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    Girlfriend of mine's husband is filing for divorce. She came over a mess today trying to figure out what to do. Problem is that he makes the bulk of the money and already closed one of their bank accounts. She has no money and no ability to leave (other than to a friends house). I'm thinking she needs to get an attorney asap....what we're wondering now is can you retain a lawyer without money? She bartends now but doesn't really have anything since he closed the bank account.

    Also, does anyone have recommendations for attorneys in Maryland?

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    so they have other accts?

    she needs to get that money ASAP!

    she should got cash a check at amscot, or max out the atm.

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    Can she do this without getting in trouble?

    he closed the joint account after emtying it. he opened a individual account that has some money in it. she can log online and have the money transferred, but since it's in his name can she get in trouble? The savings was joint as well and he's closed that and made it an individual account with his name. advice?

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    I am sure you can find a lawyer that will at least advise her without asking for money up front. I'd ring up a lawyer asap

    As far as transferring money, I would say that the onus is on him to keep his details private, if he gave her the password that's his problem. But I don't know that for sure. I don't think he is going to have much luck pressing charges if she does do it, not when she tells the courts that he gave her his details to use and also that he has cut off her access to all their money. Really he is in the wrong as far as I can see.
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    Oh man. I would have already taken ALL the money from that account. F*ck that! That money is equally theirs and she should keep records of the balance from that account because hes going to need to give her 1/2 anyway + pay allimony since he was the one working.

    Definately seek the advice of council.

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    so can she technically take money from the individual account?

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    Hell I dont know but I would have already done it and asked questions later. In my eyes - he took the money from the joint so f*ck him. The money in the joint belonged to both of them. She should take 1/2 that way to the courts she wont look bad. Shell look like she was taking back money that was wrongfully taken from her. If she wanted to be a total bitch she should take all for payback.

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    oh, he's also claiming adultery....she swears there's nothing more going on than going to the club with friends or giving guy friends rides home. but he claims he's got other people saying they've seen different.

    she called a lawyer and he's gonna have his secretary call her tomorrow since it's already after 5pm here.

    gosh...this really opens my eyes to how scary divorce can be. now i'm really scared to ever get married.

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    Hes gonna need more proof than a couple of HIS friends claiming BS for that to fly. Good luck to them. Sounds like this is going to be messy. Hes doing that - oh Id so clean out his account like, yesterday.

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    Some of the "witnesses" are his friends, i think one or two are old friends of hers that she isn't friends with anymore you're right though....this is getting messy!

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    Yea exactly - Im sure she can find some "witnesses" that say he was cheating too. I highly doubt that would fly. Hes only doing that to make her look bad so he doesnt have to pay alimony or give her 1/2 of everything. She better get a good attorney.

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    ^^ I say fucking pull money out of his account and worry about the consequences l8r if she absolutely has no cash
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    tell her to get an attorney asap. yes, many will take cases with minimal or no deposits (depends on the amount of gold at the end of the rainbow).

    as far as housing goes, the courts will likely favor her (especially since he's the majority earner). HE can find some other place to live but he certainly can't bar her from their home unless she's a danger to him.

    marriage rights swing both ways. and ime, it usually strongly favors her.

    unless he's got her dead-to-rights on the adultery, he's almost automatically in for the rougher ride between the two.

    and frankly, even if he did, i would say the situation's still about par between them given the disparity of earning power and the courts' usual bias toward women (sorry, that's just my pers exp. and prof. opinion on that matter).

    but there's a LOT of issues that will affect the situation (besides the adultery charge). the length of time of the marriage, children (if any), assets, actions taken so far (his actions so far cast a poor light on himself actually), laws of the specific state in question, pre-nups (if any), and DEBTS(!).

    tell your friend to be careful talking with her (soon-to-be-ex) husband. do NOT get suckered into talking too much where her own words might be twisted against her.

    otoh, if there's an honest chance for reconciliation, ok. but even then, insist on counseling with a true 3rd-party, preferably professional.

    tell her to be careful, it's not a marriage anymore. it's war now.

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    as far as I know, she can't get in trouble for taking 1/2 of it, if he's given her access to it. She needs to do it asap, before she no longer has the chance!

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    Ugh that sucks, I'm sorry your friend has to go through this. My best friend went through something similar to this years ago and I remember the piece of advice her lawyer gave her that he claimed was most important.

    Do not leave your house. Ever. The home is just as much hers as it is his and he CAN NOT force her to leave. If he does try to force her out or become violent, she just needs to stay as calm as possible and call 911. When the police get there and she calmly explains her situation they will remove HIM from the home.

    It worked for my friend. After a week of co-existing with her being as pleasant as she could stomach being, he flipped out and threw the remote control at her head which she luckily ducked and it smashed on the wall. When the police got there he was throwing her clothes out the second floor window screaming "Bitch, get out of my house!" while she calmly stood outside and explained the situation to the officers.

    Long story short, he got slapped with a restraining order and couldn't come near his house (or should I say HER house, lol).

    I'd also take the money out of his account. They're married, nothing he has is just his she's entitled to half of EVERYTHING.

    Good luck to her, I hope it all works out.

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    Thanks for the advice! I'll call her in the morning and recommend she take some of the money out, just for safe keeping at this point. She finally went to bed to get some rest....she'd been up all night packing and running off straight adrenaline.

    The crappy thing about the house is they live with his father, so it's his fathers house. he may not be able to kick her out right now but he likely will be able to give her an eviction notice or something.

    They've been together since they were 15, living together (in his dads house) since 17 and have been married for 2 1/2 years...they're 24/25 now. I'm hoping for her sake the length of the relationship prior to marriage goes into consideration in regards to her ability to get on her feet right away.

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    A lot of divorce attorneys will go after the spouse for fees and costs. A lot of divorce attorneys also though try to keep the cases going on and on and on and on so they can rack up the fees though.

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