And your relationships with men for that matter?
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And your relationships with men for that matter?
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It hasn't.
I get very little pleasure from random flirty attention from men outside the club. It bores me stiff. You've gotta have some insane game to get me to so much as break a smirk.
Other than that, not really. I've never had any illusions about masculinity in the Western world and its discontents.
Last edited by Dottie Rebel; 03-21-2008 at 04:57 PM.
When I started dancing for a little while I was a little surprised about how many married men would proposition me. It really hasn't changed my opinion too much on men just reinforced my theory that if they think they won't get caught they will try to do some dirt.
It didn't really change it until I left and became 'public' about the fact I was a stripper. And then EVERYTHING changed. I have to be incredibly circumspect with guys. I have to be really careful. The fact they know you were a stripper changes the way they speak to you, act, regard you, every damn little thing. As soon as they meet you, you can see the question in their eyes: 'Could I take this girl home to mom?', No? OK, then she'll be fun for a little while. She knows the score. She can take it.
Sorry to be depressing but it changes the way they act toward you. Certain guys, it's a get out of jail free card. It sorts out the wheat from the chaff. You have to be wiser and more mature and keep your head about you. You need that anyway if you're an attractive girl, but more so if you stripped and you were honest about it.
Great question btw.
It didn't change the way that I interact with my male friends, but it has made me wary of men that approach me in real life. I guess seeing the drunken, desperate flip side of men hitting on me (i.e., they can be the lewdest creatures) while at work made me wary. I met my current bf on CL, partially because it's hard for me to open up to people IRL immediately.





No change. Every guy is different.





No change at all. I doubt it ever will change.
Women of color:
Shake your ass and preserve your heritage.
Bang those fucking drums.
Do it for the present and future generations.
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Changed for me.
I use them for sex as much as they use us for sex now. I can separate love and lust. I know the difference between being "in lust" with someone and that sort of infatuation... and being "in love".
I also understand how guys actually believe that "sex is just sex" whereas "making love" is totally utterly different. one is a function. the other is an act of love.
I'm also more 'in charge' of my love life. I can appreciate compliments. I'm more confident sexually. I know what I like and don't waste time with people who do not pleasure me...
I realise for the time being I am the one holding the cards (as such).
I went thru a man hating phase however never went back to it. I actually like men.![]()
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It's made me realize that all types of men come into clubs. Before I started I had the assumption that only guys who didn't have a "life" would go into a sc. Now I know that there are plenty of great men that do have very demanding lives. And, great wives etc. It's entetainment. Yes, there are those creeps that do come in too. Couldn't forget about them.![]()
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My view of men has changed. I don't think better or worse of men, on average, but my view of them is much broader. I've seen the drunk, desperate, ugly side and the sweet, generous, respectful-under-all-circumstances side.
I'm from a somewhat traditional background; I was raised to respect (or at least fear) authority, and where I'm from, men=authority, especially men with money. It was very eye-opening to see these "authority figures" debase themselves completely over the merest suggestion of poontang. It was interesting to be in a position where I had what they wanted, where I held the cards.
I now know I am on at least an equal footing with the men I meet out in the real world, no matter how much money, status, or so-called authority they might have. I've seen the humanity in them, and they're just people. This was a very important thing for me to learn.
Edited to add: thinking about this, I have noticed that all of my friends these days are women. When I was younger, at least half my friends were guys. I still like boys just fine, but I guess I'm not very interested in being friends with them right now. Most of the men who've asked to be "friends" with me the last few years have not been talking about any kind of relationship I would be interested in.
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It didn't really change my perspective. It just magnified some of the more negative feelings. I was already very circumspect and suspicious of humans before I started stripping.
Going to an all girl school helped me see the worst of female behavior growing up and working as a stripper helped me see the worst of male behavior. In this society I think those are the two places you see the most messed up behavior of each gender. It's virtually impossible for some one to play me at this point. Many people my age are still very naive when it comes to others.
Last edited by Alia_of_the_Knife; 03-22-2008 at 11:50 AM.
I learned not to waste time trying to "love" a man. It's way better to use them instead.
Yeah, me too. You could be holding a huge stack of cash and have the world's best cock and I will be not at all interested. I feel sad for women who bend over backwards trying to get rich doctors or lawyers as husbands because if they REALLY knew how most of these men are they would run screaming.
I have even less respect for most men (if that were possible) now. I wish that weren't true.





Nothing has changed for me.
Some guys are really nice, some are jerks, some are respectful some aren't.





It really hasn't changed my opinion of men at all. Some are wonderful, sweet and respectful and some are absolute handsy, disrespectful dogs. Same as in the real world, imo.
i don't think it change. i think its where you are. prices have went up and men in some places don't have the money like they use to for us no more. it all goes to gas now lol
After trial by fire, I prefer the company of men......Stripping actually made me more empathetic to them because they would confide things that they wouldn't tell familiars.....I NOW realize men have a different kind of forebearance than women.
I regret my anger against men.
It has made me realize that the majority of men are scumbags that only want to fuck and use as many women as possible for their own entertainment. The only girl they'll "love" and treat well is the girl who is willing to take care of them and be their bitch (but they'll fuck around on her behind her back). Nice guys are the exception to the rule, so when you find one, hold on to them for dear life!!! I'm lucky enough to have a really nice boyfriend, but aside from him I hate most men. I do give every one a fair chance, but as soon as the pig alarm goes off, I'm done.
Hasn't changed; has broadened. I still respect, befriend and love individual men and give men as a whole as much of a chance as I do women. That said, I think I'm more aware of them and how I relate to them, which is good knowledge to have.
I'm not a stripper - Yet !!! But I don't think so.
I already know most men is in to TAPA. Most of'em know how to behave them selves. Some don't ...





I was eighteen when I started in this biz so I can't really say that it has changed my opinion since I didn't have much of one.
However I think I got a different schooling in men VS a woman that isn't in the sex industry. Men tend to talk to us in a different manner than they would to a woman on the outside. They also reveal more to us than women on the outside. They are very candid and to the point. In a SC it is perfectly normal conversation for a man to say "I love your tits and would love to bite your nipples " after having known you for 2 minutes. But I really love my wife. But let's fuck anyway. Outside the club that would be offensive and most men don't talk to women that way in everyday life. Also it has exposed me to more fetishes then I would have ever known about. It has taught me just how deceitful and scandelous they can really be. I don't think I would have learned all the things I know had I not danced.
I guess you could say that because of stripping, I don't trust men. I think that most (not all) are oppertunistic bastards. You know they can also start a lot more drama than I would ever have thought possible.
If you put it into perspective we spend a lot of time with many different men and have to pick their personalities apart to find out what appeals to them.
Let's burn them all at the stake...oh wait, who would tip us then. Nevermind LOL
It caused me to realize HOW LITTLE most men notice compared to women! Those areas we all hate and think men are looking at? It IS really in our heads, because guys could care less if you can put on a good show.
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