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    Gypsy74
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    So my boyfriend and I are living in a studio apartment right now and it sucks. We've fought a lot living here, but I think it's a good thing, because if we can live here, we can live anywhere, and it's given us a good 3 months to iron out all the kinks regarding communication and living together (although we did live together 5 months prior to the studio, we've never been this cramped before, except when we were traveling, but that's different).

    I applied for a house with 2 of my friends, and got accepted. The lease will say that it's just three tenants, me and two of my friends. My boyfriend didn't apply because he has no rental history at all and no proof of income (he's been traveling and working odd jobs/under the table/no bank account his whole life except for a brief period in LA when he was engaged with a real job/house/car but he hated it).. so he didn't apply because we wouldn't have gotten approved if he applied as well.

    The landlord asked me if we had boyfriends, and I told him that I and one of the other girls did, and he asked if they would be living with us and I said NO, which is a lie when it comes to me, a little bit of a lie... My bf lived with his best friend in a condo they shared before he met me, and the condo has been where we've lived together in the times we haven't had a place to live (before we left to travel and when we came back and were looking for a place). So technically, my boyfriend has another place he can always stay at, no matter what, which is why I told the landlord that he wouldn't be living at the house we applied for, because my bf can live at the condo. What defines living anyways?? sleeping?? Because if that's the case, how many nights a week do you have to be staying at a place to consider it living there??

    idk.. i just think it's a little stupid. If I'm paying for the place, my boyfriend should be able to sleep over all the time with no problem, right?? Especially since he's paying half the rent.

    idk. was I wrong in lying to the landlord about my bf's living situation? I feel like it was the only way. If I told him that my bf was going to be living with me he'd have him fill out an application, but then we wouldn't get the place and be stuck in this studio.

    I guess I'm just so sick of this studio I'm doing anything to get out of it. What should i do?? My boyfriend works during the day anyways, and is going to be gone from the morning to the evening, and it's not like the landlord is just going to be dropping by and making sure there's only 3 people in the house??

    What are my rights as a renter?? ugh. i'm confused and worried.

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    I'm assuming this is a real landlord, not an informal arrangement.

    If he/she notices your BF then she/he will probably ask you to add him to the lease - or may even try to evict you. They are required to carry certain amounts of insurance and I think the number of people staying in the apartment affect that. For that and various legal and liability reasons I'm pretty sure they can't be very flexible on that - at least in my state. In my case, it's an apt complex, so the live in manager noticed the new girl coming and going a few years back when my ex had moved in and confronted me about it. I was otherwise a good tenant though and I was living alone in an apartment designed for a max of 3 or 4, so it wasn't a prob; we just put her name on the lease.

    Also I think my complex is a bit more vigilant than some other places might be about it b/c north jersey is expensive and the area has a lot of families who move in as 3 or 4 people on paper but really then uncles or extra kids or whoever also wind up living there.

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    i'm thinking we'lll just lay low in regards to my bf being there a lot and then a couple months in wwhen we've proved we're good responsible tenants, i'll ask for him to be put on the lease.

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    You may be able to add him to the lease as a dependent, when you do so later.
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    If you have 3 people that qualitfy there should be no problem with just one that might not. You could sign something that you are responsible for the rent.

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    true.. I asked my friend who is a real estate agent and he said the same thing, as long as the lease doesn't say anything along the lines of "only these three people will sleep every night in this house" (which it wouldn't). legally... I can have him live with me as long as I want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gypsy74 View Post
    i'm thinking we'lll just lay low in regards to my bf being there a lot and then a couple months in wwhen we've proved we're good responsible tenants, i'll ask for him to be put on the lease.
    Sounds like the best bet, if the landlord inquires as to his presence before that - just say he's been staying over for a bit. I don't know what renting is like there, but in melbourne (aust) at the moment you lie through your teeth, bribe, whatever it takes to get a place. Hope it's easier over there!

    I've just been told my house is up for sale, so am jumping back into it, yukkkk!!!
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