged on top of the funnymoney they are buying. Some of the time they refuse to have the credit cards run. Thanks a lot, club.
    of course, they care only about themselves and how many ways they can take money from you. This is why I decided that I also care only about myself--and if a customer brings up CR, sometimes I convince them to just give me the money instead. I do some regular lap dances, and then he gives me the rest of it and we sit and cuddle in a corner table and drink. And the greedy club gets nothing from him or me. Ha.

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    The instability and wild fluctuation in earnings; which change nightly, seasonally, etc.. Being in LA, the reported worst city/county for dancing, I can never put a projected dollar amount on how much money I will make in a week or on certain nights. The market here is not predictable enough for that, but you CAN predict that it will be an uphill battle pretty much all the way through. Hmph...I need to travel more!
    I don't like men who think I am being coy when I say I won't meet them OTC, thinking I'm too naive to understand what they want from the word go. I know what they want and I know where I draw the line. Not going to fault a guy for asking, as there are dancers who do 'take-out', but if I say 'no'.....I'm not just being cute. Move along.
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    Negativity.


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    Most of the reasons I hated stripping weren't really things that the management had much control over. Things such as:
    1) the societal stigma for stripping, especially from my very strict family that I try so hard to impress
    2) not making enough money for it to be worthwhile, esp on bad days
    3) it's a job that doesn't make me feel like I'm getting much "bang for my buck" outta the college degree I worked so hard to obtain
    4) it's VERY easy to catch colds from strip clubs. During the two winters I danced, I would catch the flu or related infections(earaches, strep throat, etc) VERY frequently. For myself, I've noticed a decrease in sicknesses ever since I stopped dancing.
    5) guys are jerks and they prey upon the girls' insecurities. E.g., the times I was looking for a job after college with no luck, and when I simply admitted to guys that I'd finished college, the damn snobs would flippantly say, "Oh. You went to college and now you're here."
    6) skanky extras girls
    7) some of the late fees are RIDICULOUS!! At Bare Exposure in Atlantic City, NJ, they gave each and every girl a $25 "bathroom fee" as punishment for someone clogging the toilet. Even my friend had to pay this ludaicrous fee, even though she didn't start working there until after the toilet was already clogged! And since when does it cost $2000+ to fix a goddam toilet??!

    Another time at Bare Exposure, I was miscarrying. I went to work as scheduled even though it was really a huge health risk for me to be wearing a tampon and dancing around during a miscarriage. I was doubled over in pain and very VERY obviously not feeling well. I told the housemom and everyone that I was "sick." I stayed up until the end, when they closed the place an hour or two early due to it being so dead. I really shouldn't have been working, esp since it was a holiday weekend and therefore very dead(nobody goes to strip clubs on holidays, they stay with their families instead). So I called out the next two days. I wasn't even scheduled for the Monday holiday...management asked me if I would work it and I'd stupidly agreed, just for the sake of being nice(i.e., a day or so before I started miscarrying). Understandable, right? Then when I went to work the next week, I was hit with a $35 call-out fee for not working the Monday holiday they'd penciled me in for. I had the reaction of "what??" and the manager said, "Don't worry, you're not the only one...all the other girls who didn't show up Monday got a fee too. Oh wait actually you ARE the only one that bothered to call out and had a valid excuse. Tee-hee! Nevermind, I guess you were singled out."


    HOWEVER, here is something that I think management SHOULD do better:

    ** Ban customers that try to molest the girls. This happened to me last week during a dance(at my club, servers + bartenders do dances too sometimes)...first, the pervy guy started telling me to go back to his hotel with him later that night. Then, only 30 sec into the dance, he grabbed my crotch area. I immediately stood up, cursed at him, and said in a demanding voice, "Why the fuck did you do that?? Dance over, gimme my $30." I told the manager and what was his answer?..."Just don't do any more dances with him." WTF?? How about kicking him out, esp since what he did could have potentially gotten the club in trouble with undercover cops?? At the very least, how about going over and telling him the rules of etiquette here??? I told the manager this, and this is how the rest of our convo went:

    Manager -- "Well those are your rules--"
    Me -- "But my rules abide by the LAW!"
    Manager -- "Yes I realize that and you're doing the right thing by abiding the law, but point is, some girls have different rules that might permit that kinda groping. So I can't really go over and tell him he can't do something if other girls might let him do it."
    Me -- "Well, when I was younger I got banned from a few bars for doing much less than what that guy did to me."
    Manager -- "Yes, but this is a strip club, not an ordinary bar." (even though most strip clubs would literally pull the guy up by the shirt collar and THROW him outta the bar in a very explicit, humiliating way for doing what that guy did...trust me I've seen clubs do it before!!)
    Me -- "Yes, it's a strip club...not a WHOREHOUSE!"
    Manager -- (sighs) "Are you gonna stop?? Come on, it's getting old. You did the right thing, okay? Just don't bother with the guy anymore."
    Me -- "Okay so if it's 'allowed' for this guy to grope me and not get chastised, then can I be allowed to be an asshole to him and other jerks? Or can I molest the hot customers back?"
    Manager -- "No you can't. Just walk away from them if they're jerks."

    WTF???

    No wonder I was in a crabby, bitchy mood the rest of the night! I even resorted to cursing out a few customers in foreign languages(so they wouldn't understand what I was saying HAHAHA!) and making snide comments to the ones that were jerks.

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    I hate how a customer can make you feel bad about the way you look.

    I hate having weird hours sometimes.

    I hate that I have to lie about it.

    I hate how my worth seems to be based on how I look.

    Smelly, grabby customers trying to touch you with their grubby hands.

    That I can't do it for the rest of my life.
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    I don't like that customers want to know I REALLY mean what I say, REALLY like them, etc. If I don't convince them, they decide I must "say that to all the customers"...and only saying if for money. Uuuumm, I'm an entertainer, it's supposed to be for play. I wouldn't be doing my job if I didn't make you feel special and liked. If you don't like the set-up, try going to a normal bar and getting it for free (right). I'm an honest person, and I take pride in that, so it really sucks to have insecure guys come in and accuse me of being deceptive. Shouldn't me having a fake name at work give them some clue that my role at work isn't a reflection of ME?

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    Girls that have so little respect for themselves that they're willing to let custies do whatever to them for $25.

    The decline in the quality of entertainers now a days. It's not about how you look or if you can dance, can you grind coc and put $$ in the clubs pocket.

    Having to work twice as hard to compete with girls that will do more.

    That being married is taboo, guys who don't want to get a dance from you if they find out you're married even though they have a wedding ring on!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Susan-Va View Post
    Girls that have so little respect for themselves that they're willing to let custies do whatever to them for $25.

    The decline in the quality of entertainers now a days. It's not about how you look or if you can dance, can you grind coc and put $$ in the clubs pocket.

    Having to work twice as hard to compete with girls that will do more.
    Seconded. Also the guys who try to get a date, and insist that you will date them. I can cope with the johns, but not the 'but I love you' gf wanters.

    And having to give over part of your dance money. Make your own money, club!

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    I hate a majority of the other girls.(okay I don't hate them... I just can't stand them).

    I have the fact the business is so damn small you can't make a move without the entire god damn circuit knowing about it.

    I hate dealing with asshole agents who think they are MY boss. No no fucker I pay YOU therefore YOU work for ME!

    I hate the asshole loser customers who can't keep their mouthes shut.

    I hate the gross DJs hitting on me all the time.

    I hate the fact that the industry is turning into 'how much bang can I get for my buck'.

    I hate the fact that this job has turned me into a bitter catty bitch.

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